50 unfortunate signs you’re ugly (and what to do about it)

We’re all beautiful in our own way, but sometimes it can be hard to see that.

If you feel like being on the outside looking in, you might want to take stock of the signs you are not as pretty as everyone else.

These 50 unfortunate signs you’re ugly (and what to do about it) will make you consider how your looks and your character traits could be holding you back.

1) You’re overweight.

Most people think that being overweight is unhealthy, but what they don’t realize is that being overweight is actually a sign of being unattractive.

Being overweight implies that you are lazy and lead a sedentary lifestyle.

You need to get out of the house and start moving more if you want to be attractive.

2) You’re too skinny.

Being skinny can make you look like a frail weakling, so it’s important to be healthy and strong as well as have an attractive figure.

If you’re too skinny, then it might be time to invest in a few extra pounds around the midsection or put on some muscle.

However, if you’re too thin then it might be time for an operation to plump up.

3) You don’t look after your teeth.

Poor dental hygiene is a huge turn off and having bad teeth can be seen as a sign of being unattractive.

If you want to be attractive, it’s only right that you take care of your teeth. It may seem like an inconvenience at first but once the routine becomes second nature, it will become something much easier than before!

This means brushing twice daily for two minutes each time with toothpaste or mouthwash and flossing between every meal (or snack).

4) You’re too needy.

If your neediness is unattractive then that means that other people don’t want to be around you because if they are the needy type they might feel like they are being taken advantage of.

It’s not attractive for a person to be giving or for a person to be needy.

So, if you find yourself being overly needy and feel like it’s affecting your relationships and self-esteem, it’s crucial to address this issue head-on.

Being too needy can push people away and create an unhealthy dynamic where you’re constantly seeking a “savior” to make you feel better about yourself.

The role of “needy” is especially sabotaging when it comes to relationships.

But you’re not alone in this, and it doesn’t make you a bad or unloveable person.

The truth is that many people struggle with neediness in relationships. I only realized this after watching the renowned shaman Rudá Iandê’s Love and Intimacy Masterclass.

The key is to acknowledge it and take steps to improve.

That’s why I highly recommend Rudá’s free masterclass. It aims to help you explore the root causes of your neediness, providing you with actionable steps to develop healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Instead of worrying too much about this unattractive trait, give yourself the chance to grow and change the way you approach love and, more importantly, how you see yourself.

Click here to access the free masterclass.

5) Your nails are dirty.

Person pet peeve here. There is nothing more unattractive than somebody who has filthy nails that look gunky.

Some people think that having manicured nails is a sign of wealth and personal taste, but if you don’t take care of your nails then you’ll look like an untidy person.

If you want to be attractive, then learn how to properly care for your nails and visit the nail salon every three weeks!.

6) Your hair is unkempt.

You might have frizzy hair as I do, that’s fine.

What’s not ok is letting it ruin your looks.

There are plenty of serums, treatments, and DIY hair hacks available to keep your mane in check.

If you have unkempt hair then it will make you look like an untidy person.

If you want to be attractive, then learn how to take care of your hair properly and visit the hairdresser twice a month for a haircut and blow-dry!

7) You neglect foot care.

With warmer weather comes the time to expose those feet and toes, so you need to make sure that they are ready to be exposed.

Dry, cracked heels and toenails that need an angle grinder to keep them in check are another sign of being unattractive.

A good pedicure and regular moisturizing will help you to keep your feet looking good and inoffensive to the rest of us.

8) Your hair is always greasy.

I guess I’m lucky that my hair is not greasy, but if yours is then it’s a sign of laziness and poor hygiene.

The way to combat this is by washing your hair more regularly and making sure you’re using the right products.

You don’t have to be a supermodel but having clean and tidy hair will boost your overall appearance.

9) Your skin isn’t glowing.

If you don’t have a healthy glow on your skin then it’s a sign that you aren’t taking care of yourself.

Dark circles under your eyes are also not attractive.

To maintain good skin and combat dark circles, moisturize daily and visit the dermatologist once a month!

