The kind of girl guys regret losing: 12 main qualities

There are some girls who walk out the door and a man rarely thinks of them again.

Then there are others who will weigh on his mind and heart for years to come.

Here’s the difference.

The kind of girl guys regret losing: 12 main qualities

Every person has a lot to offer to the right person.

But certain women share characteristics and personality traits that make them unforgettable to men.

These are the women who a man can never forget. These are the kind of girl guys regret losing.

1) A girl who sticks to her guns

First and foremost, These are the kind of girl guys regret losing is a girl who sticks to her principles and doesn’t back down for anyone.

We all know that women are strong. Just look at how long they’ve been dealing with men, for one thing…

Now that I’ve got that little sexist joke out of the way, let’s think about this more deeply:

Guys won’t regret losing a girl who basically feels she’s not good enough and looks down on herself.

They won’t regret losing a woman who changes and adapts to every twist and turn or whenever he asks her something on a whim.

The kind of girl guys regret losing is a girl who knows her worth and sticks to her guns.

As relationship writer Yvonne Peters-Adzimah puts it:

“A girl who loves herself just the way she is, accepts her weaknesses, and thrives on her strengths is a delight to be around.

“Rather than focus on the negatives, she will highlight all the positives.

“It is exhausting being around someone who is constantly putting themselves down and looking for validation.”

2) A girl who’s not like all the rest

What sets one woman apart from any other women in a crowd?

Well, it’s a trick question.

Because the thing is:

Every girl is set apart in the crowd for the friends, family and partner who love her.

Every person we love and care about is unique to us in a specific way that makes them memorable and special for us.

That’s why men love a girl who is unique to them:

For a college professor this could be a young lady who’s really into makeup and volleyball and lives life spontaneously and with great physical energy.

For a football player with a circle of hot but not overly intellectual women around, a unique girl might be one who likes to read Dostoyevsky and discuss philosophy.

The point is this:

Uniqueness depends on context. It depends what a man is used to.

And when he meets and dates someone outside the “usual,” it’s a woman he values enormously and will terribly regret losing.

3) A girl who loves herself

The kind of girl guys regret losing is a girl who knows her own value and loves herself.

It goes the same way for the kind of guy girls regret losing as well.

Self-respect and self-worth is really so crucial, often in ways that we don’t even fully realize.

So often, people who seem ideal on the surface end up in relationships that crash and burn in awful ways.

Invariably, it turns out that they have deep cracks inside themselves.

The outside may be great, but the inside often needs work.

The answer is contained in the relationship you have with yourself.

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4) A girl who’s loving but not over-the-top

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One of the most important character traits of the kind of girl guys regret losing is being affectionate.

Men can become infatuated with an ice queen or even addicted to her in a way, but it’s hard for them to truly love a woman who never shows love …

… Unless they themselves are stuck in an unhealthy avoidant attachment style.

Instead, a healthy and desirable man is interested in a woman who shows love but is not overly doting or over-the-top.

He wants a woman who initiates a kiss about as often as he does, not a lot more or a lot less.

This is the kind of girl guys regret losing:

A woman who lights up their world with affection and they do the same for her in kind.

The kind of reciprocity that they know won’t be easy to find again.

5) A girl who has boundaries she won’t cross

No man wants a nagging woman who treats him like her possession, but at the same time a high-quality man wants a woman who has firm limits she won’t cross.

This is the kind of girl guys regret losing: a girl who says she won’t cross certain lines and then doesn’t cross them.

The kind of girl who blocks somebody and they stay blocked.

The kind of girl who has beliefs and values that don’t shift depending on who she’s dating and who won’t shift her stand just because she craves validation or acceptance.

A man wants a woman who’s a challenge and who sets clear rules for him so he knows where he stands.

This is the kind of high-quality lady who a guy will always know that he should have held on to.

6) A girl who’s comfortable with her sexuality

Sexual dynamics and attraction are obviously crucial in a relationship.

At the same time, pure physical desire isn’t enough to sustain a full and wholesome connection.

The kind of girl guys regret losing is comfortable with her sexuality but doesn’t flaunt it.

She knows how to turn her man on and make him go loco and she’s also got a way about teasing him and making him wait for pleasure that he can’t get out of his mind.

Knowing that you turn him on and using it is a great accessory to have.

He’s not going to forget the way you excite him more than any woman he’s met before.

And no matter how many others he has in his life, he’ll always remember the type of girl who was thriving in her own skin and gave him the shivers every time he touched her.

That’s not something you forget, y’all.

7) A girl who knows what she wants from life and relationships

It’s kind of ironic that half of getting what you want in life is first figuring out what you want in life, but that’s just kind of how it goes I suppose.

The kind of girl guys regret losing knows what she wants in life and in love.

There’s not much vagueness around her expectations or desires and she has a strong will to achieving what she desires.

Whatever falls short of her standards gets left behind, and whatever or whoever wants her attention and affection has to earn it.

