The power of walking away from a non-committal man: 15 things you need to know

When it comes to dating, there are few things more off-putting than a guy who gives you mixed signals.

He tells you he wants to take things slow, then hits you with a double-shot of texts and calls in a day’s time. And when you’re ready to walk away, he’d shower you with love.

Ugh! At the very least, you want to find out where he stands so you can make the right decision. But he won’t even give that to you.

Girl, you have to stop wasting your time right now.

Here are 15 reasons why you should walk away from someone who can’t commit

1) It’s your way to prove to yourself that it’s their loss, not yours

Sometimes we cling so hard to someone because of our insecurities. We are scared that no one else decent will fancy us.

But girl, that’s just your imagination—that anxious voice in your head that’s trying to upstage your confidence.

At the end of it, you’ll see just how much time you’ve wasted just because you think you’re not good enough. You are good enough!

If you walk away when a man clearly doesn’t want to commit, then it’s their loss. If you stay even if it’s obvious that he won’t change his mind about you, then you’ll be the one losing out.

2) You’ll feel proud of yourself for making a good decision

There’s nothing more empowering than walking away from someone or something that’s clearly not doing you any good.

Guys who aren’t willing to commit often are because they aren’t ready to commit in the first place. So why would you let them waste your time like that?

When you walk away, you’ll feel better about yourself. You’ll realize how much of a catch you really are and that the relationship just wasn’t meant to be.

3) It’s healthier for both of you

If he’s not the kind of person who’s willing to put in the work and commit, he’s not the kind of person you want to be with anyways.

You deserve someone who is willing to put in as much effort into the relationship as you are. And as soon as you internalize that, you’ll feel better about yourself, and about leaving him behind.

You’ll no longer spend hours wondering when he’ll text you, or stay up late Googling for signs he’s just playing with you.

Whatever reasons he has for being unwilling to commit—maybe he isn’t ready, or maybe your non-negotiables conflict—they would have done nothing but cause conflict if you were to try to force a relationship anyways.

4) You don’t have to impress him any longer

It’s very common for guys to want to commit. But they’re also very self-conscious about it at the same time.

They’re afraid that if they commit, then you’ll lose interest in them. So they play hard to get and refuse to give you a clear answer.

Naturally, this only leaves you feeling insecure and frustrated because you are left with no clear answers when you ask yourself where you stand in the relationship.

But when you walk away from a guy who can’t commit, then there’s no longer a need to worry about keeping his interest in you.

You don’t have to prove to him that you’re deserving of his love (not that you should have in the first place anyways) because you don’t care anymore. You’re free.

5) You’ll have room for other kinds of love

When you walk away from someone who can’t commit, then you’ll realize that there’s so much more to love than just being in a relationship.

After all, what is a relationship but an agreement to call each other silly names and do things together?

The relationship itself isn’t love. It’s what you do—regardless of your relationship status—together that is love.

And when you open yourself up to that, you’ll see that there are other ways to express love than to simply declare commitment. Things like giving gifts, or being there for one another.

Perhaps it would even turn out that the reason he was so noncommittal towards you is because he loves you as a friend, and not as a romantic partner.

6) You’ll get rid of the fear of being alone

If you walk away from someone who can’t commit, then eventually, all the fears that come along with being in a relationship will begin to go away for good.

One of the reasons we cling to someone is because of fear. The moment we decide to walk away, it’s like we’re saying “F that! It’s better to be alone than to be miserable.” And that, my friend, is probably one of the best feelings in the world.

It’s you facing your fears directly in the eye and saying you’re not afraid anymore.

But sometimes that insecurity is just too strong. And even if you’re aware of it, you just can’t let go no matter how hard you try. You always end up getting sucked back in somehow.

So how can you overcome this insecurity that keeps dragging you back?

The most effective way is to tap into your personal power.

You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it. We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.

I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s helped thousands of people align work, family, spirituality, and love so they can unlock the door to their personal power.

He has a unique approach that combines traditional ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist. It’s an approach that uses nothing but your own inner strength – no gimmicks or fake claims of empowerment.

Because true empowerment needs to come from within.

In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can get rid of your insecurities so you can start building the life and relationships that you truly deserve.

So if you’re tired of living in self-doubt, you need to check out his life-changing advice. It might be your first step to dramatically improve your relationships.

