8 things a strong woman will never tolerate in a relationship

Every girl dreams of growing up to be a tough woman – someone who doesn’t give up and is full of passion.

She wants to chase her dreams without fear and doesn’t give up easily.

She brings this same never-back-down attitude into her love life too.

When she loves, she goes all in, but only for someone who’s worth her effort.

But, she never forgets what’s important in a relationship.

She wants a partner who’ll stick with her through good and bad times. Someone who brings happiness and safety, and inspires her to grow.

Settling for less? That’s not her thing.

So if you’re a strong woman, or working to become one, you need to know the things you should never put up with in a relationship.

1. Disrespect

At the heart of every relationship, respect is the cornerstone. This rings particularly true for a strong woman.

She values her self-worth, appreciates her individuality, and expects the same in return from her partner.

Disrespect can take many forms; it could be verbal belittling, mocking her ambitions, or constantly disregarding her opinions.

A strong woman will not stand for any of these.

She recognizes that respect is the foundation for trust, understanding, and love in a relationship.

It’s not just about having her personal views respected; it’s also about mutual respect between partners, including respecting each other’s personal space, time, and differences.

She understands that occasional disagreements are part and parcel of any relationship, but she knows the difference between a healthy debate and an outright disrespect.

If her partner consistently disrespects her—she won’t tolerate it.

She’s strong enough to voice her concerns, stand up for herself, and if necessary, walk away.

2. Control and Manipulation

In relationships, there should always be a balance of power.

But sometimes, one partner might try to tip the scale in their favor by controlling or manipulating the other.

This is something a strong woman will never put up with.

She values her freedom to make her own choices, from the little daily decisions like what to wear or what to eat, all the way up to the big life-changing choices.

A strong woman doesn’t want to be controlled by someone else.

Think about a woman who is focused on her career but also loves painting.

Imagine her partner doesn’t support her art, telling her it’s a waste of time. He even tries to control her by saying things like, “If you really loved me, you’d spend that time with me.”

But a strong woman doesn’t tolerate this. She knows it’s not about choosing between her passions and her partner. It’s about finding balance.

She won’t let her partner control her decisions or play with her feelings.

In a relationship, no one should give up their freedom or independence.

A strong woman understands this and won’t put up with anyone who tries to take it away.

3. Emotional Unavailability

A strong woman won’t tolerate emotional unavailability in a relationship.

Relationships are about connection, sharing emotions, being there for each other in times of joy, and more importantly, in times of distress.

Now, we’re not saying that everyone should be open books from the word go. It’s perfectly normal to take time to open up emotionally, and everyone has a different pace.

But in a relationship where one partner consistently walls off their emotions, never letting the other in, there’s a problem.

A strong woman isn’t looking for a project to fix. She’s looking for a partner. If her partner shuts her out, refuses to discuss their feelings, or is consistently indifferent, it’s a deal-breaker.

It’s emotionally draining to be with someone who won’t meet her halfway in sharing emotional intimacy.

To her, being emotionally available doesn’t mean always being happy and open. It means being honest about feelings, even when they’re difficult.

It means being willing to share, to be vulnerable, and to offer emotional support. And she won’t settle for anything less.

4. Neglect and Lack of Effort

When it comes to relationships, one thing a strong woman will absolutely not tolerate is being neglected or a partner who doesn’t put in any effort.

Relationships are a two-way street; they require work, dedication, and effort from both parties involved.

Whether it’s remembering important dates, spending quality time together, or simply doing small things to show affection, she appreciates a partner who is actively engaged in maintaining and enhancing their relationship.

A strong woman is not needy, but she does understand the need for a reciprocal effort in a relationship.

She knows that she’s worth the effort and won’t settle for a relationship where she’s constantly giving, and receiving little to nothing in return.

She won’t tolerate being ignored, being pushed to the sidelines, or being the only one putting effort into the relationship.

A strong woman wants a partner who values her, who cherishes the relationship they share, and is willing to put in the time and effort it deserves. Anything less is simply unacceptable.

5. Dishonesty and Deceit

Trust is like the glue that holds a relationship together. And there’s no place for dishonesty and deceit in a world where trust is king.

A strong woman will not tolerate lies, whether they’re white lies, half-truths, or full-blown deception.

While it’s human nature to sometimes tell a little fib to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, consistent dishonesty is a whole different story.

Dishonesty erodes trust, the very foundation on which strong relationships are built. And rebuilding trust once it’s broken is far from easy.

A strong woman values honesty, transparency, and integrity. She understands that truthfulness, even when it’s hard, is the key to a healthy and lasting relationship.

She won’t entertain a partner who resorts to lies or deceit, as she realizes that trust, once lost, is hard to regain.

6. Constant Agreement

Now, this may seem counterintuitive. After all, isn’t agreement a good thing in a relationship? Shouldn’t we aim for harmony and avoid conflict? Well, yes, to a point.

But constant, unyielding agreement? That’s something a strong woman won’t stand for.

Relationships are about growth, and growth often comes from healthy debate, discussions, and sometimes, disagreement.

If her partner agrees with everything she says, does, or believes, without ever expressing a different viewpoint, it can be stifling.

She doesn’t want a yes-man. She wants a partner—a unique individual with their own thoughts, opinions, and values.

Agreeing all the time could mean that her partner is withholding their true feelings just to avoid conflict, or worse, they’re just mirroring her without contributing anything of their own to the relationship.

A strong woman values honest and open communication. She appreciates when her partner expresses their opinions, even when they differ from her own.

She’s secure enough in herself to handle disagreement and uses it as an opportunity to learn and grow together.

So, paradoxical as it may sound, she won’t tolerate a partner who agrees with her all the time.

7. Loss of Personal Identity

In a relationship, it’s beautiful to share interests, activities, and even adopt some of each other’s habits. It’s part of becoming a team.

But a strong woman knows that a relationship isn’t about losing herself in the process.

A strong woman knows the importance of maintaining her individuality, her passions, and her lifestyle.

She understands that she can be part of a couple and still retain her individual identity. She would never tolerate losing herself for the sake of a relationship.

She wants her partner to love her for who she is, not for who they want her to be.

8. Emotional or Physical Abuse

Last on this list, but most certainly not least, is abuse, be it emotional or physical. A strong woman will not, under any circumstances, tolerate abuse.

The raw, honest truth is that no one should ever tolerate abuse in a relationship. No love, no matter how deep, no connection, no matter how intense, justifies abusive behavior.

Abuse isn’t always physical; it’s often emotional and psychological. It could be constant belittling, intimidation, manipulation, or controlling behavior.

A strong woman knows that these are not expressions of love. They are signs of an unhealthy, toxic relationship.

She knows her worth, and she knows that she deserves to be treated with respect, kindness, and love. If a relationship turns abusive, she is brave enough to walk away.

She would rather be single and happy than in a relationship where her well-being is at risk.

She understands that standing up against abuse isn’t just about her, but it’s also about setting a precedent for other women who might find themselves in similar situations.

Abuse, in any form, should never be tolerated. It’s not a sign of love; it’s a sign of control and fear.

A strong woman knows this, and she refuses to accept it in her relationship.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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