Nato Lagidze
If you are like most people, you don’t say anything to yourself in the mirror. But, that doesn’t mean you’re not thinking about things.
When we go about our day without telling ourselves what’s important to us, we end up feeling worthless and overwhelmed.
You hate this feeling, right?
Now stop right there and take a look at 40 things that I tell myself every day in the mirror.
Sounds silly? It’s not because it will help guide your day and make you feel more confident about achieving your goals!
40 things to tell yourself in the mirror
1) “I am a good person”
Yes, you have done bad things in your life. We all have. But that doesn’t make you a person.
Think I’m exaggerating?
Actually, that’s the truth. You’re a better person than you think you are. And you need to convince yourself of it!
2) “I am beautiful”
You are not perfect, but you are beautiful.
You may not believe it, but you can be anything you want to be. And thus, if you believe you’re beautiful, you’ll naturally be more attractive to others.
You have been given the gift of life, and it’s up to you to make use of it.
Sounds impressive, right?
3) “I am a good friend”
You have friends because you are a good person.
You have enemies because you have done bad things in your life.
And you know what? That’s just life.
You are a good person, and you should be proud of it! Praise yourself for being a good friend. That’s what I do, and I’m sure others will follow suit. It’s up to you to start doing it!
4) “I am an independent person”
You are an independent person. You don’t need anyone else to make your life better.
You’re a strong person, and you can do everything on your own. If you want to go out with friends, don’t let others tell you what to do. They can be a bit controlling at times, but you know what?
It’s up to you what you do in your life! If they want to be in control, then they will have to prove that they are the best people for the job!
5) “I am smart”
Yes, I know you’re not as smart as you think you are.
But if that’s what you’re telling yourself in the mirror, then it’s going to be hard for you to achieve your goals in life because it’s only a dream that will never come true.
So again, you are smart. You are a genius.
You can do anything that you put your mind to. The only thing that is holding you back is yourself; you’re only worried about what other people think.
Stop being so concerned about what other people think and start being happy with who you are! And then, see how much happier your life becomes!
6) “I am valuable”
You are so much more than what you think you are. You are valuable and loved! And that’s a blessing.
But guess what?
You need to remind yourself of this fact every single day.
So, stop right there and repeat that you are valuable. You are a precious gem, and you should be proud of that.
You have the ability to do so much for the world and for people.
But no matter how much you achieve, you can’t buy your value. You can’t buy your worth.
It’s up to you to give others credit for their talents and abilities, not for their looks, money, or anything else!
7) “I am strong”
You are strong. And sometimes, that makes you feel like a piece of meat with no brain at all!
But deep down, you know what I’m saying is true. Actually, it’s because of this strength that we are able to do so many things that we love to do.
You are strong, and you can do anything on your own. You are an independent person. You don’t need anyone else to make your life better.
So, again, stop right there and repeat this fact in the mirror every morning! And every night before you go to bed! It will change your life!
8) “I am confident”
You are confident. You have a lot of confidence.
But you need to keep reminding yourself of that fact every single day because it’s so easy to lose all those good qualities.
Confidence is a real thing! Yes, it comes and goes throughout your life, but you can always get it back!
So again, stop right there and repeat that fact in the mirror every morning! And every night before you go to bed! It will change your life!
9) “I am unique”
You are unique. There is no one else exactly like you in the entire world.
You have a certain style and personality that not many people possess, and it’s a beautiful thing. You’re special and valuable for who you are instead of what you have or do not have! And that’s a blessing.
Yes, there will always be someone who is better than you at something or someone who has more money than you do! But this doesn’t mean that you are not valuable.
10) “I am a good person”
You are a good person. You have great qualities and talents that you can use to make the world better.
You are a caring and compassionate person who wants to help others as much as possible. You are an honest person who tells it like it is. The list goes on, but I’m sure you get the point!
11) “I am a strong person”
You are a strong person. You can do anything on your own.
Yes, you may sometimes feel weak and helpless at times, but you know what? You don’t have to feel like that!
Admit it to yourself and to the Universe: You are a strong person!
