8 subtle signs a man will make an excellent husband

There’s a vast difference between a good date and a great life partner.

The distinction boils down to subtlety. A man might seem like Prince Charming on the first few dates, but that doesn’t necessarily mean he’ll make an excellent husband.

On the flip side, a man with all the right qualities to be a great spouse might not sweep you off your feet immediately.

In this article, I’m going to share with you 8 subtle signs that a man will make an excellent husband. These signs might not be flashy or obvious, but believe me, they’re far more significant. So let’s dive in!

1) He’s present in the moment

Genuine presence often flies under the radar, yet it’s a powerful indicator of a great husband-to-be.

A present man is fully immersed in the moment, actively engaging with you and the world. He listens intently, empathizes with your emotions, and genuinely seeks to understand your perspective.

Sure, he’s not always in zen mode; distractions happen. But most of the time, he’s there with you, fully present.

Mindfulness breeds understanding, patience, and kindness – all traits of an exceptional husband. And a man who embodies mindfulness is more likely to excel in these areas.

2) He’s not afraid of conflicts

Conflicts are a part of life, and especially of relationships. As a mindfulness expert, I often remind people that disagreements are not necessarily a bad thing. It’s how we handle them that matters.

A man who isn’t afraid to have a disagreement and can handle it with grace and respect is a man who can make an excellent husband.

Why? Because he understands that conflicts are opportunities for growth. He knows that “winning” an argument isn’t the goal, but reaching a mutual understanding is.

3) He practices acceptance

In Buddhism, acceptance is a cornerstone of wisdom. It’s about embracing life’s highs and lows with grace.

A remarkable husband-to-be embodies this philosophy. He embraces you fully, flaws and all, without the need for you to change. Equally, he embraces himself.

He understands his own complexities, strengths, and vulnerabilities, refusing to let them dictate his worth.

This level of self-awareness? It’s not some polished facade—it’s raw and unadulterated. It’s about stripping away the layers, revealing the imperfect beauty within. And trust me, in marriage, authenticity is the name of the game. 

4) He embraces change

Life’s rhythm is an ever-changing melody, and mindfulness teaches us to dance to its beat rather than fight against the current.

Picture the man destined to be an exceptional husband. He’s not tethered to the past or consumed by the unknowns of tomorrow. Instead, he’s firmly rooted in the here and now, poised to adapt and flourish.

But don’t mistake his presence for indecision. Quite the contrary—it’s a testament to his resilience and versatility. He understands that change is as inevitable as the dawn, be it in his personal journey or the shared path of your relationship, and he meets it head-on with grace.

5) He keeps his ego in check

Ego can be a massive stumbling block in relationships. It often gets in the way of understanding, empathy, and love. But a man who can keep his ego in check? Now that’s husband material.

Keeping the ego in check means being able to admit when you’re wrong, being open to differing opinions, and not letting pride get in the way of your relationship.

I explore this concept deeply in my book, “Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego”. In it, I talk about how crucial it is to live with humility and mindfulness, especially within the context of relationships.

If your man embodies these qualities and views relationships as a partnership rather than a power struggle, it’s a promising sign that he’ll make an excellent husband.

6) He practices gratitude

Gratitude is the art of cherishing the present rather than chasing an elusive tomorrow.

A man who makes good husband material is one steeped in gratitude—for you, for your union, for the myriad nuances that define your connection.

He doesn’t merely coast through life; he savors every moment, every shared smile, every whispered promise, expressing his appreciation with unwavering sincerity.

For in the end, a heart brimming with gratitude is a heart at peace. And a man who finds solace in your presence today is bound to stand by you tomorrow, come what may.

7) He leads with kindness

Kindness is the cornerstone of successful relationships. It’s about treating others with respect, compassion, and understanding.

A man who’ll make an excellent husband leads with kindness, both towards others and towards himself. He understands that kindness isn’t a sign of weakness but of strength.

As Dalai Lama, the renowned Buddhist monk said, “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.”

This quote perfectly encapsulates the essence of a kind-hearted man. He doesn’t reserve his kindness for special occasions but makes it a part of his everyday life.

So if your man treats everyone around him with genuine kindness, it’s a raw and honest sign that he’ll make an excellent husband.

8) He values silence

Forget what you’ve been told—silence isn’t the enemy of communication; it’s the unsung hero.

Imagine this: you and your partner watching the sunset together. Instead of filling the silence with chatter, he gently clasps your hand, sharing the moment in silent unity. Or in times of turmoil, he sits beside you, offering silent solace and unwavering support.

These shared moments of quiet intimacy often speak volumes, revealing his emotional depth and empathetic nature.

A guy who truly values silence gets that it’s not about avoiding conversation but embracing the power of nonverbal connection. He knows that sometimes, words just don’t cut it, and silence can speak volumes. 

Finding Mr. Right 

Choosing a life partner isn’t a decision to be taken lightly. It’s about recognizing the subtle signs that indicate a man’s capability to be an excellent husband.

These signs may not be flashy, but they are far more significant. From practicing mindfulness and acceptance to leading with kindness and valuing silence, these traits indicate a man who knows how to love and be loved.

If you want to delve deeper into some of these concepts, especially the role of ego in our lives, I invite you to check out my book, “Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego”.

Remember, the best relationships are built on mutual understanding, respect, and love. And a man who embodies these qualities is sure to make an excellent husband.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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