10 things introverts do that seem weird to others (but are really not)

We all possess unique quirks and habits that set us apart from the crowd, but for introverts, these traits can sometimes seem a bit more peculiar to the extroverted world.

You may find yourself indulging in certain behaviors that others find odd or confusing. You might even question whether you’re truly ‘different’ or if others simply don’t understand the introverted way of life.

How do you know if your actions are just typical introverted tendencies or something viewed as strange by the majority?

As an introvert myself, I’ve compiled a list of 10 things we do which might seem weird to others – but in reality, are not.

1. Preferring solitude over social gatherings

It’s Friday evening and while most people are gearing up for a night out with friends, you’re looking forward to a quiet evening at home with your favorite book or movie.

To many, this might seem odd, even unsociable.

But for introverts, solitude isn’t about avoiding people; it’s about recharging and processing the world at their own pace.

This preference for solitude is often misinterpreted as shyness or antisocial behavior. In reality, introverts enjoy spending time alone because it gives them space to reflect, be creative, and regain energy drained from social interactions.

So, next time you turn down a Friday night party for a date with your couch, remember there’s nothing weird about it – it’s just the introvert’s way of maintaining balance.

2. Enjoying deep, meaningful conversations over small talk

At parties or social gatherings, you might find yourself drifting away from idle chit-chat and seeking out more substantial, meaningful conversations.

This might seem odd to those who thrive on casual banter and surface-level talk.

Introverts often find small talk exhausting and somewhat unfulfilling. They crave deeper connections and discussions that explore thoughts, ideas, and emotions.

This doesn’t mean they despise all small talk – it’s just that they prefer conversations with more depth and purpose.

3. Needing time to recharge after socializing

I remember attending a networking event a few years back. It was filled with vibrant conversations, laughter, and people making connections. I participated actively, engaging in discussions and meeting new people.

However, when I got home, all I wanted was to wrap myself in a blanket and retreat into my own space.

I needed time to relax and recharge after the constant social interaction.

This might seem strange to some. After all, isn’t socializing supposed to be energizing?

For introverts like me, while we might enjoy socializing, it can also be mentally exhausting. We need time alone to restore our energy levels.

So, if you find yourself needing a ‘recovery period’ after social events, understand that it’s not odd – it’s a part of your introverted nature.

4. Preferring written communication over verbal interaction

Texting emailing might be the preferred method of communication for many introverts.

While this can seem unconventional to those who favor a quick phone call or a face-to-face chat, there’s a reason behind this preference.

Research has shown that introverts often express themselves better in writing. They take time to think and articulate their thoughts, which can be done more effectively through written words.

This isn’t about shyness or avoiding verbal interaction, but a desire for clear and thoughtful communication.

If you find yourself reaching for the keyboard instead of the phone, remember – it’s not strange, it’s just your introverted way of expressing yourself effectively.

5. Being overwhelmed by too much stimulus

A few summers ago, I found myself at a music festival with a group of friends.

As the crowd started to swell, the music got louder, and the lights more intense, I began to feel overwhelmed. It was as if my senses were overloaded and I needed to retreat.

This might seem strange to those who thrive in such environments, but for introverts like me, too much sensory input can be overstimulating. We’re sensitive to our surroundings and can easily become overwhelmed by loud noises, bright lights, or crowded places.

This is not about being antisocial or not enjoying fun activities; it’s about understanding our limits and knowing when we need to step back.

Do you feel need to escape from a bustling environment too? That’s not weird. It’s just your introverted sensitivity towards sensory overload.

6. Having a small circle of friends

You may have noticed that your friendship circle is significantly smaller than that of your extroverted counterparts.

You prefer to have a handful of close friends rather than a wide array of acquaintances.

While some might find this peculiar, for introverts, it’s all about quality over quantity.

Introverts invest deeply in relationships and prefer to maintain a few close bonds that are meaningful and satisfying.

It’s not about being unsociable or choosy; it’s about cherishing deeper connections. 

7. Choosing hobbies that involve solitude

Whether it’s reading a book, painting, or hiking alone in nature, you might lean towards hobbies that can be enjoyed in solitude.

This can seem odd to those who enjoy group activities or team sports.

Introverts are drawn to activities that allow them to be alone with their thoughts and recharge their batteries. It’s not about avoiding people; it’s about finding joy and peace in solitude. 

8. Opting for online shopping

Do you often find yourself clicking ‘add to cart’ instead of strolling down store aisles?

Introverts tend to prefer online shopping to the hustle and bustle of crowded stores. While this may seem strange to some, it makes perfect sense for those who value their peace and quiet.

Online shopping allows introverts to make thoughtful decisions without feeling rushed or overwhelmed by external stimuli.

It’s not about being antisocial or avoiding human interaction; it’s about enjoying the comfort and convenience of solitude.

9. Being a good listener

You might notice that you’re often the one people turn to when they need a sympathetic ear.

While some might find it odd that you listen more than you speak, for introverts, this is a natural inclination.

Introverts tend to be attentive listeners, providing thoughtful responses and insights. This isn’t about being quiet or shy; it’s about valuing others’ thoughts and feelings.

So if you’ve been told that you’re a good listener, remember – it’s not strange, it’s just your introverted tendency to empathize and understand.

10. Immersing in self-reflection

Lastly, you might find yourself lost in thought, reflecting on your experiences and emotions more often than not.

This introspective nature might seem unusual to those who live in the moment.

Introverts are naturally reflective, often exploring their inner world of thoughts and feelings. This isn’t about being aloof or detached from reality; it’s about understanding oneself on a deeper level.

So if you often find yourself immersed in self-reflection, it’s just your introverted way of navigating through life.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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