12) “I deserve to be happy”
You know what I’m tired of hearing? People tell me that I don’t deserve to be happy.
I know that you may not believe this, but I know what I am saying is true.
So tell yourself:
- I deserve to be happy and have a great life.
- I deserve to be successful and have tons of money.
- I deserve to be healthy and have no health problems!
- And most importantly, I deserve to live the life I want and not let anyone stop me from having it!
13) “I make the right choices”
Ever noticed how people give you advice about how to make better choices, but they don’t do the same for themselves?
If you want to be happy, why not make the choice to do so?
Yes, sometimes it’s easier to blame others for your problems and mistakes, but I’m telling you right now that it’s not a good idea. It will only bring you more pain and suffering.
Still not convinced?
Take a look at some specific signs from the universe that you’re on the right path.
14) “I have a purpose”
You have a purpose in life. Have you ever wondered what it is? Have you ever asked yourself that question?
Have you ever wondered what your purpose is in life? Have you ever thought about this before? If so, then great! You are already on the right track!
You have a purpose in life and that purpose is to be happy!
15) “I deserve to be successful”
You deserve to be successful. You are a special person and you can achieve great things in your life.
You may not believe this, but I know what I am saying is true.
I know that you want to be happy, but you don’t do anything about it. You don’t take action and make the necessary changes to achieve that goal. So why not? What are you waiting for? Just do it!
16) “I deserve to be healthy”
You know what? You deserve to be healthy.
You are a special person who deserves to live a long, happy and healthy life.
Yes, you may sometimes feel weak and helpless at times, but you know what? You don’t have to feel like that! Admit it to yourself and the Universe: You are a strong person!
17) “My friends love me”
Think about this for a moment.
Your friends love you. They care about you and want the best for you.
They want to see you happy and successful, so why don’t they do something about it?
Stop giving your friends credit for having a good relationship with you. Stop giving your friends credit for having your best interests at heart. Stop giving your friends credit for being there for you when you need them most.
If they love you, then they will do something about it! If they care about your happiness, then they will do something about it! If they want to see you succeed, then they will do something about it!
18) “I deserve a good life”
You deserve a good life. You are a special person and you can achieve great things in your life.
Believe it or not, that’s the fact.
I know that you want to be happy, but you don’t do anything about it. You don’t take action and make the necessary changes to achieve that goal.
So why not? What are you waiting for? Just do it!
19) “Everything will work out”
It won’t work out if you expect it to!
The Universe doesn’t work that way! If you expect something to happen then it won’t happen because, at some point in time, the Universe will take away the expectation.
If you are expecting something to happen, it won’t.
You can’t expect something to happen and then be upset when it doesn’t.
Let’s say I expect that all of my dreams will come true, but they don’t. When I expect something to happen, the Universe takes away my expectation because, at some point in time, you need to conquer others’ expectations and live your own life.
If I don’t have an expectation and I am not upset when things don’t work out as planned, then things will work out for me!
20) “My family loves me”
Yes, it’s true!
Your family loves you. They care about you and they want the best for you.
They want you to be happy and successful, but sometimes you find it hard to believe. But that’s reality.
The thing is, you don’t have to believe them. The thing is, you don’t have to accept it. The thing is, you don’t have to agree with it.
You can still be upset about it and not accept it. But if you accept the reality of your family and your situation, then you will be able to move on and find happiness elsewhere.
21) “I’m good enough”
Want to know a secret?
Everyone has their own level of greatness and that’s what makes us all different!
We all have our similarities and we all have our differences because we are all unique individuals with our own gifts and abilities that make us different from each other
You are good enough. You are perfect just the way you are.
22) “My body is healthy and beautiful”
Yes, your body is healthy and beautiful.
And you don’t have to worry about changing it!
You can change your mind and you can change your opinions about yourself. But you can never change your body.
Your body is perfect just the way it is.
23) “I love myself”
Do you want to know what is the key to happiness?
Do you want to know the secret to achieving your goals? Do you want to know how you can heal your past mistakes?
The secret is simple:
Don’t change who you are. Just love yourself!
You can change how you feel and how you react, but don’t ever change who you are.
