14 signs you’re wise beyond your years, even if no one realizes it

You’ve been told that you can be a bit childish sometimes.

You don’t take life too seriously and you live as if you don’t have any plans for the future.

But chances are that, ironically, you act this way because you’re wiser than everyone else around you.

Here are 14 signs you’re wise beyond your years, even if no one realizes it.

1) You’re aware of the shortness of life

“Life is short.” 

Most of us are familiar with this saying, but very few people take the time to actually reflect on it.

And you’re one of those few people who do. 

You understand just how quickly the years pass us by, and how everything around us will eventually fade.

All terrifying things to ponder—but ones that lead you to reflect on the meaning of life.

You may not have the answers yet, and you might have faced a few existential crises in your time. 

But one thing’s for sure: all of your introspection has made you wiser than most people your age.

2) You know that it’s useless to worry 

You understand that it’s okay to worry… in moderation. 

Worrying about things like whether you have enough money in the bank to pay your bills is well, necessary to some degree.

The way you see it, the problem is that most people just worry way too much—even about things as minor as a pimple that just showed up overnight!

People would get so caught up worrying that instead of working to find a solution they just sit there battling with their own mind.

People see you as someone who’s way too chill and relaxed because you refuse to let your worries consume you.

3) You don’t try to change people

You understand that people can only ever change themselves. 

Even as a parent or a therapist, the best you can do is to try to guide them into being better people.

And you know that trying to change others will only lead to disappointment on your end, as well as a fair bit of resentment towards you from everyone else.

As far as you’re concerned, it’s not your place to try to mold other people into the kind of person YOU want them to be.

So when dealing with other people, it’s either that you accept or tolerate who they are, or you just don’t bother and keep them at arm’s length.

4) You’ve mastered the art of detachment

You love the people in your life with all your heart… but at the same time, you also remind yourself that you could just lose them any moment.

Your best friends might grow distant as they get married and have children.

Your partner might break up with you, or—heavens forbid—they might die!

Nothing in this world lasts forever, and though you might have struggled with this fact at first, you’ve since come to accept it.

And because of that, you make sure to savor the present—to appreciate what you have and not take anything for granted.

That way, you wouldn’t be burdened by regret when the time comes for you to let go.

5) You hope for the best

We’re all candles burning on a speck of dust lost in an endless cosmic sea.

And HOPE is the one thing that keeps you from throwing your arms in the air and going “Well, all this is pointless anyways. Why should I bother?”

Life is tough.

People can be cruel.

And the universe is unfair. 

But that won’t stop you from enjoying the moment and believing that everything is possible.

Some people think that hope is for fools, but you CHOOSE to be hopeful because life isn’t worth living without it.

6) You don’t deprive yourself of life’s pleasures

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At the end of the day, as Kurt Vonnegut said, we’re just here on Earth to fart around.

So you fart around—and you fart real good!

If you feel like going to the beach, you’ll take any chance you can get to go to the beach.

And when you find yourself falling in love, you dive straight in and love hard.

You don’t stretch yourself thin, overwork, and deny yourself a good time just so that you can have a “good future”. 

When life calls to you, you seize it. 

You drink your wine without guilt, you nap when there’s a chance to…

In other words, you make sure you make the most out of the one and only life you’ll ever have.

7) You keep everything in moderation

And that includes moderation, as Oscar Wilde once said.

So yes, you indulge in pleasures but at the same time you know when too much is too much.

If you know that you can handle two glasses of wine at most, then you’ll make sure you’re not drinking a third.

You know that you must seize the day, but you know better than to quit your stable job just to go on a week-long cruise.

That is to say, you know how to self-regulate. You have self-control—a good amount of it.

8) You laugh at your own foolishness

We all f*ck up and make mistakes. 

As far as you’re concerned, your failings are not something to be ashamed of, but instead something you can learn from… and laugh at!

You don’t let your failures weigh down on you. You just pick yourself back up, laugh at yourself, and try again.

Not everyone likes this, of course. Some people see this and think that you’re just not taking things seriously—even if you ARE.

But hey, who cares? 

You just don’t think it’s the end of the world if things go wrong… so why should you act like it is?

9) You know that happiness is self-made 

Most people pursue things that they think can make them happy—a loving partner, lots of money, a great career, hobbies.

They keep chasing things and ticking boxes that they forget that happiness is found within.

Sure, we can be happier with more money and having an awesome partner. But we should also be happy even without any of them!

You know that your happiness starts from you—from loving yourself, from being less anxious, by having peace of mind, by being more grateful and present.

And because of this, you’re free.

10) To you, “small things” matter 

And in fact, sometimes they matter more than the “big things”.

Yes, you care about “saving the world” but you also think it’s important to save an ant that got stuck inside a water ring.

Yes, you care about your career, but you also think it’s essential to spend quality time with your needy cat.

Some people might say that you’re wasting your time doing all these “small”, “unimportant” things.

But, eh?

If anything, they’re the ones who are being foolish for not seeing the value of small things.

11) You don’t sweat the small stuff

And most stuff are “small stuff.”

Every day, we have stressors coming at us left and right.

We have deadlines to beat, bills to pay, a partner to please. 

Then of course, there are the many inconveniences big and small—your cat breaking your mother’s vase or your car breaking down.

You do your best to fix things but you don’t make a big deal out of every little problem or responsibility that comes your way.

Not everything can turn your life upside down, and so you’d rather handle things with a warm smile and a sunny attitude.

12) You know when to hold on and when to let go

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The wisdom to know when to let go does not come easy. Many of us fail to achieve it—even well into old age.

This is why so many people are stuck in dead-end jobs, toxic relationships, and unhealthy marriages.

We’re worried that one day we’ll look back and say “What if I did more?” or “What if I waited just a bit longer?”

Luckily, you have the intuition and wisdom to know when it’s time to raise a white flag and say “Welp, that’s it! At least I did my best.”

13) You’re open and curious

Let’s face it, you’re not completely oblivious that you’re wiser than your peers.

But you also know that you’re far from the wisest person in the world.

More importantly, you know that even people who aren’t as wise as you can still teach you a thing or two about life.

So you’re always open to new ideas and new ways of doing things. 

It doesn’t matter even if it doesn’t make sense to you, or if you can’t relate. 

Not everything has to, after all—sometimes you simply don’t have the background to understand what’s being talked about.

You always want to enrich your mind and your life…and this trait makes you wise beyond your years.

14) You’ve accepted the fact that life isn’t fair

There are fitness buffs who go to the gym 3 hours a day and eat keto…but then die at 25. 

Then there are those people who chain smoke and drink nothing but alcohol… and still live til 94.

You work 15 hours a day but you still haven’t bought a house. While your brother somehow got lucky with the lottery and owns 5 houses despite never ever working a day in his life.

Life isn’t fair

While you can take the steps to increase your chances of success, there are still many factors (like luck) that could affect the result. 

It’s never 2+2=4. Sometimes it’s 2+2=1101234.

And you’re fine with it.

Last words

Wisdom is not as straightforward as people assume it is. 

It does not necessarily come with age, a hard life, or even spiritual asceticism.

Some people can be wise in a specific way, but remain bound by their prejudices and be overall less enlightened than they might seem.

And most important of all is that wisdom is something you can lose. 

You can get cocky and start being more shallow and immature as time goes by.

So if you want to remain wise, always question yourself. Spend time analyzing your biases and prejudices—there’s always more to learn from life.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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