When you meet someone new and begin dating them, it can be hard to know whether they could potentially be your forever partner.
I know what I’m talking about – I recently discovered that the person I was with was not the right person for me.
You see, he was a perfect match on paper, but I received countless spiritual and psychic signs that he was not the one.
In case you are suspecting the same thing for yourself, I want to save you some time (and research) and tell you what signs to look for:
1) You feel like you can’t trust him
If you’re feeling a lack of trust from the beginning, you should take this as a sign that your relationship might not go in the right direction.
How does this happen?
We all have a subconscious fear of being hurt and we transfer it to our relationships.
If, for example, you have been hurt in a relationship in the past, you may have this fear of being hurt again and it will show in your current relationship.
In that case, it’s not him, of course, it’s your own trauma that you’re projecting onto him, so definitely be careful of that!
How can you figure out if you don’t trust him?
Ask yourself this question – If I were to break up with this person, how would I feel?
If you instantly feel a sense of relief, then it is a clear sign that you don’t trust him.
Another sign that you don’t trust him is if you feel a general sense of uneasiness around him.
You may feel as if you are always on your guard around him and feel as if you need to act in a certain way so that he won’t think badly of you.
Sure, in the beginning of a relationship you want to put your best foot forward, but if you are constantly feeling on edge around him, then this is a major sign that you don’t trust him.
You see, it can be difficult to discern when you actually can’t trust someone and when it’s simply your own trauma getting in the way.
Unfortunately, I can’t give you a one-size-fits-all answer here – this will require some serious self-work on your part to figure out what is going on.
If you have been hurt in the past, you may need to go through a period of healing before you can truly trust someone.
I know that this can be really hard to do, especially when you are really into the person that you’re dating, but trust me – it’s worth it!
But if you still can’t trust him and you can’t put your finger on why – that’s your spiritual sign that he is not the right person for you.
2) You feel extreme insecurity around him
If you feel extreme insecurity around your boyfriend, take this as a sign that he might not be the right one for you.
If you feel like you have to overcompensate for yourself, or if you feel like you have to be a certain way in order for him to like you, then this is a major sign that your relationship is going in the wrong direction.
You should never feel the need to change who you are just so that your partner will like you more.
Instead, you should be with someone who loves you for who you are in all of your quirks and flaws.
So if you feel like you are constantly changing yourself for him, and if you feel insecure around him, then this is a major sign that your relationship is going in the wrong direction.
Now: similar to the previous point, this obviously depends on whether this feeling of insecurity is stemming from him or from within yourself!
You see, relationships bring out our innermost fears, insecurities, and wounds.
If you are insecure around this guy, it could be a sign that he is doing something to make you feel that way.
However, it could also be a sign that you are bringing your own insecurities into the relationship.
Sometimes, we have so many limiting beliefs about not deserving love, that a relationship instantly makes us feel insecure.
Again, figuring this one out will require self-work. But some people make us insecure due to their behavior – they aren’t consistent, they make us doubt them, they cheat, they lie…
In those cases, when you feel like something is off and you can’t fully let go, then you might be experiencing a sign that he’s not the one.
4) Your intuition is screaming at you
Your intuition can be a great way to help you to figure out whether or not your boyfriend is the one for you.
If you feel as if something is wrong but you don’t know what it is, then it is likely that your intuition is trying to tell you that something is not right with your current relationship.
You might have a gut feeling that he is not the right person for you, or you might feel as if he is not the right person for you but you don’t know why.
Your intuition can be difficult to understand, but if you listen to it and you take the time to quiet your mind and pay attention, then it can be very helpful.
If your intuition is screaming at you that something is wrong with your relationship, then you should take this as a sign that your boyfriend is not the right person for you.
We have drowned out our inner wisdom a lot, when in reality, there is so much we can learn from our intuition.
If something in your gut tells you that this is not the right relationship for you, listen.
5) You Don’t Get That Shimmery, Giddy Feeling When You’re Together
When you are falling in love, it is an amazing feeling. You feel happy and free and like you are walking on air.
It is the best feeling in the world, and it is a feeling that you should be experiencing if you are in a relationship that is going in the right direction.
If you don’t get that happy, giddy feeling when you are with your boyfriend, then this is a major sign that he is not the one for you.
