15 subtle signs you’re giving off negative vibes (without even realizing it)

Ever notice that people look uncomfortable around you –  especially when you’re talking?

Or maybe you have a hard time making friends or staying in a relationship for more than a couple of weeks.

If that’s the case, you’ve probably asked yourself, ”Is there something wrong with me?”

Turns out that you could be doing something unintentionally that makes people want to steer clear of you.

But don’t worry, I’m here to help you pinpoint your bad behaviors so that the only vibes you end up giving off are positive..

Here are 15 subtle signs you’re giving off negative vibes:

1) You’re too opinionated

Listen up, it’s one thing to have an opinion and to speak out, it’s another to have an opinion about everything, even things you know nothing about.

If you feel like you know best and won’t listen to reason, you’re gonna give off negative vibes and annoy people.

So while you may think you’re educating others or proving a point, you are in fact making them think twice about ever getting into another conversation with you.

2) You don’t let others speak

Well, that’s another thing.

You get so carried away talking about your experiences and sharing your opinions that you forget that other people have something to say too.

Conversations are a two-way street and you have to be willing to listen to other people and hear what they have to say, even if their points of view differ from yours.

Otherwise, you’re just giving a speech or having a monologue and that’s no fun for anyone but you.

3) You’re pushy

I don’t know what it is about pushy people, maybe you think you’re being helpful, but I assure you, you’re not!

You’re just making people very uncomfortable.

What you’re doing is imposing your desires and opinions on other people and totally disregarding their feelings and even boundaries.

And it doesn’t have to be about big things either.

For example, you could keep insisting someone try some food even though they’ve clearly stated that they don’t want to – more than once.

4) You like to gossip

Now, you may think that gossip is just a bit of harmless fun but you’re wrong.

It’s neither fun nor harmless.

Gossip involves spreading rumors, speculating about other people’s private lives, and sharing confidential information.

Not only can it be hurtful to the person in question, but it can have some serious consequences on their lives.

For example, let’s say you heard that so-and-so was cheating on his wife. You rush to share that bit of information with other people and before you know it, someone tells his wife.

But here’s the thing, he never cheated on her! In fact, he’s completely devoted to her.

Your gossip risks ending their marriage!

Oh and another thing, not everyone likes to gossip.

Some of us feel awkward in the company of gossips and will try to avoid their bad vibes whenever possible.

5) You’re judgemental

The truth is that nobody is perfect and for a lot of people, it can be difficult to be around someone who’s so critical and disapproving.

From, “Is that what you’re gonna wear?” to “He’s not good enough for you, you can do better!” to “You’re gonna spend your free time in an animal shelter instead of doing something useful?” judgmental comments are hurtful.

By being judgmental, you’re imposing your values and beliefs on someone instead of considering what they want and need.

This is a very toxic behavior that is sure to give off negative vibes and keep people away.

6) You’re a pathological liar

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If you find yourself lying for the sake of lying, then you should know that you’re giving off bad vibes.


I’m not a shrink so I don’t know why you’re doing it, but I can tell you that other people can feel like something is off when they’re around a pathological liar.

7) You’re passive-aggressive

Instead of coming out and telling someone you’ve got a problem with them or you’re angry because of something they did, you pretend everything is fine.

But then, because you’re hurt or angry, you’ll try to get back at them with sarcastic comments, giving them the silent treatment, or by telling them stuff like, “I do so much for everyone, and this is the thanks I get.”

This is unhealthy, aggressive behavior that’s no way to have a healthy relationship with someone.

When you act that way, you can be sure that you’re giving off negative vibes, even though you feel like the victim.

8) You give people backhanded compliments

Newsflash: Backhanded comments are mean and most of us don’t find them entertaining.

When you give people backhanded comments like, “You’re smarter than you look” or “You look good for someone your age” you’re essentially being a bully.

And guess what?

That’s how most people see you, as a bully.

Not knowing what the next thing to come out of your mouth will be, people just don’t feel good being around you.

9) You like to make fun of people

Again: mean, bully behavior.

Why do you like to make fun of people?

None of us liked bullies when we were kids, and we certainly don’t like them as grow-ups.

There’s definitely a bad energy around someone who likes to laugh at the expense of others and most of us want to steer clear of such people.

We’re grown-ups and are looking to spend time with other grown-ups.

10) You act superior to waiters and other people in service

If you think you’re better than someone because of your social status or how much money you make, you can be sure that you’re giving off negative vibes.

When you treat waiters, cleaning staff, baristas, and other people working in service like (pardon my French) **it, you’re showing a very negative side of yourself.

Personally, I’d rather be alone than in the company of someone who thinks they’re better than everyone else. In fact, I used to have a favorite café that I now boycott because the manager was rude to the staff.

You need to treat everyone with the same respect and consideration – irrespective of their background if you don’t want to scare everyone away. That’s my two cents.

11) You don’t like animals

Never trust a person who doesn’t like animals.

I’m sorry but I have a hard time understanding how someone doesn’t like animals, and I’m not alone.

If you go to the home of someone with a cat and dog and don’t attempt to interact with them, except to “shoo” them away, you’re sure to give off bad vibes.

Unless you have a phobia, telling someone with a pet, “I don’t like cats” or “Dogs aren’t meant to be indoors” is a sure way to never get invited over again.

12) You pretend to be friends with people and then talk behind their backs

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Here’s the deal, I know a few people who like to bad mouth their “so-called” friends behind their backs.

And guess what?

That kind of behavior makes me sick because either:

  • they’re being terrible friends for talking trash about their friends!


Not sure which is worse but either way, it’s a very nasty habit.

I also can’t help but wonder what they say about me when I’m not around.

13) You love to complain

Look, it’s one thing when you’re actually going through a hard time and have something legit to complain about, and quite another thing when you’re just complaining about everything all the time.

Your back is sore. The weather is bad. Your work sucks. Your coffee is too weak. Your neighbor plays their music too loud. Your coworkers are stupid. You hate spicy food… the list goes on and on.

If all you do is complain and you never ever say anything positive then there’s no doubt about you giving off negative vibes.

That kind of behavior is toxic and drains the people around you of their energy, trust me I know – my aunt is a constant complainer. I like to call her an energy vampire.

Learn to focus on the good stuff and practice gratitude or risk spending the rest of your life alone.

14) You love being the center of attention

Now, there’s nothing wrong with being outgoing and friendly.

There’s nothing wrong with enjoying positive attention from people.

The problem arises when you become so obsessed with getting attention – be it positive or negative – that you don’t give anyone else a chance to express themselves.

Your need for attention could actually explain many of the things you do that give off bad vibes – like gossiping, complaining, and making fun of people…

15) You are too comfortable

I’ll never forget this one time back in high school when some friends came back to my place and we were hanging out when one of them got into my bed, under the covers, fully dressed in her outside clothes!

I was horrified, I mean, my bed is the cleanest spot on the planet and there she was soiling my sheets with her dirty clothes.

She was being too comfortable in my home and that will stay with me forever. That’s how she was with everything, needless to say, I ended the friendship.

If this sounds like something you’d do, it means you have no boundaries and by being too comfortable in your behavior you risk giving off bad vibes and making everyone else uncomfortable.

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Jelena Dincic

Jelena has a background in photography and film-making and has spent the last few years as a content editor and copywriter. Jelena is a citizen of the world who is passionate about travel and learning about new cultures. She’s a foodie who loves to cook. And, as an art lover, she is always experimenting with new art mediums. When she’s not at her computer, she’s usually out and about in some forest with her dogs.

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