8 subtle signs of a grandiose narcissist that most people overlook, according to psychology

If you’ve ever been close to a grandiose narcissist, you may have felt overlooked, disregarded, or even manipulated at times.

The subtleties of their behavior can be easily missed, leading many people to feel both confused and frustrated.

You might notice them showing off excessively or lacking empathy, yet they may also charm you into believing they’re the best thing since sliced bread.

Grandiose narcissism is not a personal trait that someone chooses to have. It’s a complex psychological condition that’s often misunderstood.

However, understanding the subtle signs of grandiose narcissism can help navigate these tricky relationships. Here are 8 of those signs that most people overlook, according to psychology:

1) Hidden lack of empathy

While it might not be immediately apparent, a subtle sign of a grandiose narcissist can be their hidden lack of empathy.

It’s not always about them being outright cold or dismissive. Sometimes, it’s subtler. You may notice they struggle to fully engage in conversations that aren’t centered around them. Or perhaps they subtly dismiss your feelings or experiences, steering the conversation back to themselves.

This lack of empathy isn’t something they choose to exhibit—it’s part of the complex psychological condition of grandiose narcissism. However, it can leave you feeling unheard and invalidated.

Understanding this sign can help you navigate your interactions with them more effectively. Remember, your feelings and experiences are valid, regardless of whether they’re acknowledged by the narcissist in your life. 

2) Soliciting admiration

A grandiose narcissist might present themselves as highly confident and self-assured. However, beneath the surface, they often rely heavily on others for validation and admiration.

You might notice them exaggerating their achievements or showing off their possessions more than others. Or they might constantly seek compliments and get upset when they don’t receive them.

This behavior is not about genuine confidence—it’s about a deep-seated need for external validation. The tricky part is that it can often be mistaken for self-assuredness or even charisma.

Being aware of this sign can help you better understand the dynamics of your relationship with a grandiose narcissist. It’s not about feeding their need for admiration, but about recognizing it for what it is—a sign of their underlying psychological condition.

3) Dominating conversations

A grandiose narcissist often feels most comfortable when they are the center of attention. An easy way for them to ensure this is by dominating conversations.

They might frequently interrupt or talk over others, focusing the discussion on their own experiences, thoughts, and opinions. It might feel like your conversations are a one-way street, with them doing most of the talking and little to no space for your input.

Interestingly, studies have shown that people who frequently dominate conversations and focus on themselves are more likely to score high on measures of narcissism. This is not about being an engaging conversationalist—it’s about a need to constantly be in the spotlight.

4) Difficulty with criticism

Imagine being in a situation where even the slightest critique feels like an unbearable attack on your character. For a grandiose narcissist, this is often their reality.

They might react with defensiveness or even anger to criticism, no matter how constructive or minor it may be. This is not because they’re inherently difficult or sensitive—it’s a manifestation of their deep-seated insecurities.

It’s important to remember that this reaction is not a reflection of you or your intentions. It’s an aspect of their psychological condition that they are grappling with.

5) Obsession with status

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We all want to feel important and valued in our social circles. But for a grandiose narcissist, this need can take on an extreme form.

They might be excessively concerned with their social status, constantly seeking to associate with high-status individuals or groups. They might frequently name-drop or brag about their connections to make themselves seem more important.

This is not because they’re inherently superficial or snobbish—it’s an attempt to bolster their self-esteem and validate their self-worth.

Hopefully, this can help you understand the motivations behind their actions. It’s not about indulging their obsession with status, but about understanding the insecurities that drive it.

6) Exaggerated sense of self-importance

Picture this: You’re at a gathering and someone begins to dominate the conversation, not just with their words, but with grand tales of their own success and importance. This person seems to believe that they are superior to others and deserving of special treatment and admiration.

This could be a subtle sign of grandiose narcissism. They might inflate their accomplishments, exaggerate their talents, or believe they are uniquely special and therefore misunderstood by others.

This behavior is not about being boastful—it’s a symptom of their underlying psychological condition. A grandiose narcissist often has an inflated sense of self-importance that colors their interactions with others. You don’t have to buy into their inflated self-perception, but this might help you understand the behavior as part of their condition.

7) Lack of boundaries

In any healthy relationship, respect for personal boundaries is a given. However, a grandiose narcissist might not play by these rules.

They may intrude on your personal space or disregard your needs and feelings, expecting you to prioritize theirs above all else. They may demand your time, attention, and resources without considering the impact on you.

While this is a symptom of their condition, remember that it’s not something you have to accept or tolerate. By all means, set clear boundaries. Assert your needs and maintain your self-respect, even when it feels challenging.

8) Unilateral decision making

A grandiose narcissist often assumes that they know best. This may manifest in their tendency to make decisions that affect both of you without consulting or considering your views.

They might make plans, big or small, without asking for your input, assuming that their choice is the best for everyone.

Here’s the crucial part: It’s not your responsibility to accommodate or adjust to their unilateral decisions.

In your relationship with a grandiose narcissist, remember that your opinion matters. As difficult as it may be, make sure that decision-making is a shared process, valuing and respecting each other’s perspectives.


Navigating the nuances of a relationship with a grandiose narcissist can be complex and challenging—but you’re not alone in this journey.

This article aims to shed light on those subtle signs that can often be overlooked, but ultimately, it’s your understanding and intuition that will guide your interactions.

Remember, preserving your well-being and maintaining respectful boundaries is never time wasted.

Being truly insightful means recognizing these signs for what they are—manifestations of a psychological condition—and not allowing them to define your worth or overshadow your needs.

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Lucas Graham

Lucas Graham, based in Auckland, writes about the psychology behind everyday decisions and life choices. His perspective is grounded in the belief that understanding oneself is the key to better decision-making. Lucas’s articles are a mix of personal anecdotes and observations, offering readers relatable and down-to-earth advice.

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