9 things confident women do differently that makes them stand out

Confidence is like an inner light that makes some women radiate, filling rooms with warmth and leaving a trail of inspiration in their wake.

If you’ve ever wondered what spells confident women cast to stand out in a crowd, we’ve decoded their secret scepter.

Buckle up, ladies, because these 9 things that confident women do differently aren’t just game-changers; they’re life-changers.

1) They embrace their imperfections with positivity

Confident women know that perfection’s a myth as elusive as a unicorn. It’s a mirage because, let’s be real, nobody’s perfect! Chasing perfection only does more harm than good.

Don’t get me wrong. 

Confident women don’t settle for less. On the contrary, they embrace their flaws and imperfections with positivity.

My mom’s the perfect example. 

Her unwavering optimism amazed me as I witnessed her transform unhealthy situations through her positive attitude. She had a unique ability to see the silver lining in challenging relationships, adverse circumstances, and tough decisions.

She surrounded herself with positive people and always made sure to say nothing but positive words about herself. 

Apology for her mistakes? Not necessary.

Only positive things filled her mind and she used that power to make the best out of whatever situation life threw at her.

2) They don’t seek validation

I’ll be honest here: growing up, I succumbed to peer pressure often. I’d readily join the bandwagon and follow the leader.

Although it’s human nature to seek acceptance, there’s a tinge of negativity associated with the longing to fit in.

Later on, I pushed myself to break away from that cycle and accept who I am, flaws and all.

You see, seeking validation is like constantly asking for a mirror. 

You’ve got your power pose with your power outfit, your power smile, and of course, the power words.

Of course, there are benefits of the power pose. There’s no doubt about that. It gives you that confidence boost that you need. 

However, it’s important to know that your worth is not defined by others’ approval. 

Confident women don’t need a mirror to reflect their worth. They have shattered that mirror and dance freely in their self-assured reality.

They truly value their self-worth and know they are more than mere reflections in others’ eyes.

And let me tell you: confident women don’t need a mirror to reflect their worth.

They instinctively grasp it — that’s just the beginning of what sets them apart.

3) They set healthy boundaries

Just as gardens need fences, our lives need boundaries. 

Confident women understand this and aren’t afraid to say ‘no’. 

The sneaky bad habits that occasionally slip in…like not getting enough sleep, not eating healthy, and losing our balance — are all a result of the lack of boundaries we set in our lives. 

Honestly, I’m still establishing my boundaries. It’s a work in progress with juggling work and family life. 

Here’s the deal: confident people set rules for themselves and don’t let anyone or anything disrupt their comfort zone.

They understand ‘no’ is a complete sentence and it’s more than okay to say it and stick to it. 

And this is one of the habits of confident women that I’m striving for the most. But I’m confident that it’ll turn out just fine!

4) They nurture their passions

As a person driven by passion, I intimately understand the immense joys and abundant rewards that come from nurturing your passions in life.

When you find that fiery passion burning within, it breathes new life into your soul and ignites a flame of inspiration that lasts a long time.

Confident women don’t let their passions wilt in the corner. They water them, give them sunshine, and make time for what sets their soul on fire. 

Nurturing your passion isn’t selfish; it’s self-love at its finest.

Here’s why that’s important: building confidence requires unwavering faith in yourself. And that comes when you choose to love and care for your passions as if they were living, breathing creatures.

When you wholeheartedly pursue your passions, the unwavering confident attitude you cultivate unlocks a world of possibilities.

It can truly transform your life in ways beyond your wildest imagination.

5) They stand by their values with self-confidence

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Like unwavering lighthouses, confident women stand by their values, even in stormy weather of criticism. 

I’m sure you’re with me on this one when I say that having confident body language gives an even more powerful boost to your message. Good posture and eye contact show that you’re sure of yourself.

When I began my career years ago, I focused on improving certain aspects. Over time, I developed the ability to maintain good posture, make eye contact during conversations, and project my voice effectively. These skills have contributed to my professional growth and overall confidence.

I also learned to speak up and voice out my values, even if it meant receiving backlash in return. 

