Finding a life partner is a potentially lifelong endeavor. If you’re lucky, you may have already stumbled upon them without realizing it.
Or, if you’re like the rest of us, you might still be looking (for whomever it is you’re looking for.)
In this day and age, choosing a partner is already hard enough, right? And then choosing an incredibly loyal one? Suddenly, it’s a boss fight.
Let’s talk about that.
How will you be able to tell? What are their characteristics? Will it be obvious? Will it be subtle?
Well, in this article, we’re focusing on the subtle signs a woman will make an incredibly loyal life partner, according to psychology.
Here are 8 of them.
1) She feels things deeply and shows it
What she’s displaying: Empathy and vulnerability
What do empathy and vulnerability have to do with being a loyal life partner, you might ask?
A person who is honest with her emotions will be less likely to indulge in negative ones like dishonesty and disloyalty. It’s going to eat her up inside to even think about it.
She understands pain and she wouldn’t want to inflict it on someone else.
2) She accepts and offers help
What she’s displaying: Being a team player
A relationship is not a one-man team, at least it shouldn’t be. It’s a give-and-take situation, especially if it’s a life partner.
Wouldn’t you want someone who shares not only the joys with you but also the burdens? Wouldn’t you want someone you can rely on?
Wouldn’t you want someone whose loyalty will not be deterred by the setbacks of life? Someone who will choose to work things out and to fix what needs fixing.
Someone who chooses to grow with you, wouldn’t you want that?
3) She has her own life to live
What she’s displaying: Her independence.
Someone being so dependent on you is as bad as not needing you at all. And so, a good life partner is someone who has her own life to live but still chooses you to be a part of it.
This makes for a loyal partner. Why? Because since it’s her choice to be in it with you, she can also decide to be out of it.
So when she wants to be in a relationship with you, it’s done with full sincerity.
4) She makes you feel understood and appreciated
What she’s displaying: Being supportive.
A subtle yet important sign that someone will be a loyal life partner is if she is supportive. She will show this by way of making you feel understood and appreciated, from the mundane to the more important aspects of life.
She could be someone who remembers your allergies or someone who reminds you that your parents are having their anniversary. She could also be someone who reminds you of your childhood dream, someone who helps heal your inner child or someone who listens to your favorite bands with you from when you were younger.
These are the things that make us feel loved without us even realizing it. Consideration, after all, is one of the highest forms of love.
5) She doesn’t confuse you with her intentions
What she’s displaying: Consistency.
It feels so nice to be so sure in love, to have no confusion if they love you back. A good and loyal partner should bring you this kind of peace.
They are absolute in their intentions and will be consistent in showing it to you. You won’t doubt yourself or second-guess yourself around them. You won’t worry about faithfulness.
You won’t worry if they suddenly won’t love you back. You won’t worry if they’re just stringing you along.
Consistent and sure, those are good signs to have for a partner.
6) She means what she says
What she’s displaying: That she’s true to her word.
In an article from Positive Psychology about trust, they said, “The point of building trust is for others to believe what you say. Keep in mind, however, that building trust requires not only keeping the promises you make but also not making promises you’re unable to keep.”
Adding to the previous point of consistency, a loyal life partner will also be the type to mean what she says. She’s the type to always keep her promise, no matter how small that promise might be.
She consistently follows through on what she says. Her actions should back up her words. She’s reliable this way.
7) She pays attention to the things you love
What she’s displaying: Active participation in your life.
Gottman Institute says this about connection, “To be a great lover, you must pay attention and notice your partner trying to connect with you. It takes presence to notice your partner glancing your way during a dinner party. According to John Gottman, master of marriage research, successful couples are mindful of bids for connection and pay attention to them. These bids might be a look, a question, or an affectionate stroke on the cheek, anything that says, “Hey, I want to be connected with you.”
A partner who is emotionally invested in you will also be invested in your life.
She will take note of your hobbies, your goals, your habits, your likes and dislikes, and she will make it a point to participate in some capacity or another.
Perhaps you’ve mentioned in passing that you loved Thai food and she made it her mission to find the best Thai restaurants in the city for you both to try. Maybe you’re into cars and she learned as much as she could even if it’s truly not one of her interests.
Or maybe she joins you for movies you love, listens to you talk about your favorite things with no judgment, buys you gifts you love or things you’ve said in passing, or buys you tools for your hobbies.
Attention and active participation. Those are good signs to look out for if you’re looking for a loyal life partner.
8) She treats everyone with kindness
What she’s displaying: Unbiased kindness.
And finally, kindness. It’s a trait that some of the best people in the world have, and a loyal partner surely will, too.
Her kindness is not preferential, she treats everyone the same way. She is kind-hearted and the type of person who will lend a helping hand whenever needed.
She’s the kind of person who would want to build a softer life together—a life free of drama or pain.
Before you go
It’s careless to think that this list is definitive as nothing in love ever is. It is also not a strict checklist. It is, however, a good enough reference point for when you don’t know where to start.
After all, in love, we all need all the help we can get, right? And the signs and traits on this list are good to have in relationships anyway.
Just remember that even the kindest, most reliable, most well-intentioned people can hurt you but remember that their decisions are theirs to bear.
Moving forward, may you find the loyal life partner that your heart desires. May her love find you at a time you’re ready and may you return that love in kind.
