Ladies, we’ve all had to kiss a few frogs until this point. I know I have — and it was pretty disappointing because a few times, I thought I finally found the one.
I tried following passion, I tried stability, I tried funny and charming.
But you know what? Those things can be important, but none of them are the one thing that truly matters.
In fact, the best relationship of your life will be with a man who takes responsibility.
Here are 9 reasons why.
1) You can trust him fully
If there’s one thing I’ve learned through my relationships, it’s that trust is vital.
And a man who takes responsibility is someone who you can 100% rely on.
He keeps his promises, he follows through on his commitments, and he stays accountable for his actions.
If he makes mistakes, rather than trying to hide them or lie about them, he owns up to them and works with you to find the best solution.
If there’s something he knows he can’t follow through on, he doesn’t lead you on. He tells you straight up what he isn’t able to commit to.
And you are never left wondering what he’s really thinking, cause he’s straight with you about his feelings and thoughts.
I finally found a man who does all of this, and I can’t tell you how much I cherish him for it. It’s definitely the root of happiness in any relationship.
2) He communicates extremely well
Another amazing thing about dating a man who takes responsibility is that he’s an amazing communicator.
Now, of course, not everyone is born knowing how to communicate well. Some people, quite frankly, suck at it at first.
But a man who takes responsibility understands the importance of working on this skill.
If someone tells him he needs to communicate better, he will listen up and take that person seriously.
And gradually, he learns the skills to listen actively, express his thoughts clearly, and navigate conflicts and misunderstandings in a healthy way.
A man like this creates a safe space for open and honest conversations, which I’m sure you’ll appreciate.
3) He’s emotionally mature
Ladies, have you ever dated an emotionally immature man?
If yes, I’m sure I don’t need to explain to you why this is so important.
Unfortunately, I found this out the hard way. I was with a guy who I had great chemistry and a lot in common with.
But unfortunately, when things got rough, they completely fell to pieces. He let his emotions get the better of him, had tunnel vision for only his point of view during disagreements, and had no patience to navigate challenges with me.
All it takes to fix this is a man who takes responsibility. He’ll be self-aware and reflect on his emotions, so he can understand and manage them better.
He’ll be able to treat you with empathy and respect, especially during moments of conflict where it matters the most.
4) He’s committed to growth and personal development
When you imagine yourself in the best relationship of your life, you probably don’t imagine one with a man who is incapable of growth.
You need someone who is interested in developing himself as a person, and who is willing to admit to and work on his mistakes.
That’s another reason why you should be with a man who takes responsibility.
It’s easy to talk about responsibility when things are easy, when nothing goes wrong. But it only really matters during the hard moments, where it may be uncomfortable.
That’s when your man needs courage to reflect on his actions, learn from his mistakes, and make positive changes.
This will not only benefit him, but it will also allow you to grow alongside him — and the both of you as a couple.
5) He shares responsibilities with you
In the best relationship, responsibilities should be shared.
I’m not just talking about housework or childcare, if there are kids in the picture. It’s also where to invest money, as well as even simple things like planning how to spend your holidays or preparing dinner.
A man who takes responsibility will want to participate in decisions together with you, rather than taking the lazy approach and leaving it all up to you.
He also won’t hog the responsibility in order to have everything his way.
He understands that sharing certain things comes with being with a partner, and he promotes a sense of balance and equality.
6) He is able to support you emotionally
Imagine you’re with a guy who’s a 10, but… he can’t support you emotionally. In other words, he doesn’t give you a safe space to share your emotions, he doesn’t listen without judgment, and he doesn’t offer any comfort when you need it.
How can you call this the best relationship of your life? The answer is, you can’t.
Just like emotional maturity which we mentioned earlier, emotional support is a crucial aspect of a happy and healthy relationship.
In the relationship I mentioned earlier, I felt pretty unhappy because I often felt like my ex wasn’t “on my side”. Instead of trying to understand my emotions, it’s like he swept them right off the table without any consideration.
I longed to feel heard, understood, and validated – and with my current partner I finally do. That’s thanks to him being a man who takes responsibility.
7) He’s good at solving conflict
In a perfect world, our relationship would have no conflict whatsoever. (Have you ever seen Disney princesses fight with Prince Charming?)
But well, reality works in a different way, and conflict is an inevitable part of it.
So what you need to keep your relationship strong even through disagreements is a man who takes responsibility.
This means he approaches differences of opinion with maturity and a willingness to hear your side with an open mind.
He doesn’t shy away from difficult conversations or blame others. Instead, he takes ownership for his part of the conflict, seeks compromise, and actively works towards resolution.
Ultimately, this will really strengthen the connection between you both. At least, that’s definitely one of the things I appreciate most about my partner.
8) He respects you deeply
Did you know that when a man takes responsibility, it also means he respects you deeply?
I didn’t think these two things were closely related, but I can see it in my current relationship.
A man who takes responsibility understands boundaries — both his and yours — and respects you as an individual.
He acknowledges his own strengths and weaknesses, and doesn’t let his ego get in the way of letting you take care of things that you can do better than him.
He admires you for your goals and autonomy, and rather than feel threatened by them, he supports you with full respect.
Of course, this has to go both ways — and mutual respect forms the foundation of a loving and truly fulfilling relationship.
9) He takes responsibility for his own happiness
When we think of relationships, we think of love, joy, and all the lovely butterflies in our stomach.
We often associate happiness with relationships — but really, the best relationship of your life will be with someone who takes responsibility for his own happiness, regardless of you.
This doesn’t mean he doesn’t get joy from being with you. But it means that you are not there to fill a void in his life. He is whole and fulfilled as a person individually, with or without a partner.
He takes the time to pursue his passions, cultivate his interests, and nurture his well-being. He understands the importance of self-care and self-growth.
And as a result, he can truly bring his best self to the relationship. He doesn’t place the burden of his happiness on you, nor does he expect you to fulfill all of his needs and desires.
Instead, he actively participates in creating a happy and fulfilling relationship by taking ownership of his own emotions and well-being. And, he supports you to do the same.
I can see the huge difference that this mindset makes, thinking back to my past relationships and my current one.
So it’s my biggest wish for you that you’ll find someone who can do the same for you.
Ready to find a man who takes responsibility?
I hope the tips above have convinced you how important it is to find a man who takes responsibility.
When I finally did, I realized that he checks all the boxes of what’s truly important in a relationship.
From emotional maturity and support to handling conflict, he’s the whole package.
It will take a bit of getting to know the guy for you to be able to tell if he’s a man like this — it’s not something you can tell right off the bat.
But I promise, taking the bit of extra time is definitely worth it.