Falling in love is an amazing experience. It can be a transformative experience that changes your life for the better.
However, it can also be confusing and difficult.
If you’re not sure if you’re falling in love with the person you’re dating, here are 31 subtle signs that he is falling for you.
1) He compliments you all the time!
He always compliments you, even when you’re wearing sweatpants and a hoodie.
If he tells you “Wow, you look amazing today”, even though you’re wearing the same sweatpants three days in a row with your hair looking like a bird’s nest that just fell out of a tree.
You have a keeper!
When your man starts falling in love with you he will always tell you how gorgeous you look (even if you really don’t) because he wants you to feel good about yourself and wants you to know that you’re a beauty in his eyes.
2) He talks about you all the time
He never stops talking about you.
You are his number one topic of conversation.
He will talk about you to his friends and family and coworkers!
This is a subtle sign that he’s falling for you.
Clearly, you’re running through his mind on loop and he can’t do anything else.
3) He acts like your hero
Does your man always save the day?
For example, you’re driving and suddenly your engine light starts flashing. You start panicking and call him.
Not even 5 minutes go by and he’s there, willing and ready to help you out.
This is another subtle sign that he’s falling for you!
There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’.
This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.
I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.
The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.
When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.
But how do you trigger this instinct in him?
The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.
If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.
He tells you everything you need to know about the hero instinct, including exactly how to trigger it in your man.
I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.
4) He’s always thinking about you
Whether it’s through text or email, he’s always thinking about you.
He’ll tell you things like “I miss you” or “I wish I were with you”.
He might even send you a photo of himself, which will make the day special for sure!
A man who’s in love will talk to you more than he ever has before. He’ll start texting you more, he’ll call more, and will make an effort to stay in touch with you throughout the day.
So, if he’s sending you messages first thing in the morning, during the day while you’re at work and before bed, you can bet your bottom dollar that he’s into you.
5) He stalks you on social media
Ok, I don’t mean creepy stalking here, what I mean is that he’s looking you up on your Socials.
You might see that he’s been trawling through your Insta posts and is liking pictures you took back in 2013 when you went on the European vacation.
He’s interested in you and the things you hold dear so he’s making a concerted effort to get schooled about your life and your history.
6) He makes plans for the future with you
A man who is in love with you will always have plans for the future, as in he’ll tell you what he wants from life and what his hopes and dreams are.
He’s going to be with you for the long haul, so he wants to make sure that things are in place for a comfortable future for both of you.
7) He says he “cares” about you
This is a very subtle sign that he’s falling in love with you!
He’s always telling you how much he cares about you and that he’s so happy to have you in his life.
He is making a concerted effort to show you with his words’ that he actually loves you but isn’t directly saying those three little words.
So, if he tells you he “cares” it’s actually guy code for “l love you”!
8) He cares about your feelings
He’s not a major jerk like the others. This guy actually cares about your feelings.
He won’t say things to upset you and knows what you like and you dislike because he’s interested in keeping you happy.
A man who’s falling in love will always put his best foot forward and will go out of his way to keep you.
9) He doesn’t make fun of your flaws
Another subtle sign that he’s falling for you is that he accepts you with all your flaws.
He knows that there are things about you that are not perfect, but he doesn’t make fun of them either!
He respects the person you are inside and out.
Mutual respect is a hugely important factor in any healthy relationship and when you experience it, you will know why things didn’t work out with all the douchebags you had before him.
10) He takes care of your every need
This is a great subtle sign that he’s in love with you, especially if he meets your needs without you having to ask.
He’s not afraid to let you know that he’s taking care of you and will do anything to make sure that you’re happy.
He might be the one who cooks your favorite meal or gets the groceries for you, because he doesn’t want his princess to lift a finger.
11) He spoils you rotten
You might be thinking that your man is a pretty generous guy, but he’ll buy you gifts, not just the typical ones like flowers or chocolates.
He’ll buy you things that mean something to you, like a bracelet or a ring.
He’ll even surprise you with a promise ring because he’s showing you how very serious he is about you.
12) Terms of endearment
If your man has given you a pet name, it’s another subtle sign that he’s falling for you!
A name is just a word, but it’s the meaning that goes behind it that makes a name so special.
When you give your man a nickname, he knows that you care about him and want to be associated with him in some way. It can also symbolize what type of relationship we’ve formed together.
He’s giving you an endearment, a nickname or a term of endearment that is only for you.
13) He maintains eye contact with you
If he looks at you and doesn’t look away, but instead holds your gaze and smiles at you, this is another very subtle sign that he’s falling in love with you.
He might also look at you and smirk or give you a little wink as he’s passing by.
This is just one of his cute ways of showing that he loves you.
14) He’s affectionate with you in public
If your man is affectionate with you in public, it’s another not so subtle sign that he loves you.
He might hold your hand, put his arm around your shoulder, or nuzzle up to you when you’re out together.
If other people are around, he doesn’t change because he’s proud of the fact that he’s got you by his side!
This is a huge sign that he’s head over hills with you.
15) He always calls and texts first
So often do women complain that they’re always the ones to initiate contact.
So, if you have a guy who takes initiative and always calls and texts you first, this is a subtle and very telling sign that he’s falling in love with you.
It’s so refreshing to have someone who is proactive and shows you that he cares about you.
16) He loves your friends
If your guy loves hanging out with your friends, this is another subtle sign that he’s falling for you.
He wants to be around the people who are important to you so he can get to know them better.
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It also shows that he’s comfortable with them and that they are important to him as well.
17) He looks at you when you’re talking
If your man is looking at you while you’re talking, this is a subtle sign that he loves hearing what you have to say.
