6 subtle signs your man will stay loyal to you for your life, according to psychology

As much as I wish I had a crystal ball that lets me see into the future, I am just an ordinary human.

Yawn. Boring, I know.

But it’s not all so bad. Psychology is basically the closest we can ever come to predicting what’s to come. And the more we know about this subtle science, the more likely we are to read people’s characters and make informed decisions.

So, how can you tell your man will stay loyal to you for your life?

You can’t.

What you can do, though, is to make an educated guess.

Ready?

These are the 6 subtle signs you’re in a relationship with someone who may remain loyal.

1) He has a realistic approach to relationships and sexual attraction

It is often men who tell you that you’re the most beautiful woman in the world who end up seeking other beautiful women behind your back.

And it is often men who keep their feet planted firmly on the ground who make high-quality decisions in spite of temptation.

When I was younger, I used to think that my partner should only ever be attracted to me. And while that sometimes truly is the case – especially during the honeymoon stage when all you can think of is your new partner – sooner or later, the reality hits you.

Just because you’re taken doesn’t mean you’re not going to find other people attractive.

What matters isn’t how others make you feel; it’s what you do about it.

Psychologists agree with me on this. One study, for example, shows that it is very common for people in committed relationships to have a small crush on more than one person. Most people don’t take any action to pursue that alternative connection, though.

If your man is deeply loyal, there’s also a high chance he will purposely cut off his communication with the person he finds attractive so that he can pour all his energy into your relationship.

A man who has a realistic outlook on how sexual attraction works is much more likely to be faithful and loyal because he’s not going to be in denial about his feelings and will be able to take the necessary steps to ensure his attention is focused wholly on you.

2) He has his priorities straight

The reason loyal men can keep their cool and take necessary precautions when faced with a challenge is that they have their priorities straight.

Yep, it’s as simple as that.

They understand that a bit of fun isn’t worth years of a committed relationship.

They know that a lack of effort will eventually lead to the disintegration of the connection you’ve built together, and so they keep actively pursuing you.

They know that their future lies with you, and they try their best to make sure you’re both journeying toward that goal – happy that your trust remains unbroken.

If you’re in a relationship with someone who prioritizes his close relationships, who shows up for the people he loves in the best way he knows how, and who cherishes what he has…

Bingo.

It’s another sign your man is likely to remain loyal to you.

3) He is super vulnerable with you

“Being vulnerable creates emotional intimacy and connection. Opening yourself to your partner shows and builds trust and helps them understand you on a deeper level,” says couples counsellor Kari Rusnak, MA, LPC, CMHC.

“A way to increase trust is to test it out, and by letting your partner in, you are giving them an opportunity to earn that trust. This can increase empathy from your partner as they get to understand you in a new way. It allows them to be there for you and meet your needs. For yourself, it can improve self-acceptance, and things that once felt vulnerable can no longer feel that way.”

Does this sound like something you and your partner have done in the past and continue to do so?

If your first thought is, “Of course. Who wouldn’t?”, it’s yet another sign you’re dating someone loyal.

Why?

Because vulnerability isn’t a given. In fact, plenty of men struggle to properly open up to their partners, especially when it comes to past wounds that are still quite raw.

A man who is vulnerable with you – who lets you see the darkest and most wounded parts of himself – is someone who has decided to put his trust in you.

And that very likely means he is committed to you and plans for it to remain that way in the future.

4) He is open with you about his whereabouts

If you recognize these signs your relationship is probably going to last 6 subtle signs your man will stay loyal to you for your life, according to psychology

Look, I’m not saying you should be able to trace him on FindMy – knowing where your partner is based on their location is something that every couple has to decide for themselves.

And both choices – to trace or not to trace – are valid.

However, you also shouldn’t constantly wonder where he is.

I’ve actually met women who had no clue where their husbands were at any given point. They just came home, had something to eat, watched TV, and off they went again – without telling anyone what they were up to.

If you and your partner live together, it’s completely normal for them to update you about their plans so that you know when they’re coming home.

And when they do come home, it’s a common occurrence for you to discuss what you did during the day.

If your partner flips out when you want to know more about their whereabouts or who they’re spending time with, it’s a red flag.

Remember: a loyal man has no reason to be secretive.

5) His moral principles manifest themselves in his relationships with others

Loyalty within a romantic relationship is rarely based on nothing but pure love for one’s partner.

More often than not, it stems from one’s personality and principles.

A man who is loyal just because he’s smitten with you may throw his loyalty out the window the moment his rose-tinted glasses fall off, be it five months or five years down the line.

A man of integrity who upholds certain moral principles, however…

You can count on him to stick by his word and do what’s right.

So, how can you tell you’re dating a man of honor?

Look at how he treats others. No, not just you. Not just people he finds sexually attractive. Not just close friends.

I’m talking workers in the service industry. I’m talking family members. I’m talking random strangers who are in need of help.

The way he talks to people he isn’t madly in love with may very well be how he’ll talk to you in a decade’s time.

Pay attention.

6) He respects you and your boundaries

Finally, a loyal man doesn’t stand by your side through thick and thin just because he feels he has to uphold some kind of duty.

He does so because he wants to, and perhaps even more importantly, because he respects you enough to always strive to be his best version for you.

He respects your boundaries, your autonomy, and your accomplishments. He respects you as an equal partner whose happiness is priceless. He respects your commitment to the relationship.

And due to all that respect, he wants to do right by you.

As Peter Gray, Ph.D., research professor at Boston College, says, “In relationships, respect may be even more crucial than love.”

He adds, “Love is not all you need, nor all your wife or husband needs, and certainly not all your children need. We all need respect, especially from those who are closest and most intimately connected with us.”

So, there you have it: the six signs your man will stay loyal to you forever.

Again, I have no proof to offer; no clear conclusion that will completely put you at ease.

But that’s okay. Uncertainty is part of the whole love business, after all. 

The best you can do is to make an informed decision based on your context and the signs described above.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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