21 things guys LOVE girlfriends to do (the only list you’ll need!)

Men aren’t exactly good at communicating – especially not about their feelings.

It’s not always easy for a guy to express himself and say what’s on his mind.

This makes it difficult for women to know what guys like.

To help you out, I’ve come up with a list of 21 common things that guys love their girlfriends to do.

Let’s jump right in:

1) Guys love to be taken care of

Maybe they won’t admit it out loud, but guys love to be taken care of by their girlfriends.

Now, this is especially true if they had a mother who spoiled them and did everything for them.

There’s a lot of stuff that falls into this category, from bringing him chicken soup when he is sick, to shopping for clothes for him, to picking up his dry cleaning.

It’s up to you to decide if and where to draw the line.

All I know is:

If you take care of your man he’ll be really grateful and will love you even more.

2) Guys like to be romanced

I kid you not!

Guys want their girlfriends to show them how much they care.

They like romantic gestures as much as girls do.

So, what can you do?

  • Get him little gifts like chocolates or a book you know he’d like
  • Surprise him after work by taking him out to dinner and a movie
  • Change the lyrics to a song to make it about him
  • Watch the Godfather trilogy on a Friday night

In essence: Romance is all about the little things that you do to show him how much he means to you.

3) Guys love to be the center of attention

News flash: Guys love to be the center of attention.

Whether it’s at a party, in a relationship, or just in general, they seem to thrive on being the star of the show.

So show him how important he is to you – make him feel like he’s the most important thing in your life.

  • Give him your full attention when he speaks
  • Really listen. Try not to interrupt (guys hate that)
  • Laugh at his jokes
  • Tell him how clever what he said was
  • Consult him whenever you need to make a decision

It will boost his ego and make him happy to be with someone who appreciates him the way he should be appreciated.

So, the more attention you show, the more he’ll feel like a priority in your life.

Shower him with attention and he’ll love you for it.

4) Guys love it when you play with their hair

Did you know that guys love it when you run your hands through their hair?

You see, when you run your hands through your boyfriend’s hair, it feels nice, like you’re caressing him.

It feels so good!

And here’s another thing:

It’s an intimate, playful, and sweet gesture – all in one.

It shows that you care, that you feel comfortable with him, and that the two of you have a close relationship.

5) Guys love it when you make an effort to dress up

Guys love it when their girlfriends dress up for them.

Now, some girls get a little too comfortable once they’re in a relationship.

They stop wearing make-up, stop brushing their hair, and walk around in sweatpants.

It’s like they think that because they have a boyfriend, they can stop making an effort.

But you see: A guy loves it when his girl makes an effort to look good for him from time to time.

It shows him that she cares, that she doesn’t take him for granted and that it’s important to her that he finds her attractive.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to dress sexy and walk around in 5-inch heels all day, every day.

That would be super uncomfortable and i wouldn’t make it special.

What should you do?

From time to time, when you go out on the weekend to dinner or a party, dress to impress.

Make him remember what drew you to him in the first place.

6) Guys like it when you bite your lips

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If you’re a guy, there’s just something about a girl who bites her lip that you can’t resist.

It’s a flirty yet cute gesture that shows you that she likes you and wants to be with you.

Trust me, biting your lips is a sexy gesture.

So if you’re trying to get your boyfriend to do something for you, or you don’t want him to be angry over some silly thing that you did, try biting your lips as you smile and stare into his eyes. He won’t be able to resist.

7) Guys love it when you cook for them

There’s nothing better than a homecooked meal.

It may sound a bit old-fashioned but guys just love it when their girlfriends and wives cook for them.

Of course, this is especially true if their mother is a great cook.

Hey, what can I say, it always goes back to the mother!


If you’re not a great cook, that’s fine – make something simple like meat and potatoes, he’ll appreciate the gesture even more because he knows you don’t normally cook.

However, if you do know how to cook, consider making something extra special, for example, a three-course French meal.

Or even better, call his mum up and ask her for the recipes for his favorite meals growing up.

Truth is: A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

8) Guys love it when you compliment them

You know how wonderful it feels when someone tells you how beautiful you are? Or when they tell you that your pasta is the best pasta they’ve ever had? Or that your presentation blew away the whole office?

Well, guys want to feel that way too – guys love compliments.

Compliments are a great way to show him that you appreciate him in all aspects of his life.

So, what can you do?

Remember not to take your boyfriend for granted.

The bottom line is this:

A guy loves to be flattered by his girlfriend.

He loves it when she makes him feel special and appreciated.

It’s important to feel seen and valued by someone you love.

9) Guys love it when you act natural

Guys don’t like to be in a relationship with fake girls.

Girls who put on a show might be fun for a night or two, but they’re certainly not relationship material.

So what should you do?

Be yourself and don’t try to be someone you’re not.

  • Don’t try to be fancy if you’re not.
  • Don’t pretend to like movies or books that you think will make you sound clever.
  • Don’t act like you’re better than everyone else.

You see – you’re unique, there’s no reason to hide it or be ashamed of who you are.

Guys love girls who act natural, who are are not afraid to show themselves.

They want someone they can feel comfortable and at ease with.

10) Guys love it when you’re there for them

Guys love it when they can talk to their girlfriends about serious things.

Now, he knows he can trust you and that you won’t mess with him if he tells you something confidential.

