7 things high achievers never do in public (so you shouldn’t either)

Contrary to what some think, you don’t just become a high achiever through sheer luck. 

99 out of 100 people who have achieved great things in life have gotten there through the old-fashioned routes… namely things like hard work, sacrifice, and constructive habits. 

Hence, it’s worthwhile to take a deeper look at your daily routine. 

Your habits ultimately define you, after all; they can be a pretty accurate gauge of how much success you will achieve in life. 

In this article, I’ll go through the things high achievers will never do in a public setting. 

If you want to eventually join the ranks of the world’s high achievers, avoiding the following behaviors will be a great place to start. 

Let’s get to it! 

1) They never criticize others openly 

While many might slyly resort to bringing their peers down by being critical, secretly wanting them to fail, the high achiever generally wants everyone to do well and succeed. 

Think of the great achievers in history from Steve Jobs to Marie Curie to Michael Jordan. 

None of these figures would have achieved such towering heights if they didn’t have a helpful supporting cast assisting them along the way. 

High achievers know how important camaraderie, team dynamics, and chemistry are to reaching goals, hence they will always act accordingly. 

They realize that no man (or woman) is an island. 

Rather than criticizing their peers publicly, for instance, they prefer to give feedback in more private, constructive ways–a seemingly simple act that almost always gains people’s respect and admiration. 

2) They never display arrogance 

There’s a fine line between self-assuredness and arrogance. 

The high achiever is keenly attuned to the distinction. 

You see, high achievers tend to have a degree of social intelligence, something that allows them to get along with a wide, diverse range of people. 

They know that arrogance will eventually turn others off, so they actively try to remain as humble as possible, making others feel at ease in their presence in the process.

3) They never lose their temper 

Having some emotional intelligence is a critical part of achieving success. 

High achievers know that losing their temper in public isn’t a great look; it can damage their reputation and relationships… particularly in this day and age, where information is exchanged at lightning speed. 

Hence, they’ll always make it a point to be in control of their feelings. 

Even when emotions run high, they’ll seem calm and collected, handling stress with grace and respect. 

They will never give in to the temptation of having an unhinged meltdown, unlike the viral Karens and Kens of the world. 

4) They never spread gossip

They never spread gossip 7 things high achievers never do in public (so you shouldn't either)

The indomitable late First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt once said:  “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” 

I tend to agree with Mrs. Roosevelt. 

High achievers know that excessively discussing other people and their lives simply isn’t a productive activity. 

Besides, gossip is often fuelled by unfounded rumors; so by its very nature, participating in it can undermine your trust and integrity with other people. 

Dealing with a known gossip queen or king is tiresome. 

Think about it: if you had a friend constantly gossiping about everyone else, could you truly trust that person? 

Would you like to be around them for prolonged periods? 

I think we both know the answer. 

High achievers value their time and energy.  They’d rather focus them on more positive, productive conversations. 

Thus, they will mindfully avoid spreading or listening to rumors and tend to keep company that share this mentality. 

5) They never ignore boundaries

It’s worth mentioning again: high achievers prioritize their time and energy. 

Hence, they are well aware of the importance of setting boundaries–for both themselves and others. 

Successful folks understand that humans have limits and will be wary of potentially overstepping them. 

From my experience, the best bosses and managers are respectful of their staff… and their boundaries. 

They don’t micromanage and won’t disrespect your time, say by texting or calling you about work on weekends or late in the evenings. 

They always show restraint and consideration.

Sure, they’re in a position where they can probably milk their control–but they never do. 

You get what you give. 

A respectful attitude from the bosses usually means a high level of workplace morale… and therefore increased productivity and efficiency. 

6) They never ignore self-care 

We live in a world where the toxic ‘grind’ mindset is glorified; where working twelve hours a day is somehow praised and admired. 

Truly successful people (and by successful I don’t mean just rich) are all about balance. 

They know that the state of their well-being will always affect things like professional performance, relationships, and overall happiness in life. 

Hence, they’ll always make it a point to prioritize self-care. 

They’ll rarely work to oblivion, getting unnecessarily burnt out and temperamental. 

Instead, they’ll regularly prioritize themselves, always making time to pursue things that they find fulfilling and therapeutic. 

7) They never reject feedback 

High achievers have an almost instinctive openness to feedback. 

They know that to genuinely grow in life, they have to be receptive to constructive criticism. 

They don’t pretend to be perfect, incapable of making mistakes. 

Rather, they embrace making the odd blunder, take responsibility, and come back stronger, focusing on solutions rather than conjuring up far-fetched excuses. 

When I opened my first restaurant business a decade ago, I was initially quite successful despite being highly inexperienced as an entrepreneur.

For the first few weeks, I only heard positive feedback from customers, something I savored, and became mildly addicted to. 

The more praise my business got, the bigger my ego became. 

I felt like a hotshot businessman who could do no wrong. 

Inevitably, I noticed some poor, even harsh, reviews–but instead of taking the critique gracefully, I lashed out, blaming the customer rather than being apologetic and taking accountability. 

Talk about what not to do as a business owner. 

But I didn’t know better. I was high off a few weeks of good sales and good feedback (not exactly what you would call genuine, long-lasting success.) 

These days, I know that the real high achievers of the world appreciate feedback… they seek it out rather than shun it. 

They’re perpetual learners, seizing every opportunity to better themselves and gain new skills or knowledge. 

See the difference?

Final words

If you want to be a high achiever, take a deep look at your daily habits–and be honest with yourself when you do so. 

After all, even the most perfect person in the world is not without their faults. 

So take this as an opportunity to make a few adjustments, however marginal. 

Start small. Take baby steps. 

Sure, making a few fundamental routine changes may not immediately feel natural, but over time, they will become a part of you.

And soon, there will be no stopping you. You got this.

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Ethan Sterling

Ethan Sterling has a background in entrepreneurship, having started and managed several small businesses. His journey through the ups and downs of entrepreneurship provides him with practical insights into personal resilience, strategic thinking, and the value of persistence. Ethan’s articles offer real-world advice for those looking to grow personally and professionally.

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