Fellow introverts, hear me out!
You’ve heard of the alpha female: the influential, successful, outspoken, and outgoing female leader.
But have you heard of our version of the same?
She’s also a born leader and equally as powerful and successful – yet she’s more reserved and tends to keep to herself.
If these traits sound familiar, you may be a lone wolf without you knowing.
A lone wolf is another term for the sigma female – an introverted yet powerful, successful, natural-born leader.
But wait, there’s more.
Here are 10 surprising facts about sigma females you probably didn’t know about.
Check it out and see if you tick any more lone wolf boxes.
Let’s get started!
1) She is a free spirit
This is my favorite sigma female trait, so I will pin this to the top.
A sigma female lives an intentionally carefree life.
But this doesn’t mean she has no goals or dreams. She has.
It’s just that she’s reached a level of maturity that allows her to have an I don’t give a f*ck attitude when it comes to the pressures and opinions of society.
She does something because she wants to. She acts a certain way that is aligned with her values and beliefs. She doesn’t do things because they’re popular or the trend.
She is fiercely independent and doesn’t need anyone’s approval to do or say something.
A sigma female is more of a leader than a follower. She will fight so hard for what she believes in that you will be infected with the same level of passion whenever you’re around her.
2) She is socially selective
Another thing a sigma female does intentionally is to narrow her social circle.
Because of this, a lone wolf is often misunderstood as a snob.
The truth is, as much as she’d like to be Miss Congeniality, she doesn’t have time for it. She’s not interested in superficial chit-chats or friendships formed over gossip or a common enemy.
A sigma female values deeper connections, so she cuts down her friend list to only the most trusted and authentic ones.
Think about it:
The fewer people in your inner circle, the more time you’d have to enjoy quality time with them individually. In the long run, more time spent together equals deeper, more meaningful friendships.
A lone wolf puts more weight on quality over quantity. So for her, when it comes to friendship, less is more.
3) She will be your ride or die
Call yourself lucky if you’re inside a lone wolf’s circle because you’ll never find a friend as loyal as her.
Having a sigma female as your friend means you’ll never have to face the struggles of life alone.
A sigma female will always stand up for you. She will not tolerate anyone disrespecting or hurting you.
A sigma female’s loyalty also means she’s comfortable being brutally honest with you. Even if it means giving you the hard truths that others would otherwise conceal or sugarcoat. Keeping it real is her way of protecting you.
A sigma female will be your ride or die til the end – literally and figuratively. Because you can always rely on a lone wolf to take your secrets to the grave.
With a friend like this, one can’t help but wonder what a sigma female’s love life is like.
But that’s another topic for another day.
Let’s keep going and discover more surprising facts about how you can tell one is a sigma female:
4) She is a matter-of-fact person
Outside the realms of friendships and personal relationships, a sigma female looks past emotions and approaches things pragmatically.
For example, the lone wolf will stick to facts and figures when discussing project updates in a meeting. You won’t hear her influence you with their biases or personal opinions.
Another example is being stuck at the airport due to a canceled flight. Others would be dwelling on what they could be doing and where they should be had their flight arrived on time.
But not the sigma female.
She accepts the cancellation as soon as she learns about it and makes alternative plans to keep herself occupied until the next scheduled flight.
This is just one of the many admirable sigma female traits: she focuses on what is, rather than wasting her energy stressing about what could or should be.
5) She has a solution-focused mindset
Not only will she shift her focus from what could be to what is, but a lone wolf will also shift her energies to finding the solution rather than sitting on the problem.
One of my friends comes to mind when I think about a solution-focused woman:
She was going through her computer when she mindlessly deleted some files and emptied her recycle bin. Before she knew it, she permanently lost a very important document.
I would’ve probably been pulling my hair out if that happened to me, but not my friend, who happens to be a sigma woman.
She was quick on her feet to use the opportunity to declutter her computer’s folders to avoid future accidental file deletions.
Whatever the problem may be, you can count on the sigma female to make herself a part of the solution.
6) She thinks out of the box
You will be amazed at the lone wolf’s creativity when coming up with solutions. That’s because their brains are wired to be out-of-the-box thinkers.
I guess it’s also part of their non-conformist and quirky personalities.
One of my favorite out-of-the-box thinkers would be Bette Nesmith Graham. She’s the inventor of liquid paper, and the idea came to her while working as a secretary.
Back then, she had a very critical boss, so she feared losing her job because of her multiple typing errors. Nearly three decades later, she sold the product of her out-of-the-box thinking for a whopping $47.5 million.
Her ability to come up with groundbreaking solutions is one of the qualities of a sigma female that makes her a great leader.
7) She indulges in solitude
A common misconception about sigma females (and introverts in general) is that they’re either super shy, depressed, or dislike people, so they isolate themselves.
These assumptions can’t be any further from the truth.
Some people fail to realize that sigma females embrace solitude as their opportunity to reflect on themselves. This is characteristic of introverts and sigma females – they are introspective.
Have you noticed that a lot of introverts are successful in life?
A lot of sigma females are influential leaders despite their solitary nature.
That’s because, contrary to popular notions, solitude positively affects our personal growth.
But don’t just take my word for it. Here’s the science that proves it:
A study performed by psychologists in 2003 discovered that solitude can effectively cultivate creativity, concentration, and introspection – qualities that improve a person’s decision-making, problem-solving, and leadership skills.
“Solitude is creativity’s best friend, and solitude is refreshment for our souls.” ― Naomi Judd
8) She has a solid moral compass
She may not always follow the rules of society, but a sigma will never, ever go against her moral compass.
A sigma woman will come out swinging against anyone who goes against her values and beliefs.
In a group of workplace bullies, she will be unafraid to defend the victim, even if it means standing up against the entire office, including the boss.
She will mince no words calling out a racist client, even if it means losing a million-dollar account.
She doesn’t give a sh*t about who you are. Because to a sigma, if you’re wrong, you’re wrong, and no amount of money or power will ever make it right.
9) She is less of a talker but more of a listener
When she isn’t being vocal about her values, a sigma female tends to be quiet.
But this doesn’t mean that she isn’t a great conversationalist.
In fact, it’s the opposite.
Sigmas are the best people to engage in conversation because they listen actively and respond empathetically. Your words don’t fall on deaf ears with a sigma female.
Well, unless you’re blabbering about something extremely shallow. In which case, you lose the attention of a sigma woman within seconds.
Because if there’s one thing that turns off a sigma female, it’s mindless chatter.
10) She’s in a lifelong competition with herself
I once read someone ask, “What is a sigma female’s weakness?” and perfectionism came out as the top answer.
But I have to disagree with this.
The way I see it, the introspective nature of the sigma female enhances her self-awareness.
And when she knows herself well, she realizes what she needs to work on to better herself.
So no, I don’t see it as perfectionism (which is not entirely a bad thing). Instead, I see it as an admirable passion and dedication to self-development.
The sigma woman has an unmatched level of wisdom that pushes her to work on herself – not so she can be better than anybody, but so that she can be better than yesterday’s version of herself every day.
Are sigma females rare?
I don’t think they are.
They just lack recognition. The attention has always been on the alpha female so the sigma female remains an underrecognized, seemingly unfamiliar group of women.
The irony is, the sigma females like it that way.
They don’t like the limelight, so they will remain in stealth mode for as long as possible.
Sigma females may be a lesser-known female personality type, but one thing’s for sure, sigmas are an exceptional group of women!
So, are you one of them?