This is very captivating to men.

Peters-Adzimah again:

“A girl who knows what she wants from a relationship is clear in her communication and dealings.

“She’s transparent, all in, and she gives as much as she takes from her partner.”

If you’re looking for this kind of clarity about what you want out of life and others it can be confusing to know where to turn.

Let’s get down to brass tacks:

Relationships can be so confusing and difficult, and both men and women can end up in a place where they’re simply stymied and at their wit’s end.

While the traits I’m writing about here in this article will help you deal with breakups and navigating the pain of loss, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.

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8) A girl who tells the truth

Honesty goes a long way it really does, especially these days.

Let’s be honest there is so much opportunity to cheat and mess around on apps and smartphones these days that a loyal partner is worth more than their price in gold.

The kind of girl guys regret losing is one who’s honest and tells the truth consistently.

This is the kind of lady who a guy really respects and values because she’s rare and high value.

It doesn’t happen everyday that you meet somebody you both trust and love.

When you lose someone of that caliber it’s another level of pain.

He’s going to be kicking himself for years about letting you go or having you leave him.

The truth is sexy.

The more you tell it the more your man will be hooked on your radical honesty.

9) A girl who looks after herself

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Think about your daily routine and where you fit in that hierarchy of needs.

You should be at the top or very near the top of your pyramid of priorities.

You should look after yourself consistently and to a high standard.

What does this mean?

It means physically and hygienically of course, but also emotionally and psychologically.

The kind of girl guys regret losing is one who values herself highly and never gaslights herself.

This is a woman who respects and values her own judgments and experiences.

A woman who knows when to take a break, turn down a date or even admit she’s not doing well.

There’s that honesty again, which is so key in so many areas of attraction and dating.

A woman who looks after herself sends a clear and direct signal to the universe and to all of mankind:

I’m worth it, so you’d better be worth it, too if you want my time!

Damn, girl. What’s your number?

10) A girl who saves her love for one man

Men want a challenge, a chase, an adventure. Sure, that’s all true.

But they also want a woman who’s not “just another girl.”

What does this mean?

It means they want to know that the love being shown to them is, well, for them.

A loving and flirtatious woman may be very sexy and captivating.

But she’s not going to attract a man’s real commitment and love if he never quite knows where her heart is wandering.

The kind of girl guys regret losing is one who they know for sure loved them.

They regret losing a girl who saves her love for one man.

Because a man who loses this kind of woman knows deep down that he lost big.

And he also lies awake at night in torture (even in the arms of someone new) thinking about her giving that love to one man again…a new man.

11) A girl who plays to win

The maternal and supportive side of a woman keys into something deep in men, but so does the challenging and dominant part of a woman.

Men want somebody who’s a true partner in crime and a potential mother to their future offspring.

They want a woman who’s a badass, even if it’s in her own quiet way.

The kind of girl guys regret losing is a girl who plays to win.

Whether that’s in business, love, athletics or any other area, they fall in love with excellence.

Looking around after losing a woman like this it’s impossible for a man to lie to himself and say it’s no big deal.

He knows it is a big deal.

He knows he lost out.

He knows that the girl he once loved is out kicking more of life’s ass and he feels a pang of regret that he’s no longer by her side as she does it.

12) A girl who isn’t just in it for the good times

In marriage, a man and wife pledge their love to each other through thick and thin, sickness and health, poverty and wealth.

Any relationship, married or not, rests in some basis on a similar understanding.

That understanding is very simple, but not easy:

It’s the understanding that the bond between the two of you is not just transactional or temporary and is based on more than mutual advantage.

It’s the understanding that you truly care for each other and will be there if and when times get hard.

Clearly that’s not always the reality or what happens, but it’s certainly the ideal.

And the kind of girl guys regret losing embodies this.

She makes her love felt as a real force, not just a temporary affection.

She makes it crystal clear through word and deed that she’s not a fairweather partner and that she’ll be there through the good times and bad.

That’s hard to find, and if you do you absolutely hate to lose it.

There’ll never be another…

As I said at the beginning, some women walk out of a guy’s life and leave him mostly resigned or indifferent.

Others walk out of his life and leave him devastated, stumped and full of regret.

The difference isn’t just about looks, status or any of those outer qualifiers that many outside observers may notice.

No, it’s about the inner deep qualities of the one who left and how much she meant to the guy in question.

Every loss isn’t the same, and every breakup doesn’t hurt equally.

Knowing you lost a good woman is nightmare fuel. Every man dreads this: dumping or being dumped by a woman who he knows he should be holding on to.

Losing out on having a partner who is once-in-a-lifetime.

The above qualities are the kind of attributes that men cherish and fall in love with in a woman.

Having to see someone like this walk away hurts badly and leaves a man full of regret.

Because he knows deep down there’ll never be another quite like her…

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Paul R. Brian is a freelance journalist and writer who has reported from around the world, focusing on religion, culture and geopolitics. Follow him on and visit his website at

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