10 things a classy woman will never tolerate in a relationship

Being classy isn’t about what you wear or how you look. And it’s definitely not about how much money you make.

Instead, true class is a set of behaviors that anyone can master.

Having class is about behaving in a dignified way that commands respect from other people.

But if you want to be respected, you need first to respect yourself. And that means having firm boundaries about what you will and won’t tolerate.

Especially in a relationship.

Let’s take a look at some things a woman with class should never tolerate in her personal relationships.

1) Dishonesty

We all tell little white lies sometimes. But we tend to be more honest with the people we truly like and respect.

That’s because honesty is a form of respect. Telling someone the truth is a way of saying that you respect them to be able to handle it.

Being truthful with someone also means that you respect their intelligence enough not to try and fool them with lies.

That’s why a classy woman will never tolerate a relationship built on dishonesty.

If you can’t trust your partner, you can’t have a relationship. And if someone is routinely dishonest with you, it’s a sure sign they can’t be trusted.

That’s something no classy woman will put up with.

2) Selfishness

All relationships require give-and-take. Classy women know that.

A classy woman is not selfish, especially with the people she cares about. That means she cannot tolerate selfishness in others.

A classy woman knows that satisfying relationships are built on mutual respect. And that can’t happen if one partner in the relationship is all about themselves.

Lookout for signs of selfishness in a partner, such as:

  • Always asking for favors
  • Thinking they deserve special treatment
  • Never saying thank you
  • Prioritizing their own needs over those of others
  • Never being grateful

A classy woman knows that people who exhibit these behaviors are not people she should be in a relationship with.

3) Entitlement

Part of being classy is seeing the world from the point of view of others.

A classy woman is never entitled. She understands that the world does not owe her anything, and that to get what she wants out of life, she needs to make it happen for herself.

That means that entitlement is not something she will stand for in relationships, either.

Here’s why:

People with a sense of entitlement expect the world to hand them what they want. And when that doesn’t happen, they tend to behave badly and make life difficult for those around them.

This is the opposite of having class.

In fact, it’s one of the least classy behaviors you can have.

And a sense of entitlement often goes along with…

4) Lack of gratitude

Classy women show gratitude.

It doesn’t matter what your life circumstances are. You could be a billionaire heiress or a single mom struggling to make ends meet, but there’s always something to be grateful for.

Maybe it’s the love of your family. Maybe it’s good health. Maybe it’s something as simple as a good cup of coffee on a crisp autumn morning.

Life is full of things you should be grateful for. Classy women know how to experience gratitude even during difficult times.

That means a classy woman can’t tolerate being with someone who isn’t grateful for what they have.

A lack of gratitude can often lead to entitlement and bad behavior, and that’s something a classy woman should never tolerate in a relationship.

5) Negativity

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There is a thing called toxic positivity. Life can be hard sometimes, and maintaining a positive attitude’s not always possible.

On the other hand, negative people can be energy vampires.

A negative person is someone who always finds the worst in any situation they are in. Negative people:

  • criticize everything without offering suggestions for improvement
  • avoid responsibility
  • are scared of failure
  • find reasons not to try new things
  • gossip about other people

As you can see, these behaviors are almost the exact opposite of how a classy woman behaves.

That’s why strong women avoid relationships with negative personalities.

6) Rudeness

There’s nothing less classy than being rude. A classy woman is never rude to others, no matter what situation she finds herself in.

That means she should never tolerate rudeness in a partner, either.

And that’s just one side of the story.

Classy women don’t tolerate people being rude to them. You also shouldn’t tolerate rudeness in a partner when it’s directed toward other people.

Kindness and respect are the hallmarks of class. And the classy woman knows that everyone is worthy of respect, no matter who they are.

Now, how could a woman like that tolerate a partner who is rude to servers in a restaurant, workers in a store, or any other walk of life?

She couldn’t. And she shouldn’t.

7) Disrespect

By now, you’ve probably noticed that being classy is all about respect. That means both giving it, and getting it.

The key to being classy is commanding respect from others by respecting yourself first. That means a classy woman should never tolerate disrespect in a relationship.

Now, disrespect can take lots of forms. It may mean behaviors like:

  • Not listening to you or valuing your opinion
  • Interrupting you when you are talking
  • Not including you in important decisions
  • Not honoring agreements
  • Ignoring your personal boundaries
  • Dismissing concerns when you raise them

Whatever form disrespect in a relationship takes, a classy woman can’t tolerate it.

8) Being controlled

All relationships involve some compromise.

But a healthy relationship helps both partners grow, both together and independently.

That means that no partner in a relationship should try to control the behavior of the other.

Controlling behavior is a sure sign of a person who doesn’t respect you and your choices. And a classy woman should never allow herself to be disrespected like that.

If somebody tries to control:

  • What you wear
  • Who you spend time with outside of the relationship
  • The kind of hobbies you can have
  • What you do for work

or anything else about you, you owe it to yourself to break the relationship off.

Classy women don’t let themselves be controlled by anyone. And classy people don’t try to control others, either.

9) Lack of support

Being strong and independent is often a good thing. And there isn’t much classier than a woman who knows what she wants and knows how to get.

On the other hand, we all need some support from time to time. And the whole purpose of a relationship that works is to provide each other with that kind of support.

Whether that support is financial, emotional, or in some other form, it’s something you ought to be able to expect from your partner from time to time.

According to psychologist Dr. Danielle Forshee, “when support is not present, or when support is not consistently present, it renders the relationship vulnerable to being unsuccessful.”

Simply put, support is key to keeping a relationship healthy.

Classy women know that a partner who refuses to support them, whether it’s at work or in their personal life, isn’t someone they should waste their time with.

10) Unkindness

Finally, a classy woman should never tolerate unkindness.

You will never find a classy woman yelling at a waiter or causing a scene in public. And you’ll never find her being unkind toward a partner in a relationship, either.

That’s because kindness and respect are core values for classy women.

That means you should never tolerate unkindness from a partner in a relationship, either. Whether that unkindness is directed toward her or toward others, it’s a guaranteed sign of someone who doesn’t deserve to be in a relationship with a classy woman.

Being classy boils down to respect

That means respecting others, but also respecting yourself.

The golden rule states that you should treat others the way you want to be treated. That means it’s not too much to demand that other people treat you the way you treat them.

Above all, a classy woman knows her value. That’s why she won’t tolerate these bad behaviors in a relationship.

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