8 things you don’t realize you’re doing that make other people ignore you

Ever feel like your words aren’t heard, and it seems like you’re alone in the room, but in reality, you’re not? Do people give you the silent treatment or skip you in conversations? 

Look, we all know having good relationships makes life happier, and no one likes to be ignored. 

So, could there be some habits on your end that make people hit the mute button on you? 

Now, before we dive in, remember – this is just to help you get a handle on things, not to throw shade at anyone.

So, let’s unpack why people might be tuning you out and what you can do about it.

1) Your everyday stories turn into a saga

I think you’re one of those people who can’t keep it short. Your quick updates turn into an elaborate saga with their own plots and character development.

We’re all like that sometimes, especially when the story is too good to be true.

But if your chats with friends and people around you about everyday life turn into very detailed stories about breakfast, your neighbors, and the color of the sky…

Well, that might be a reason people hit the ignore button on you.

Next time, just try the short story version!

2) You’re glued to your phone 

People who can’t put their phones down during hangouts might get tagged as neglectful and not interested in what others have to say. 

Frankly, being glued to your phone sends very uncomfortable and unwelcoming vibes to others. 

To make sure you’re not the unintentional phone zombie in the room, try leaving your precious device in your pocket or bag while having a chat.

By giving your full attention to the human in front of you, you show them some major respect and interest. 

And guess what? That move can seriously spice up the flavor of your communication and create new friendships or make existing ones stronger. 

3) You interrupt too much 

I sometimes get so excited about sharing my experience with people around me that I can’t wait my turn to speak. It was unintentional for a long time until I realized I was doing it, but I started to work on it. 

Here’s the deal – interrupting people can seriously mess things up for you, especially in the business world.  

Success in this game depends on building positive connections with potential customers, friends, and other people around you. 

You’ve got to earn people’s trust and respect. And that means that sometimes, you just have to let people talk because if you’re constantly talking over others or cutting them off, they might start ignoring you. 

Remember that others have something to say, too, so try to let them finish their sentences every now and then.

Plus, why not take a pause for a few seconds or put a few reminders around that you have to do it. If you keep doing it anyway, try to apologize. That’s what usually helps me. 

4) You don’t listen

If you’re feeling you’re doing most of the talking, that’s because you are.  Not only are you interrupting, but you’re also likely not listening. 

That could be the reason people are hitting the ignore button on you. 

Honesty, no one likes the person who monopolizes every conversation. If you constantly chat about yourself and don’t listen to what others have to say, well, you might get the silence treatment.

You know, relationships are like a conversational dance – a bit of give and take. If you want folks to listen when you talk, you’ve got to lend an ear, too.

5) You’re overdoing it on Instagram

Every moment is an Instagram moment today, right? Well, not really, and definitely not for everyone. 

I understand people live online today, and the world is changing, but sometimes, and for some people, it can be a bit too much. 

Just imagine you’re out with friends, having a great time at a coffee shop. You snap a pic of your latte art, your pastry, and the cozy vibe, and then you post it on Instagram. 

Well, nothing wrong with it. 

But if this turns into posting every sip and bite, including people around you, then it’s a big no.

When you’re with your friends, family, or at work, try to put more attention on actually being present, catching meaningful moments, and keeping them for yourself. 

It’s not that people don’t care about your coffee adventures, but too much of it in their feed can become overwhelming. And not just for people around you, but for your followers too.

Try to find that sweet spot between sharing your moments and bombarding others. 

6) You’re negative, and you criticize too much

if someone displays these traits theyre really draining to be around 8 things you don’t realize you’re doing that make other people ignore you

Imagine you’re at a party, and there’s this one person who always has something pessimistic or critical to say. It’s not a great feeling, and you can never relax next to a person like that.

Some people love drama; everything they do isn’t enough, and the whole world is against them. 

The truth is that being consistently negative and too critical can push people away, and guess what? Everyone has problems. 

It doesn’t mean yours should be ignored, but others just don’t have the energy to deal with yours all the time.

If you’re the person who always has something negative to say, who thinks the world is against you, your job isn’t that great, or someone else has it better, try to put some positive spin on it. 

If you wonder how your neighbors could afford that car and why other companies aren’t contacting or fighting for you, guess what? The answer lies in you, not others. 

You’re not happy with yourself, and others just react to what you display. Positivity attracts positive vibes and negativity, well, negative ones. 

The key is finding a balance – expressing your opinions is great, but only if you do it constructively and positively, without negativity and criticism. 

This will make others appreciate you more, and you will become approachable. Think about that for a moment. 

7) You’re too needy

I think we all know a person who’s always super needy. Some of us got used to it as if they were our childhood friend or a family member, and it’s just the way they are. 

But not everyone was keen on them, so few friendships and relationships were lost. Being too needy means you’re a person who constantly seeks attention and validation. 

In my experience, needy people are scared of being alone, always text too much, and depend on other people’s compliments because that’s what makes them worthy.

And the truth is they are worthy; they just need to dial it down a notch. 

If you’re a needy person, know that people are probably overwhelmed and drained by your constant need for their time, and that’s okay. 

Just give them some space and try to cut down on texting them that much, and you just might hear from them again. 

8) You’re always in the rush

Frankly, I cut out people from my life who didn’t have time for my family or me. 

Maybe that sounds a bit harsh, but I’m not a needy person, and I also have a lot of work to do. I always try to make time for people who matter or who are trying to say something that matters. 

Even if that’s a 5-minute catch-up talk over the phone.

If you’re a person who seems to be in a hurry, constantly checking the time, rushing through conversations, and never seems to have a moment to spare, then some people will start to ignore you. 

That can be people from work or from your personal life. It’s just the way it is.

We’re all busy, and pressure and deadlines take a toll on us, but stopping for a moment, taking a breather, and concentrating on other people when they’re trying to share something with us is important. 

Being more present is the way to go.

Final thoughts

Some folks go through life and social situations with ease, and others struggle to navigate work, friendship, and family relationships. 

It stings a bit when people treat you like you’re not there, and it’s OK to be upset about it. And you should be. We all crave to be accepted, and we want to fit somewhere. I do, too. 

Now, if you’re nodding along to the 8 reasons why other people ignore you, fear not!

You can work on it. We all can. Just a few different switches in our everyday behaviors can open new relationships and bring back the old ones. 

We should all aim to become better versions of ourselves

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Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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