Have you always admired how confident women carry themselves?
They have a certain “Je ne sais quoi” quality about them, like they could do anything.
What if I told you that you could be just like them? What if I told you that confidence could be learned?
Have I got your attention?
In this article, I’m gonna share 12 things that confident women do (but never talk about).
Apply them to your life and you’ll be well on your way to becoming a confident woman yourself.
Let’s get started:
1) They don’t compare themselves to other women
The great thing about confident women is that they know their own worth.
They don’t need to know where they stand on a scale of 1 to 10, or if they’re smarter, prettier, or more popular than other women.
And if you think about it, what good is comparing yourself to other people? It only results in insecurity.
You won’t get any closer to becoming a strong and confident woman by comparing yourself to other women or wishing you were more like them.
The truth is that the only person you should be comparing yourself to is yourself – your past self.
I’m talking about looking at where you were 5 years ago, 1 year ago, or 6 months ago… I’m talking about looking at how far you’ve come and recognizing your achievements and growth.
That’s the only good way to make comparisons.
2) They don’t seek validation from others
The best way to explain it is to tell you that they are self-aware.
You see, confident women know what their strengths and weaknesses are. They know when they do something well and when they could do better.
What’s more, they don’t do things to impress other people. If they want to achieve something, it’s for themselves and not for the sake of looking good or having someone pat them on the back.
So, while they appreciate a compliment here and there, confident women don’t need to be told that they’re worthy. They don’t need other people to tell them that they matter. They know it already! They simply won’t be defined by other people’s opinions.
Now, that doesn’t mean that they’re so arrogant as not to care what others think. Of course they care. Mostly, they care about the opinions of people they love and respect, and they’ll listen to what they think and take it under advisement. But what random people think? They try not to give it much thought.
3) They focus on their strengths
The key to confidence?
Focusing on your strengths, not your weaknesses
That is not to say that confident women ignore their weaknesses, nope. They’re very much aware of them. But they don’t let their weaknesses stop them from being the best version of themselves they can be.
And instead of accepting that they’re not good at something, they’re constantly working to improve, to learn, and to better themselves.
And the reason they’re so confident?
It’s the fact that they embrace their many positive qualities. They know that there’s a lot of stuff that they excel at.
So if you want to become a confident woman, you need to start by asking yourself: What am I good at? How can I use that to my advantage?
4) They take calculated risks and are not afraid of failure
A lot of people sit around unhappy with their lot in life.
So why don’t they do anything about it?
Because they’re scared of failure! They don’t have the confidence and the guts needed to take any kind of risk.
That’s another great thing about confident women. They never talk about it, but they know that in order to succeed, you need to take risks. They know that failure is part of the journey and that it’s better to try and fail than to never try at all.
I mean, how can you know whether you can do something or not, unless you give it a shot?
So take a page out of their book and start taking calculated risks.
5) They take responsibility for their actions
Here’s the truth: Trying to shift the blame or pretend that you didn’t fu** up is a pretty cowardly thing to do.
You see, weak people who lack confidence are quick to take credit when something goes well, but when it doesn’t turn out the way they expected – it’s never their fault!
In fact, they’ll blame it on everything but the kitchen sink.
Confident women know what they’re getting themselves into. As I mentioned earlier, they’re not afraid to take risks. They know that they have to try in order to get what they want.
And if they make a mistake?
They own up to it. They try again. They apologize and do whatever is necessary to make things right.
6) They don’t let setbacks discourage them
Because setbacks, mistakes, and failure are all part of the journey!
The only people who don’t experience setbacks are the people who aren’t doing anything.
So while they may not blab about it, confident women face various challenges and setbacks, just like anyone else. But they don’t let them get in the way of their plans and achieving their goals.
If you hit a wall: go around it, break it down, or climb over it! That’s what a confident woman would do.
7) They take care of their physical and mental health
Look, if you’re not feeling well – physically or mentally – you’re gonna have a hard time taking on challenges. That’s why confident women prioritize their physical and mental health.
They prioritize their well-being by:
- eating healthily
- getting enough (8 hours) sleep
- attending regular medical check-ups
- practicing meditation
- seeking therapy when needed
- setting boundaries and taking breaks when necessary to avoid burnout
And by being healthy and prioritizing their well-being, they feel good, positive, sure of themselves and ready to take on whatever the world throws at them.
8) They stand up for themselves and others
It’s not something confident women will brag about (because they don’t need to brag about anything) but they’re not afraid to speak out against injustice and discrimination.
You see, when you lack confidence, you’re often too scared to come out and say anything. You let yourself get bullied and taken advantage of. And that’s no good.
But once you gain confidence, you gain a deeper understanding of your values and beliefs as well as a sense of self-worth.
That’s why when faced with a situation where their rights or those of others are being violated, confident women aren’t afraid to speak up. They don’t let others intimidate them and what’s more, they take action when action is needed.
Do you know what the best part is?
They inspire others to do the same, thus creating a ripple effect of positive change!
Sounds good, right?
9) They seek out challenges
It’s all about getting out of your comfort zone.
Because once you get out of your comfort zone, you get to experience a whole new world.
Whether it’s in their personal or professional lives, confident women often surprise others with the challenges they seek out.
Different people experience different things as challenges, but the idea is to see challenges as an opportunity to learn, to experience something new, and to become stronger and more resilient.
In other words, challenges are a great way to experience personal growth.
So, are you ready to seek out your first challenge?
10) They’re happy in their own skin
Too skinny. Too fat. Too tall. Too short.
These are terms that confident women would never apply to themselves. They’re not too anything. They’re just enough!
They’ve embraced the way they look – imperfections, flaws, and all.
They know that they’re not perfect, nobody is. And do you know what? They don’t want to be perfect.
Just think of all the girls on the magazine covers. Do you think that they’re happy? That they don’t have problems like everyone else? Think about all the pressure they feel to look like that. Not being able to eat what they want to eat… not being able to change, to age…
No thanks, confident women are happy being themselves. If others appreciate the way they look, great. If they don’t, that’s their problem.
11) They practice gratitude
Gratitude is all about realizing how good you have it.
And do you know what? Practicing gratitude actually helps you feel more confident.
Let me explain.
Being grateful is all about focusing on the positive things in one’s life. No matter how challenging a situation you may be going through, there are still good things in your life.
And when you think about it, things could always get worse, right?
So, by practicing gratitude, confident women feel more optimistic, fulfilled, and content and that makes them feel more confident and resilient.
12) They don’t hold grudges
Finally, they never talk about this because they don’t think that there’s anything to talk about (it seems like a no-brainer to them), but confident women don’t hold grudges.
They think that it’s important to forgive and forget, and if they can’t forget, they can at least move on.
And that’s a healthy attitude to have in life because holding on to anger and resentment often hurts the person holding onto those feelings more than the person those feelings are aimed at.
And confident women don’t let the words and actions of other people affect them to such a degree – they look out for themselves.
So, if you want to become a confident woman, take a deep breath and just let go…