10 signs you’ve found the right person, according to psychology

Finding the right person can sometimes feel like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

You may have crossed paths with numerous individuals, each one teaching you something about love, about yourself, and about the kind of person you truly want to be with.

But how do you know if you’ve finally found the right one?

Is it just a feeling, or are there concrete signs that you can look out for?

In this article, we’ll explore 10 psychological indicators that could mean you’ve found the right person.

If these resonate with your current relationship, chances are, you might have found your perfect match.

1) They accept and love you for who you are

None of us are perfect.

We all have our quirks, flaws and imperfections that make us human.

But when you’ve found the right person, they accept you for who you are and love you anyway.

They accept your quirks, imperfections and your unique qualities.

They’ve seen you at your worst  as well as at your best. But instead of running away or trying to change you, they still choose to be with you and embrace your authentic self.

It’s about seeing the real you, in all your rawness and vulnerability, and choosing to love you just the same.

If you can be your absolute goofiest self around someone and they still love you, then that’s a great sign.

The right person will make you feel good about being yourself. 

It’s a beautiful thing to be loved and valued for who you are as an individual.

Psychology points out that this kind of unconditional love can make you feel seen and accepted in a way that’s incredibly profound.

So if you’re with someone who accepts and loves you with all your flaws and quirks, and makes you feel good about yourself, it’s a powerful indication that you’ve found the right person.

2) They support your growth, dreams and ambitions

As we journey through life, we all have dreams and ambitions that we aspire to achieve.

The right person will not only understand your dreams but will also provide encouragement and support as you work towards them.

Whether it’s a career goal, a personal achievement, or even a crazy aspiration, if your partner shows genuine interest in your dreams and ambitions, celebrates your successes, and offers unwavering support during setbacks, it’s a clear sign of their love and commitment to you.

The right person won’t just love you for who you are now, but also for who you can become.

They see your potential and support your personal and professional growth. 

This form of support is an essential factor that psychologists note as indicative of a healthy and strong relationship.

If you have someone who is always rooting for your growth and stands by you as you chase your dreams, it’s a strong sign they could be the right person for you.

3) They make you a better person

When you’re with the right person, they not only accept you for who you are but also inspire you to be the best version of yourself.

They encourage you to pursue your dreams, to grow, and to improve.

They challenge you, push you, and motivate you.

They don’t do this out of a desire to change you, but because they believe in your potential.

This can manifest in many ways.

Maybe they inspire you to be more patient, more ambitious, or more compassionate.

Maybe they help you break negative habits or foster positive ones.

If you’re with someone who makes you want to be a better person, chances are that you’ve found the right one.

4) They show genuine interest in you 

The right person will always show a genuine interest in getting to know you better – your hobbies and interests, your dreams and ambitions, your past and future.

They are interested in getting to know the real you, not just the shiny, surface stuff. 

If they take time to learn about your interests or hobbies, even if they don’t share them, it shows they care about you on a deeper level.

They’re not just in this for the fun times or the easy conversations. They’re in it for the long haul.

So if you’ve got someone who’s genuinely curious about who you are and what makes you tick, don’t let them go.

They’re a rare breed and definitely worth holding onto.

5) They show genuine respect for you

Respect is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship.

If you’ve found someone who truly respects you, it’s a significant sign that they could be the right person for you.

This respect isn’t just about big things, like your career or personal achievements.

It’s also about small things, like listening when you speak, valuing your opinions, and acknowledging your feelings.

Moreover, respect should be mutual. It’s not just about how they treat you, but also about how you treat them.

A relationship with mutual respect creates a strong foundation. 

Therefore, if you’re with someone who genuinely respects and values you for who you are, it’s a strong indication that you’ve found the right person.

6) You share similar life goals and values

share similar life goals and values 10 signs you’ve found the right person, according to psychology

While opposites may attract in many cases, research in psychology points out that long-term relationship satisfaction is found in compatibility – specifically, similarities in core values and life goals.

Compatibility is a key sign of a healthy partnership.

When you’ve found the right person, you align on fundamental values and beliefs in life.

These shared values can encompass a wide range of things, such as your views on family, money, religion, or what you ultimately want out of life.

When you and your partner are on the same page about these essential core aspects, it creates a solid foundation for your relationship. 

