16 reasons most men can’t handle a strong, independent woman

Strong, independent, and happy women seem to be everywhere these days.

But for every woman that’s got her shit together, there’s another woman in the wings waiting for her chance to shine.

What separates these two types of women? The strong from the weak? The meak from the bold? The happy from the unhappy?


Strong independent women who can rely on themselves to make their life what they want it to be are happier, more successful, and let’s face it: we all look up to them.

So if you are looking to kickstart your life to the next level, consider what stepping outside your comfort zone into the unknown world BY YOURSELF might do for you, and your life.

1) She takes herself out for dinner.

Don’t feel bad for a woman sitting alone at a restaurant. And for goodness sake, don’t assume she’s waiting for a man to join her. Strong, independent women are perfectly happy to enjoy a good meal on their own.


Taking it to the streets doesn’t make her sad or starving for attention. It makes her confident.

2) She’s always on the go.

While she may have many men pining for her attention, she’s not sitting at home waiting on a single one of them. She’s got too many places to go and people to see.

She isn’t checking her phone waiting for texts or calls from Mr. Right. She’s out there loving life to the fullest. He’ll catch up eventually.

3) She likes to travel alone.

Strong, independent women will tell you that the easiest way to become that way is to travel alone. She doesn’t need a partner to have a “romantic getaway”.

Whether it’s a cross-country road trip, or a European vacation, seeing the sights on your own lets you ponder your thoughts, soak in the experiences, and not worry about entertaining others along the way.

4) She breaks away from the crowd whenever possible.

Crowds are akin to herds. And what does the herd do? The same thing. Strong, independent women break away from the crowds whenever they can because they know that the action isn’t happening where the people are: it’s happening where the locals are.

This is especially true of high tourism areas around the world. Want to live a different life? Live it away from the crowd.

5) She leaves bad situations in the dust.

Whether it’s a bad breakup or someone else’s drama stealing her sunshine, a strong independent woman will walk away from the drama and not think twice about it. She knows how to move on from a breakup.

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She’s not about to let her happiness be tarnished by someone else’s unhappiness. We each get to choose how we live. She chooses happiness.

6) She buys herself gifts.

While it’s great to get gifts from people, happy and independent women often reward themselves for hard work, and treat themselves to something special.

Afterall, the longest relationship we’ll ever be in is the one we are in with ourselves. She doesn’t need a man to give her gifts. Shouldn’t we treat ourselves with kindness and love the way we would want others to treat us?

7) She doesn’t need a boyfriend. She wants a partner.

Even happy and independent women want someone to love, but women like this don’t want just anyone. They want someone who will see them as their equal and respect that they have their own life to live.


8) She knows her worth.

Even if you don’t see it, she knows what she brings to the table and she is not about to let anyone tell her different. Some will love her for it and some will hate her, but she doesn’t care either way.

9) She doesn’t put up with bullshit from people.

Whether it’s her nit-picky sister-in-law or her boyfriend, she’s not going to take crap from anyone. Life’s too short to let others dictate how she gets to live her life.

10) She can spoil herself.

Strong, independent women like to buy their own things and show the world that they don’t need anyone to buy it for them. Sure, it might look like extravagant spending to some, but it’s self love through and through.

11) She’s happy to pay the bill.

Dinner with friends? Sounds great. She’s happy to pick up the tab for a meal for friends. She’s got her act together and likes to take care of those around her. Funny enough, this can often make a man insecure.

12) She doesn’t hang around with needy people.

Clingy, needy people are not on her radar…because she put them out of her life. Strong, independent women have relationships that feed the soul, not suck the life out of them.

13) Her goals come first.

Regardless of who may be in her life, a happy woman is putting her goals above all else. She won’t pander to others who need her attention because they can’t get their own act together.


14) She knows what she wants.

Whether she shares her dreams with the world or not, she knows that she has the right to go after what she wants. Strong, happy, independent women know what they want in life and are willing to go after it, no matter what.

15) She doesn’t need anyone.

You might think a life of solitude is lonely but an independent woman doesn’t have to spend her life alone. She chooses to do so until the right person comes along. She’s an old soul.

16) She doesn’t say she’s sorry.

Strong, independent women don’t make apologies for being that way. They choose to live like that, just like you and I can live like that. If you don’t like it, believe me, she doesn’t care.


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Written by Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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