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These 5 myths were stopping me from living the life of my dreams

While I was in Sao Paolo, I had a lot of time to enjoy its beauty and culture.

Then I also had a lot of time to just think about my life. Looking back, I realize that there are 5 myths that I busted to live the life of my dreams. And I’m going to share them with you:

If you can’t watch the video above right now, keep on reading for the 5 myths.

Myth #1: I had to find my purpose first

I used to always believe that purpose comes first before I can figure out what I want to do with my life.

But what I’ve discovered from my good friend Rudá Iandé is that purpose is something that emerges over time. Purpose comes from analyzing your life and seeing what you feel good about. Purpose comes form looking backwards, not from thinking ahead.

Myth #2: I need a home

I always used to believe that I needed to have a home or a “physical location” to live a meaningful life.

But over the last 15 years, I’ve moved around so much from city to city, all around the world. And I really don’t have very much except for my backpack. But my very few personal belongings made me realize I don’t need a home to find my purpose.

My home is deep within me.

Millions of people out there want to be free from the suffocating place they call “home”. They look to the place they have as a prison which is oppressive and limiting.

I am not saying you should not buy a home. Of course, it is good to have a home because it is a place that gives you a sense of belonging. What I am trying to say is that whatever your choice in life is, it will never be perfect.

So enjoy what you have.

The way you’re living is far more important than finding the perfect way and waiting till you get there to start being happy.

Try to find the peace, power and meaning in whatever that is happening right now in your life right now.

Life is not perfect and never will be.

Myth #3: I need to defeat my anxiety

I used to think that my anxiety makes me weak.


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I had this idea of myself as a successful entrepreneur that could do many things in this world. But, what I finally learned is that anxiety is a very normal part of the human condition.

Myth #4: Myth of perfection

I always had this perfect image in my mind. It’s that of the life that I wanted to live, the success I wanted to have, the house I wanted to live in.

Even the perfect car.

Of course, the perfect girlfriend.

Yes, the perfect EVERYTHING.

But, I realized that there is no such thing as perfection.

Life is full of flaws and that’s okay.

When I lived with this perfect image in my mind, I was so distracted by the images in the future of what I was trying to create. I failed to see the beauty all around me that was always there.

As soon as you bust the idea of perfection, I think you can start to appreciate what you already got.

Myth #5: The life of my dreams needs to be achieved

Because I had this perfect image in my mind, what soon followed is the need to achieve it.

As soon as I realized that this was a myth that needed to be busted, I started living in the here and now.

Sometimes, we spend our life dreaming of the life we want that we forget to live the life we are actually living now.

There’s so much magic, mystery and power all around us.

That perspective is what shapes what we see. It shapes our reality and in that way, I’m dreaming my life into existence.

And as soon as I realized that, I started to really live my life fully, full with power and unafraid of my flaws.

Notable replies

  1. Hey Justin, I also want to do the same thing of being a digital nomad. That’s the trend nowadays with Millenials. And I’m really planning to do that, just hopping from one island to another, or one country to another. And as an Existentialist, I do have multiple purposes in life, which are by the way, dynamic by nature. They are fleeting and changing all the time.

  2. @saintmel45 you may enjoy this article with the video in there by @Ruda about humans being nomadic creatures:

    Even now I sometimes struggle with the lifestyle I’m living. I can see the value of putting roots in a place and building relationships in a community.

    I’m evolving my own situation to have 2-3 “bases” that I frequent regularly.

    I don’t really know much about existentialism and would be happy to learn more from what you share here.

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Written by Justin Brown

I'm the CEO and co-founder of Ideapod, a platform for people to connect around ideas. I'm passionate about people thinking for themselves, especially in an age of information overload.

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