This doesn’t mean you have to be in sync on everything.

Every couple have issues and argue every now and then.

But when it comes to those fundamental beliefs and goals that guide your decisions and actions, being compatible with your partner can make navigating life’s ups and downs a lot smoother.

Couples with shared values and life goals tend to experience greater relationship harmony and longevity.

So if you’ve found someone whose vision of life aligns with yours, it’s strong sign that you’ve found the right person.

7) You communicate openly and honestly

Effective communication is they key to any successful relationship.

When you’ve found the right person, you both engage in open, honest, and empathetic conversations.

You listen actively, express your thoughts and feelings clearly, and resolve conflicts constructively.

You’ll find that you can talk about anything—your deepest fears, your hope and dreams, and even those embarrassing moments you’d rather forget without judgement or fear.

There’s no need for pretense or hiding parts of yourself.

This kind of communication builds trust, which is vital in any relationship. It shows that you respect each other enough to be honest, even when it’s difficult.

So if you’re able to communicate openly and honestly with someone, it’s another sign that they could be the right person for you.

8) You have healthy arguments

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but how it is managed matters.

According to psychological research, couples in successful relationships share a compatible approach to conflict resolution. You both work towards solutions rather than escalating arguments or harboring grudges.

Effective conflict resolution is a crucial factor in relationship longevity.

Every couple argue but how they resolve conflict determines the long term future of the relationship. 

If you and your partner argue, but manage to do so respectfully, listen to each other’s perspectives, and come to a compromise or resolution, it signifies that both of you are committed to working through your differences.

If you and your partner are able to navigate challenging conversations successfully, it’s another positive sign that you’ve found the right person.

9) You trust them and feel safe with them 

Trust is the bedrock of a healthy relationship. When you’ve found the right person, you trust each other implicitly.

There is no need for constant reassurance or suspicion. Transparency and honesty define your connection.

A strong indicator if you’ve found the right one is the feeling of safety and comfort with the person.

It’s a feeling that they are your safe haven. You can trust them, feel safe and comfortable being yourself around them.

This sense of trust and safety also extends to the security of your relationship.

The right person will give you the trust and assurance that they are committed to you and the relationship you’re building together.

This also means that you can trust each other in a way that each partner can maintain a sense of independence and autonomy. 

If you’ve found the right person, they will understand the importance of maintaining your individuality and personal space.

Both of you should feel comfortable doing things separately and have your own lives outside of the relationship.

Psychology suggests this feeling of safety and security is a strong indicator you’re with the right person.

10) You can imagine a future with them

The most telling sign that you’ve found the right person, according to psychology, is when you can genuinely imagine a future with them.

It’s not about having every detail of your life together mapped out.

It’s about looking at this person and seeing them as a vital part of your life in the years to come.

Whether it’s picturing them by your side during life’s big moments or simply imagining growing old together, having a sense of shared future is a powerful indicator that you’re with the right person.

So if you’ve found someone who fits into your future just as much as they fit into your present, it’s the clearest sign that they could be the right person for you.

A final thought: Finding the one is a deeply personal journey

When it comes to finding the right person, there’s no universal checklist or formula.

It’s a profound and deeply personal journey that’s intertwined with our own growth and self-discovery.

The goal isn’t to find a perfect person, but rather someone who is perfect for you – someone who is compatible in lifestyle and values, someone who complements you, challenges you, inspires you to become the best version of yourself, and enriches your life in ways you didn’t think were possible.

The right person will stand by you through the thick and thin, offer unwavering support in your low moments and celebrate with you in your highs.

They will love you unconditionally and help you grow as an individual.

The signs we’ve discussed here, grounded in psychology, provide a useful guide.

These signs aren’t foolproof but they’re a good starting point to figure out if you’re in a relationship that’s healthy and worth investing in.

So take these signs as guidance but also remember to listen to your heart, trust your instincts, and don’t settle for less than you deserve. There’s someone out there just for you! 

Lucas Graham

Lucas Graham

Lucas Graham, based in Auckland, writes about the psychology behind everyday decisions and life choices. His perspective is grounded in the belief that understanding oneself is the key to better decision-making. Lucas’s articles are a mix of personal anecdotes and observations, offering readers relatable and down-to-earth advice.

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