He wants to listen closely and soak up everything that comes out of your mouth because it’s so important to him.
He’s not distracted by what’s going on around him or doesn’t play around on his phone when you’re talking because you’re the most important thing and he’s invested in what you have to say.
18) He wants to see you more often
Is he making plans so that he can spend more time with you?
If yes, take this as a subtle sign that you’ve landed yourself a keeper.
If your man says he wants to spend more time with you, that’s another sign that he’s falling in love with you. He wants to spend time with you and make each moment count.
He doesn’t want to miss a thing!
19) He does things for you without being asked
A man with a plan! This is a huge but often subtle sign that he is falling for you.
When your man is in love with you, he’ll do things for you even if it’s not necessary or something that needs to be done.
This is because he values your happiness and wants to make sure that everything is perfect for you.
This relates back to what I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man is made to feel needed, wanted, and respected, he’s more likely to fall in love with you.
And it’s as simple as knowing the right things to say to trigger his hero instinct and make him into the man he’s always wanted to be.
All of that and more is revealed in this excellent free video by James Bauer. It’s absolutely worth checking out if you’re ready to take things to the next level with your man.
20) He’s jealous of other guys
This is a subtle sign that he loves you.
It shows that he’s protective and doesn’t want to share you with anyone else.
It also shows that he thinks you’re special and worth fighting for.
Jealousy is a sure sign of love, so if your guy gets jealous of other guys, it’s a good thing.
21) He makes you feel good about yourself
Does your man compliment you? If so, this is another subtle sign that he loves you.
He notices the little things about you and appreciates them. He also knows your insecurities and does whatever he can to boost your confidence.
He wants to make sure that you feel good about yourself and are proud of who you are.
22) He makes an effort with his appearance around you
He’s well groomed, smells amazing and he’s dressed to impress!
If your man makes an effort with his appearance around you, this is one of the biggest signs that he’s falling for you.
He wants to look good for you and make sure that you feel good about him when he’s around.
23) He gives you space
Does your man give you space? If so, this is a subtle sign that he loves you!
He respects your boundaries and makes sure not to get too close.
This shows that he understands that there are certain times when it’s okay to be on your own, and others where it’s okay to be close with him.
He’s respectful of your life and your time and wants to make sure you’re happy at all times.
24) He asks you out
This is a big sign that he loves you, however, it’s not a subtle one, this is an in your face, I’m tired of being subtle one!
He doesn’t want to wait any longer before getting to know the real you. He wants to know you, but also wants to be with you.
He will want to go out on dates with you, and wants to do it sooner rather than later.
25) He listens to your problems or concerns
Does your man listen to what’s bothering you?
If so, this is a great sign that he loves you! He cares about your feelings and understands that there are certain things in life that can be hard for people.
He’s always showing you that he’s there for you and that he’s willing to go through both good and hard times by your side.
So, if he’s a great listener and encourages you to vent and speak what’s on your heart, this is a very subtle yet telling sign that he’s falling in love with you.
26) He takes care of your needs
Does your man take care of your needs? If so, this is a subtle sign that he loves you!
He knows what it feels like when things are rough and will do everything in his power to take care of you.
This shows that he cares about what’s going on in your life and will do whatever it takes to make things better.
If you have a man like this, hold onto him! Chances are that he might even be “the one!”
27) He knows your likes and your dislikes
You come into work one morning and on your desk is a packet of those salt and vinegar crisps that you absolutely love!
Yep, that was him! He is taking the subtle approach to show you that he cares because he knows what you like.
Also, he’ll never play hard house music around you because he knows that you despise it!
What he’s doing is showing you with actions (in a subtle way) that loves you because he’s noted what you like and what you don’t thereby trying to please you!
28) He doesn’t get jealous when you hang out with your friends
In fact, he encourages you to do so!
If he’s the type of guy that encourages your friendships and doesn’t mind if you hang out with them, this is a subtle sign that he’s falling for you.
He wants to make sure that you’re always happy and will do whatever it takes to make sure that things are going well for the two of you.
This includes spending time with your friends because he understands that they’re important to you.
What makes you happy, makes him happy and that’s the real prize for him.
29) He keeps his promises
Does he keep his promises?
If so, this is a subtle sign that he’s falling for you.
He’s taking the time to make sure that he shows you how trustworthy he is by keeping promises and commitments.
This shows that he wants to be with you and will do everything in his power to keep things going.
It also shows that he’s reliable and dependable, another great quality to have in a man!
30) He notices things about you that others don’t
He notices things about you that other people don’t like that tiny little birthmark on your right-hand finger.
He notices when you’ve parted your hair to the left, instead of the right.
He’s not afraid to tell you that you’ve got a nice smile or that your hair looks great. He also thinks the way you laugh is cute (even when others tell you it’s horrid)
He loves you enough to tell you the truth and wants to make sure that you feel loved.
31) He makes sacrifices for you
He’s scored tickets to the Super Bowl and is looking forward to going. Unfortunately, you’ve just texted him that you’re feeling unwell.
The next thing you know, he pitches up at your door with chicken soup and Tylenol and is happy to binge-watch Netflix with you because he is worried about you.
This is a very sweet and subtle sign that he’s falling in love with you.
You are clearly his number 1 priority and it shows that he’s willing to make sacrifices to ensure your happiness prevails.
By now you should have a good idea of all the subtle signs that he’s falling for you.
So what can you do to make sure that it’s the real deal?
Well, I mentioned the unique concept of the hero instinct earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.
You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.
And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.
So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.