24) “I’m proud of myself”
Who said pride isn’t a positive thing?
If you’re proud of yourself congratulations because you should be!
Look at all the things that you have done. Look at all the things that you have achieved.
You are a great person and it’s okay to be proud of yourself.
25) “I want to feel good”
Here’s the secret: happiness isn’t a process. Neither it’s the destination but it’s your own choice.
Feeling good is a choice that you make.
Fact: if you decide that you want to be happy, you will eventually!
26) “I’m ready for the next chapter”
When you’re ready to take the next step in your life, then you’re ready for it.
You don’t have to be ready for the next chapter. You don’t have to be ready for the next thing.
But if you are, then good luck!
27) “I know I can do it”
You can do it.
You can do anything that you want to do.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t or shouldn’t do something.
Be who you want to be and go for it!
28) “I’m grateful for what I have”
You are here today because of the hard work and dedication of all your family members.
Your parents, your siblings, your cousins, your grandparents, and everyone else who helped you get where you are today is why you’re here. So don’t take their sacrifices for granted.
Be thankful for everything they have done for you because, without them, there would be no one to help guide and support you along the way.
29) “Only I can control myself”
You have the power to decide how you feel and what you think.
Only you can control yourself. You and no one else!
And guess what?
You know what you can do and what you can’t do. You’re in complete charge of your life!
30) “I respect myself”
Admit it.
You don’t respect yourself.
You don’t respect yourself because you’re not happy with yourself.
You’re not happy with who you are, so you have to change that. Why?
Because self-respect is the first step to self-improvement.
31) “Things are going to get better”
The best thing about life is that it’s never perfect.
And even though things are not always going to be perfect, you can always choose how you react to them.
You can choose how you react to everything that happens and everything that doesn’t happen.
32) “I believe in myself”
You think this world is a place where only the strong survive?
It’s not. It’s one where the strong do anything they want. You can do anything you put your mind to.
If there’s something that you want, it’s up to you to make it happen. It’s up to you!
33) “I’m free”
You’re free to do anything you want to do.
You’re free to go anywhere you want to go. You’re free to be anyone you want to be.
Free is a big word, but it’s one that’s very true in this world and it goes for everyone in different ways.
34) “I have the power”
You have the power over your life.
No one else has control over your life except for yourself, but that doesn’t mean you can’t learn from other people’s experiences and their mistakes and how they handled them so that you can make better decisions in the future.
35) “I’m ready for new challenges”
You have to be ready for new challenges. And also, you have to remind yourself every day.
Because guess what?
Whether you’re ready for them or not, they’ll come. But if you don’t know what to do with them when they come, that’s okay too.
… Because there are other things in life that are better than challenges anyway.
36) “I won’t give up”
Why should you give up?
It’s your life! You only get one. So you have to do what you want to do with it.
That’s the choice that you have.
You can’t give up because then you won’t be able to see the positive things about your life.
37) “I’m going to succeed”
You can’t stop trying.
If you stop, you’re not giving it your all. You’re not giving it your all.
You have to keep trying, even when things don’t go your way.
38) “I’m going to work hard”
If you don’t work hard, you won’t be able to succeed in anything.
You have to work hard because the only way for you to succeed is for you to put in the effort and the time that’s needed for it.
39) “I’m going to try my best”
The only way that you can succeed is by trying your hardest.
If you don’t, then you’re not giving it your all.
You have to give it all because if not, then you’re just setting yourself up to fail.
40) “I’m going to learn from my mistakes and make better decisions in the future”
If you make the same mistake twice, it’s okay.
You learn from them and make better decisions in the future.
That’s how you’re going to succeed, by learning from your mistakes and making better decisions in the future.
Final Words
Are you going to say all these things to yourself in the mirror every day?
I hope you do.
Even though it’s hard to believe that the person looking back at you in the mirror is the same person who has felt so inadequate for so long.
I know it can be hard to see when you look in the mirror every day, but if you repeat these affirmations every day before time passes by and your self-esteem is gone again and you feel like you don’t deserve any better, then maybe this will help with some of those feelings.
