7 tiny behaviors that attract only the best people to you

There’s a subtle art to attracting the best people into your life. It’s not about grand gestures or extravagant displays, but rather tiny behaviors that speak volumes.

Think of it like this: you’re not tricking anyone into liking you, you’re simply showing them your best self. And when you do that, you naturally attract the best kind of people – ones who value authenticity and kindness.

These tiny behaviors are all about revealing your true character in small but significant ways. And trust me, the best people can spot these tiny details and they’ll be drawn to you like bees to honey.

Now, as someone who has been studying relationships for years, I’ve identified 7 key behaviors that are sure to attract only the best people to you. And I’m excited to share these with you.

So, ready to dive in? Let’s get started!

1) Authenticity shines

There’s a simple truth in attracting the best people to you – authenticity is key.

In our world, we’re often encouraged to conform, to fit in, to be just like everyone else. But the best people are usually those who are unapologetically themselves.

Being authentic doesn’t mean being perfect. It’s about acknowledging your flaws and owning them. It’s about standing up for what you believe in, even if it’s not the popular opinion.

People are drawn to authenticity because it’s rare and because it’s real. They gravitate towards those who aren’t afraid to be themselves, who show their true colors, even when it might be easier to blend in.

2) Embrace vulnerability

Now, this might sound counterintuitive. After all, we’re often told to shield our weaknesses, to put up a brave front. But trust me on this – vulnerability is attractive.

Vulnerability is about letting your guard down, about showing people that you’re human just like them.

It’s not about being weak or needy. It’s about embracing your emotions and showing that you’re open to connect on a deeper level.

When you show vulnerability, you invite others to do the same. You create a safe space where they can be themselves without the fear of judgment or rejection.

3) Practice active listening

This may seem like a basic piece of advice, but it’s truly surprising how many of us forget to really listen when someone else is speaking.

Active listening isn’t just about hearing the words that someone is saying, but really understanding and engaging with their thoughts and feelings.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss how the practice of active listening can transform relationships.

It creates a connection that goes deeper than surface level, because it shows the other person that you truly value what they have to say.

Remember, the best people appreciate and are drawn towards those who can genuinely listen and engage with them on a deeper level.

And this practice of active listening is a powerful way of demonstrating that you’re one of those people.

4) Show kindness in small ways

Kindness is like a magnet. It draws people towards you, especially the best kind of people who appreciate and value this trait.

And the beautiful thing about kindness is that it doesn’t have to be grand or extravagant. Sometimes, the smallest gestures can have the biggest impact.

I’ll never forget a quote from Mother Teresa: “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” This has always resonated with me. It’s not about the size of the gesture, but the love and sincerity behind it.

Whether it’s offering a comforting word, lending a helping hand, or even just giving a warm smile – these tiny acts of kindness can often mean a lot more than we realize.

5) Respect boundaries

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Respecting boundaries is a simple yet powerful behavior that attracts the best people to you. It shows that you value their personal space and their individuality, and that you’re not trying to impose your will on them.

In my own life, I’ve found that the most rewarding relationships are those where both parties respect each other’s boundaries. It creates a sense of trust and understanding that forms a strong foundation for any relationship.

Whether it’s respecting their time, their decisions, or even their differing opinions – showing that you acknowledge and respect their boundaries can be incredibly attractive.

Remember, the best people appreciate those who respect them as individuals. And by respecting their boundaries, you’re showing them that you’re someone who truly values their individuality.

6) Be optimistic

There’s something incredibly attractive about optimism. It’s like a beacon of light that draws people in. An optimist sees the best in people, expects good outcomes and spreads positive energy around them.

One of my favorite quotes is from Helen Keller who said, “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”

This has always resonated with me and I try to spread this positivity in every interaction.

Truth is, your mindset can affect the people around you. By being an optimist, you not only uplift your own spirit but also create a positive atmosphere that the best people are attracted to.

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7) Admit when you’re wrong

Let’s talk about something that’s not always easy but incredibly important: owning up to your mistakes.  

We all mess up from time to time—it’s part of being human. But what sets the best folks apart is their willingness to admit when they’re wrong, learn from it, and strive to be better.

When you own your mistakes, you’re saying, “Hey, I value truth more than my pride.” It’s a sign of integrity and strength of character.

And you know what? The best people out there recognize and appreciate this kind of authenticity. They’re drawn to those who can own their faults and use them as stepping stones for growth.

The power of tiny behaviors

Let’s not underestimate the power of the little things we’ve discussed. 

They might seem minor, but they pack a punch in shaping our relationships and the kind of company we keep.

These behaviors aren’t just surface-level; they run deep in our daily interactions, molding how we’re seen and how we show up.

At the heart of it all is a simple truth: authenticity, honesty, and kindness can’t be faked. The folks we cherish most are the ones who recognize and cherish these genuine traits.

To delve deeper into this topic, I’d like to share a video by Justin Brown. In it, he explores the complexities of finding a life partner and reflects on his personal experiences.

The insights he shares align beautifully with the behaviors we’ve discussed in this article.

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Remember, attracting the best people isn’t about grand gestures or playing games. It’s about being authentic, being kind, respecting boundaries, and showing that you genuinely care.

With these tiny behaviors, not only will you attract the best people to you, but you’ll also be becoming the best version of yourself.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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