21 things naturally confident people do without even realizing it

Do you walk tall, speak clearly, and are comfortable in virtually every situation? If the answer is yes, consider yourself confident. 

Even though confidence can be mastered, some people are lucky enough to be born with it. Naturally confident people embody special qualities they might not even realize… 

1) They speak clearly and calmly

Confident people don’t utter or mutter. They make statements with conviction. They are sure of themselves.

In addition, they have a natural, relaxed nature when they speak. They’re not overly excited or monotone. 

If you’re overly excited, the enthusiasm won’t sound genuine. 

2) They maintain good posture

Confident people typically stand tall and straight. They don’t slouch down or fidget either. They are as poised as they are sure of themselves. 

3) They speak up for themselves

People with healthy self-esteem are able to express their opinions and wants with little effort. If they don’t like something, they have no issue saying it. If they want something, they assert themselves and ask for it. 

4) They speak up for others

In addition to speaking up for themselves, confident people take no issue speaking up for you. 

If they notice that you’re uncomfortable about something, they will step in. If they know you want something but are too afraid to ask, they’ll be your voice. 

5) They don’t seek attention

While you might assume that confident people try to always be in the spotlight, that’s actually not the case. 

Confident people don’t try hard to seek attention. Even though their confidence might make them the center of attention, it’s not on purpose. It just happens because they’re magnetic. 

6) They are comfortable no matter where they are

Confident people aren’t just comfortable on the outside, they are sure of themselves on the inside

Whether they’re in a crowded room or completely alone at home, they are content. They don’t need to convince themselves to feel okay. They just are that way.

You can find a confident person buzzing around in a party engaging in conversations with people. And when they’re alone, they can be totally fine, sitting with their thoughts. 

7) They’re not afraid to make mistakes

No one is perfect. Confident people make mistakes too. But the difference is, when a confident person makes mistakes, they are able to quickly move on and not care too much. 

Insecure people will beat themselves up over their mistakes. They will apologize profusely about something they did. 

For the confident person, a mistake doesn’t impact their whole being. They know who they are. They know the mistake does not change that. 

8) They don’t aim to please or impress others

Confident people are not typically people-pleasers. They don’t care to impress other people with grandiose tales. They don’t feel the need to share their positive qualities. 

They know actions speak louder than words. 

9) They don’t hesitate

If you played a game of “this or that” with someone, the confident person will likely make a selection without much self-doubt

On the opposite side of the spectrum, the insecure person might second-guess their decision, or even change their mind. 

10) They aren’t followers 

Confident people might go against the grain if they truly don’t agree. They march to the beat of their own drum, and don’t try to fit in.

Instead of doing what other people are doing, they do their own thing.

11) They lead

Like total bosses, confident people lead instead of follow.

You can find them directing others. They are natural-born leaders who are confident by nature. 

These individuals will end up being really good at influencing a group of people. They’ll use their leadership skills and confidence to motivate people around them.

12) They compliment people with sincerity

Afraid to pay someone a compliment? You’re probably insecure. 

If you are truly a confident being, you can spread the love and admiration, as well as receive it. You know that shining a light on someone doesn’t dim your light in the slightest. 

13) They aren’t afraid to try new things

Experimenters by nature, confident people are able to take risks. They know that even if things don’t go well, it doesn’t ultimately change who they are. They are still the same, awesome person.

14) They don’t talk about themselves

Confident people don’t feel the need to draw attention to themselves, so they don’t brag. They tend to not talk about what they’re good at. They don’t boast about what they did. 

15) They are okay going places alone 

Insecure people always need “buddies.” They can’t go many places alone. 

Confident people can go anywhere alone and feel perfectly comfortable. This would include traveling to another country alone. If you exude confidence, you know you’ll find your way on your own just fine.

If you’re secure in who you are, you know you’ll be able to make friends no matter where you go. 

16) They are charming without even trying

If you’re trying really hard to be liked, that means you’re probably insecure.

If you are truly confident, you wouldn’t have to even be conscious of your charm. It’s just a part of who you are, and that’s just how you act.

Your charm makes you magnetic and people gravitate towards you. 

17) They don’t compare themselves to others

Insecure people usually fall into the trap of the “comparison monster.” 

Confident people don’t feel the need to compare themselves to others. They know that their journey is their own and has nothing to do with what is happening to people around them. 

When you’re around a confident person, if you achieve something, they’ll be genuinely happy for you. They won’t be asking, “What about me?” They won’t wonder, “When will it be my turn?”

Confident individuals know their time will come. They will celebrate you. 

18) They don’t get jealous when other people succeed 

Similar to #17, confident people are never jealous. They’re confident in their own abilities, so they are okay if you are also awesome at something.

They master their own craft and grow their skill set so it doesn’t matter to them if you’re doing well. 

In relationships, confident people also aren’t the jealous type. They’re not worried about their partner straying because they know the value they bring to the relationship. 

They assume their partners are there to stay and won’t wander because they’re pretty great. 

19) They stay calm under pressure 

During stressful situations, the insecure person might be anxious or panic. They’re quick to jump into action during a stressful situation, but then psyche themselves out or choke under pressure. 

On the other hand, the confident person will be able to be a pillar of strength. They will be calm and collected during a difficult or challenging situation. 

They’ll be the voice of reason or the savior. Under pressure, they can stay calm because they’re confident in their abilities to help and to solve. 

20) They make other people comfortable

The self-esteem and good vibes from the confident person radiates and resonates. 

If you’re in the room with them, you’ll totally feel at ease. 

Have you ever heard people say to you, “I feel like I’ve known you forever”? If so, it’s likely that your confidence resonated with them and they felt comfortable talking to you. 

That’s natural confidence permeating from you and spreading your infectious positivity. 

21) They don’t lie

Lying is a surefire way to show your true colors: that you’re insecure. 

Confident people don’t feel the need to lie. They won’t embellish stories. They don’t need to prove anything to anyone. 

They don’t need other people’s validation. They know they’re awesome and that their stories are great. 

They are comfortable in the space they take up. You don’t have to like them or what they say. But interestingly, you end up liking them anyway.

What made confident people the way they are

Now that you know what naturally confident people are like, you’re probably wondering, how did they get that way? You can be born with confidence, sure. 

But, you can also build it up. If you’re not one of the lucky ones who just have self-confidence with little effort, here’s how to get to a better place with your self-esteem:

  • Work through your past.
  • Constantly learn new skills.
  • Do what you love to do.
  • Be kind to yourself.
  • Be compassionate towards others. 
  • Know what motivates you.
  • Force yourself to go out of your comfort zone.
  • Be self-aware.
  • Set goals for yourself.
  • Spend time with great people.
  • Be okay with saying no.
  • Give yourself a break when you need it. 
  • Accept your thoughts—but challenge the negative ones. 
  • Love yourself unconditionally. 
  • Don’t strive for perfection.
  • Celebrate your wins—big or small. 
  • Celebrate others.
  • Find a partner who will boost your self-esteem
  • Surround yourself with positivity. 
  • Remind yourself that you are better than your worst days. 
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Ysolt Usigan Schmidt

Ysolt Usigan is a lifestyle writer and editor with 15+ years of experience working in digital media. She has created share-worthy content for publishers WomansDay.com, Shape, WhatToExpect, CafeMom, TODAY, CBSNews, HuffingtonPost, TheBump, Health Magazine, and AskMen. A working mom of two, her editorial expertise in relationships, spirituality, mental wellness, shopping, and home are rooted in her everyday life.

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