You should be experiencing this happy, giddy feeling when you are with the person you are meant to be with.
Now: I need to mention here that you will never, with anybody, feel happy and giddy all the time. In fact, that is not healthy.
You will have arguments and fights, but in the long run, you should feel this happy, giddy feeling when you are with your partner.
Ask yourself this: does the thought of spending your life with this person fill your heart with warmth and happiness?
If the answer is no, then it is likely that he is not the right person for you.
The thought of spending your life together should feel exciting and beautiful.
6) He Doesn’t Respect Your Boundaries
If your boyfriend doesn’t respect your boundaries, then this is a major sign that he is not the right person for you.
What are boundaries?
Boundaries are the things that you stand for and the things that you will not stand for.
They are the things that define who you are and what you are about.
For example, you may have a boundary that you will not tolerate being lied to.
You may also have a boundary that you will not tolerate being put down and disrespected.
If your boyfriend doesn’t respect your boundaries, then it is likely that he is not the one for you.
7) You have different Life Goals and Values
If you have different life goals and values, then this is a sign that you are with the wrong person for you.
For example, perhaps you have a goal to travel the world and explore new places, while your boyfriend has a goal to settle down and buy a house.
If you have different life goals and values, then this is a major sign that you are with the wrong person for you.
You should be with someone who shares your life goals and values.
Now: you don’t have to be the same person as your partner by any means, it’s good to have healthy differences.
That said, the important stuff, like what you value and what you want to do with your life should align in order to make sure you both have a good chance of success.
You can’t live happily ever after with someone if your goals and values are incompatible.
You’ll save yourself a lot of heartaches if you immediately accept that you’re with the wrong person when you have different life goals and values.
8) You feel like your soul can’t be free around him
A relationship should bring you freedom and joy.
It should help you to feel like your soul can fly and be as free as it wants to be.
If your relationship feels like it is holding you back and preventing you from being the best version of yourself, then it is probably because you are with the wrong person.
If you feel like your soul can’t be free around your partner, then this is a major sign that he is not the one for you.
You should be with someone who helps you to grow and who helps you to feel free.
I know it sounds a bit strange – what is a free soul, after all?
Well, I’m talking about the feeling when you know that you can be yourself with someone and that you don’t have to pretend or hide anything.
You should feel free to be your true self around your partner, and not have to pretend or hide any part of who you are.
It should feel good to be with him, and it should feel good to be around him.
If it doesn’t, then this is a major sign that he is not the one for you.
9) Your heart does not feel connected to his
You should feel a connection between your heart and your boyfriend’s heart if you are with the right person for you.
If you don’t feel connected to his heart, or if you feel disconnected from the relationship, then this is a sign that you may be with the wrong person for you.
You should feel connected to your boyfriend’s heart if you are with the right person for you.
If you don’t feel connected to his heart, then this is a sign that he is not the right person for you.
You see, when you are with the person of your dreams, you will have a very strong connection to his heart.
You will feel like he is your other half, and that you were meant to be together.
You will feel connected to his heart, and you will feel like he is your true soul mate.
If you don’t feel this way, then it’s a sign that he may not be the right person for you.
10) You feel like something is missing
Last but not least, a sign that he is not the right person for you is if you feel like something is missing.
When you are with the right person for you, it should feel like a perfect fit and like everything falls into place.
You should feel like he is your other half and that everything just feels right with him.
If something doesn’t feel right, then this could be a sign that he is not the one for you.
You see, this could be anything, from having the feeling that you’re lacking physical connection, to maybe feeling like your humor doesn’t align.
Now: there is nobody out there who is 100% perfect, so of course, if there are tiny little things that could be better, it’s not a make-or-break decision.
However, if you get the gnawing feeling that there could be more to this relationship, then maybe you are with the wrong person.
You’ll figure it out
I know it can be hard to tell if a guy really is the one for you, especially in the beginning when everything seems so good.
But if there are signs that he is not the one for you, then it’s important to pay attention to them and to listen to your heart.
It’s important to listen to your intuition because it will try to tell you when something isn’t right with a guy or when someone isn’t right for you.
The sooner you listen to all the signs, the more time you will have with the person who is actually right for you!
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