At first, it was a challenge, but I quickly came to a powerful realization: confident women truly shine because they possess an unyielding dedication to their values, no matter the circumstances.

They don’t compromise your values for temporary acceptance. It’s the ultimate sign of self-confidence; a trait that will take them far.

6) They support other women

Women’s true confidence isn’t in competition or envy but in support and collaboration.

Blessed with amazing women in my life, every friend and family member has their unwavering support, and endless encouragement has enriched me in every way. Grateful for the strength and motivation they provide.

They’re my biggest supporters, always there for me with love and unwavering support. Forever grateful for their presence in my life.

Here’s the thing: confident women don’t feel intimidated by new people. Instead, they draw strength from other women’s empathy, compassion, and selflessness.

They also know that lifting others won’t dim their light. They foster camaraderie, not competition.

As women, we know firsthand the incredible power of uplifting and supporting one another. When we come together, our collective rise elevates us individually. It’s a beautiful testament to unity’s strength and extraordinary impact on our lives.

This attitude brings out the highest potential in everyone — the kind of energy that lifts spirits and reinforces each other’s goals. 

7) They practice self-care with a positive mindset

A few years ago, self-care was challenging for me. I was simply too burned out to care for myself.

Work and life responsibilities had taken such a heavy toll that it became too overwhelming to care for myself.

But guess what?

I’m proud to share that I’ve taken huge strides in prioritizing my very own self-care! I learned this from the confident women in my life — my mom, siblings, and best friends.

In a nutshell, confidence follows when self-care’s on point. 

This is the secret sauce of confident women.

Taking care of your body, mind, and soul creates beautiful harmony, boosting confidence and fostering self-love. Meditation and yoga relax and clear the mind, improving focus after a hectic day.

That’s why I prioritize including it in my daily routine. It’s a game-changer.

8) They dare to dream (and act) big

Do you know the backbone of a woman’s confidence? Her dreams.

Most of us have forgotten the power of dreaming big and why it matters.

At a young age, I believed life was about reaching specific goals and status at a certain age. I had feelings of inadequacy about my personality because self-confidence wasn’t part of my equation.

As I grew older, I learned to wear killer heels, get out of my comfort zone and experience new things.

This is where I found my wings — dreaming and acting big.

Dreaming big takes guts, courage, and those killer red heels. It’s the driving force behind confident women’s success.

When you dare to dream big, you eventually summon the courage to take the leap and make it happen. With faith and hard work, your dreams become reality. 

9) They accept their shortcomings

Confidence isn’t about being the loudest or boldest. It’s about loving and accepting yourself, quirks and all. 

We all have self-doubt in the small things that happen to set us back. But who wouldn’t aim for a better place in life?

A confident and strong woman has a positive outlook in striving to become the best version of herself. She accepts her shortcomings and focuses on self-improvement.

In the end, she finds forgiveness for her shortcomings and embraces a new chapter, leaving behind past burdens.

That’s what sets her apart. It’s all about consistently aiming to give your absolute best.

Besides, confidence is a journey, not a destination. 

Final thoughts

You need not be Wonder Woman to manifest confidence and stand out. But understand that these traits of a confident woman are worth admiring. 

The key to confidence isn’t perfection. Embrace self-acceptance and unleash your potential for excellence in every aspect of life.

This is the right time to unlock your potential and embrace self-confidence.

Go ahead and embrace your journey towards true confidence, and watch the magic unfold.

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Frankie Pascua-dela Pasion

Frankie was born and raised in Manila, Philippines. She is a graduate of Humanities from the University of Asia and the Pacific. Frankie is a seasoned Customer Success and Human Resources professional. She is also a certified Life Coach and Career Strategist. She helps people young and young at heart to simplify their lives by creating emotional awareness. She also loves working with people who have a genuine interest in breaking their inner limits through their journey of self-discovery and authenticity in their personal and professional lives. Frankie’s recent venture into writing is fueled by her passion for human connection and meaningful relationships at home, at work, and basically everywhere. She enjoys the research, discovery, and reflection that go into each article as much as she writes about them, in the hopes that her words resonate with, and give perspective to her audience. Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn: Frankie Pascua-dela Pasion

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