Click here to watch the free video.

7) Your views on love and relationships will become healthier

We’re always trying to define what love is.

If you’re only exposed to the kind of love that feels like a lot of work, that feels like you have to beg for it, that feels forced, then you’d think that that’s how love should be.

You’ll start to get cynical and bitter about relationships and the way you see them. You might even think about swearing off love entirely!

But when you walk away from someone who can’t commit, then you’ll get the opportunity for a whole new outlook on love and what it really means to be in a healthy relationship.

8) Your self-esteem will increase dramatically

When you walk away from someone who can’t commit, then you’ll realize that you’re in control of your own happiness.

You don’t have to depend on a guy to make you feel great about yourself.

You’ll be able to take care of yourself. You won’t have to beg for things from guys and when they do give it to you, it won’t feel like a privilege. It will just be what you want and deserve.

9) You’ll get rid of your past self—the self that you were when you’re with them

When you walk away from someone who can’t commit, then you’ll realize that you’re not the person that you used to be.

Maybe you always had to tiptoe and play cool when you’re with them so they won’t get “suffocated” by you? Well now, you are free to be uncool and to stomp your feet on the ground like you used to.

You’ll get rid of the old self and replace it with a new one that’s better—a new self that doesn’t depend on relationships and doesn’t need a guy to feel great about herself.

10) You’ll start to understand men and why they act the way they do

If you walk away from someone who can’t commit, then you’ll realize how men behave.

Men in general are much more emotionally starved than people realize. And most of them, not knowing better, get confused by their feelings towards girls.

By reflecting on your relationship with him, you’ll be able to understand better how men think. You won’t find it so weird anymore when you see a guy being indecisive about a girl, for example.

He probably does like her, and might have even told her “I have feelings for you!”. But the feeling is friendship.

When you’re out of the situation you’re in, you’ll be able to assess people better—including yourself. And that can lead to wisdom so you can make better decisions in the future.

11) You won’t be wasting any more time

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Time is one of the most precious things you have. You only have so much of it in your life, and there’s only so many things you can give it to.

You might think that it’s fine to waste time with someone who can’t commit because you aren’t wasting that much time anyways.

But when you’re out of the situation and alone, then you’ll realize that every second counts, and that you certainly could have spent your time a bit more wisely.

12) You won’t have to deal with their drama anymore

Dealing with a guy who can’t seem to commit or decide on something is bound to be an experience full of frustration and drama. Step away from all that, and you step away from the drama.

You won’t have to deal with a guy who wants to be in a relationship but isn’t ready for one because he’s too immature or his inability to commit has made him think that he’s not ready for one.

You’ll be able to walk away from him and move on with your life without having to deal with his drama anymore.

13) You’ll get rid of the fear of being judged by others

If you walk away from someone who can’t commit, then you’ll realize that you don’t have to worry about what other people think anymore.

When you’re out of the situation, it’s like a weight is lifted off your shoulders and you’re no longer worried about what others think of you.

And that feeling is like nothing else in the world…it’s liberating and amazing!

14) You won’t feel lost

If you walk away from someone who can’t commit, then you’ll realize that you’re not in any situation that’s out of your control.

You won’t ever have to ask yourself a thousand questions every single day anymore. You won’t have to ask yourself “Why am I here?” and “What do I want?” or worse, “Why am I with this man?”

Or if you do, you’d not sound bitter while asking yourself those questions.

You’ll realize that no, you’re not lost. You just had a bad experience and now you’re looking for a relationship that works and is compatible with your values.

You don’t have to change a single thing.

15) You’re making room for someone better

If you walk away from someone who can’t commit, then you’ll realize that you’re making room for someone better.

You’ll be making room for someone who can commit because they’re ready and have been waiting for you.

And when you make room for them, they’ll be the one who makes room for you.

Who knows they’ve been waiting for you to get rid of this non-committal man so they can finally enter your life?

Lat words

You should walk away from someone who can’t commit because you deserve to have a relationship with someone who’s committed to you.

If he can’t commit, then he’s not ready for a relationship and that’s fine.

If he’s not ready for a relationship with you, then he won’t be ready for one with anyone else either so it doesn’t matter if he has the potential to be committed or not.

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I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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