He knows that you won’t judge him or make fun of him for anything.

He knows that you’ll always be there for him, no matter what’s going on in his life or what mistakes he may have made in the past (because chances are it wasn’t all that bad).

You need to be there for your boyfriend, through the good times and the bad and he’ll love you for it.

11) Guys love it when you wear their T-shirt

We’ve seen this in so many movies and TV shows – the girl sleeps in his oversized T-shirt.

Guys love it when girls wear their clothes, whether it’s wearing their T-shirt to bed (which they find adorable) or putting a belt around their shirt and wearing it as a dress. They think you look cute in their clothes.

What’s more, the fact that you’re sharing clothes makes them feel even closer to you.

You see: It’s an intimate gesture.

There’s something about the fact that the T-shirt is his, and it’s touching your skin…

You get where I’m going with this.

12) Guys love it when you ask their opinion on important issues

Now, guys love it when their girlfriends consult them about important things.

It makes them feel good to know that their opinion on important issues matters and that you want to hear it.

They feel like they can trust you, and you can trust them.

This is a great thing because it means that you can have a conversation about anything. From politics to fashion to relationships, they’re happy to share their thoughts with you.

This also allows for a more open and honest conversation than if you just rely on your opinions.

Basically, if you want to know how your guy feels about important issues, ask him for his opinion!

Guys love getting their say in the matter and most guys are actually quite open and honest.

13) Guys get turned on by a woman who is confident and comfortable in her own skin

Guys love a confident woman.

They turn on when they see a woman who is comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t try to impress them.

So what can you do?

Don’t be afraid to show him your true self. Be yourself and he will love you for it.

14) Guys like it when you take initiative

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Guys get a little tired of always being the ones to initiate sex.

They love it when you take the initative.

So why not spice things up a bit? Bring something new to the bedroom?

Now it’s your turn.

Surprise him with sex when he least expects it and make his day.

15) Guys love to get romantic messages

Did you know that it’s not just girls who like to get sweet and romantic messages?

It’s true. Guys love to get romantic messages from their girlfriends too.

They love to feel special, and they feel like you’re thinking about them when you’re sending them a message.

If you want to make him happy send him a romantic message, or surprise him with a little romantic gesture.

16) Guys love a woman who knows how to be sexy

News flash: Guys love a woman who knows how to be sexy!

They appreciate the fact that you know how to put on a little show for them.

It shows that you know what it means to be sexy and that you have confidence in yourself.

So don’t be shy girl, embrace the powerful sexy goddess that you are.

17) Guys love it when you make them laugh

Now, everyone loves a good laugh.

Guys love to come home after a long and stressful day at work to someone who is positive and cheerful.

They love it when their girlfriend makes them laugh.

Laughter helps them relax and forget about any problems they may be having.

And another thing:

A good sense of humor is more important than you realize.

It’s a big turn-on and makes guys feel more comfortable around you. Guys love to be around a girl who can keep them laughing.

Laughter is the best medicine! Have a good laugh with him every day and he’ll want to keep you around for a long time.

18) Guys love to feel like they’re in charge

Guys are simple creatures.

They want to feel like they’re in charge of the relationship and that their girl is on their side 100%. It makes them feel important and wanted which is what they want most in life!

That’s why guys will do anything for a girl who puts her boyfriend first!

So if you want your guy to treat you good, make sure that he feels like he’s in charge of your relationship!

But the bottom line is this:

I know it’s 2022 but try not to make all the decisions yourself. Let him be in charge from time to time.

19) Guys want to feel supported

Here’s the truth:

Guys want to know that their girlfriends are there for them and that they can always count on them.

They love it when they have someone who believes in them and sticks by their side no matter what.

So the next time he’s facing a problem, be there for him.

  • If he wants to tackle a new project, tell him that you’re behind him 100%.
  • If he wants to go back to school to get a degree, tell him that you believe in him.

Show him that you’re there for him by being supportive and understanding.

20) Guys love it when you get along with their friends

Guys love it when their girlfriend gets along with their friends. They like the idea of hanging out with their girlfriend and their friends at the same time. One big happy family.

In fact, when their girlfriend doesn’t get along with their friends, or openly says she hates them, it makes life very difficult for them.

It’s simple really:

A guy is happy when he doesn’t have to choose between his friends and his girl.

21) Guys love it when you get along with their parents

There’s nothing a guy loves more than to see the woman he loves get along with his parents.

He loves it when his girlfriend hangs out with his parents.

It makes him feel good knowing that they have a great relationship and that they’re supportive of each other.

The fact that they get along so well makes him see a future for them.

So if you get along with his family, he’ll love you more and will want you to become a part of that family.


By now you should have a good idea of what guys love their girlfriends to do.

So what else can you do to make him love you?

If you really want to make this man truly yours, there’s one more thing you should be aware of.

When it comes to love, men are driven by a primal need to be the hero of the story – the Hero Instinct.

That’s why it’s so important to know: What are his needs? What can he get from you that really means something to him?

Those needs go beyond sex and romance. They go to the core of who he is as a man.

In his free video, relationship expert James Bauer teaches you how to distinguish his needs from all the other things he wants, and give him exactly what he needs as a man.

By triggering his Hero Instinct, you will be able to lead him on a much deeper level. You’ll be able to make the man you love truly yours.

Click here to watch James Bauer’s free video.

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