10) Your teeth are yellow or stained with coffee or tea stains.

I mentioned teeth earlier but having off-colored teeth is a huge sign that you’re not as attractive as you can be.

There are many ways to combat teeth stains such as whitening, using a good mouthwash, and brushing your teeth at least twice a day.

11) You’re materialistic.

You place too much value on things and you let them consume you.

Remember, you might have money and are probably better off than most others but there is nothing more tasteless than talking about all the wonderful things you own and how luxurious your first-class flight was when we have people in the world who are starving.

And you know what?

Materialism isn’t just about what you own. It’s also about your values and what you prioritize in life.

And if what you own is overshadowing who you are as a person, then it’s time for a change.

I know this change may be a bit confusing, especially when you don’t know how to start.

That’s why I wanted to introduce Jeanette Brown’s Reset Your Life Compass Challenge. It’s a free 5-day journey designed to help you reassess what’s truly important.

By participating, you’ll gain clarity on your values and align your actions with a more meaningful and intentional life.

Instead of focusing on material possessions, you’ll learn to cultivate inner richness and purpose.

Click here to join a free 5-day journey.

12) You’re a chain-smoker.

I’m not saying that it’s bad to smoke but if you’re a chain-smoker then you’re going to have a lot of work on your hands.

Smoking has been shown to age the skin, make you look tired, reduce your attractiveness and make you look less healthy than someone who doesn’t smoke.

So if you want to be attractive, then give up smoking and find other ways to improve your appearance.

13) You’re overbearing.

Are you the type of person who always likes to control others?

Do you like to dictate and is it a case of always being your way or the highway?

Being overbearing is ugly and unattractive.

It’s not a good idea as it can make people feel uncomfortable and maybe even threatened.

People might think that you’re trying to be too much of a good person or don’t have any real personality when they see your over-sharing nature.

They may also get the feeling that you are simply being needy, which is never attractive in itself either.

14) You have poor posture.

Do you slouch? You don’t sit up straight?

If you are like this then your posture is poor.

It’s unattractive and it makes you look lazy and uninterested.

Poor posture can also make you feel unattractive as it can make people think that you’re not confident or willing to put in any effort.

If they see that you don’t care about your appearance, then they will also stop caring about yours!

15) You make others feel uncomfortable.

You might not mean to but you can sometimes make others feel uncomfortable. Maybe it’s because you’re too loud or too talkative.

Maybe it’s because you’re overbearing or maybe it’s because you just don’t care about how you look and how other people perceive your appearance.

If people see that they aren’t comfortable around you then they might stop wanting to be around you. A tell-tale sign that you’re unattractive.

16) People don’t like being around you.

People don’t want to be around you because you’re boring.

You have no personality and people aren’t interested in what you have to say. You’re just a person who’s there and that’s it.

If people are bored with you they won’t want to be around you. They will stop wanting to be around you because they will think that your company isn’t worth their time.

17) You’re not confident.

If you’re not confident then you don’t look like someone who will stand out in a crowd.

You don’t look attractive and you don’t look interesting, so people won’t want to be around you because they will think that your company isn’t worth their time.

They’ll lose interest in being around you as they’ll see that your company is not worth it, which is never attractive in itself either

18) You don’t smell nice.

Some people think that smelling nice is a sign of wealth and taste, but if you don’t smell nice then it’s a sign that you have no personal hygiene.

If you want to be more attractive, then learn how to maintain cleanliness and shower more often.

But before we move on, you should know that this isn’t something you can’t change or can’t accept.

In fact, don’t look or smelling nice doesn’t mean that you can’t be perceived as beautiful by some people.

19) You wear inappropriate clothing.

If you wear inappropriate clothing then people might not want to be around you because they will think that you don’t care about how you look.

You wear things that are too small, too big or don slogan tees with the cringiest sayings that tend to offend.

Also, you don’t dress age-appropriately. Looking like Britney Spears in her baby one more time costume isn’t cute when you’re well over 40.

20) You have inappropriate tattoos.

I’m not tattoo shaming anyone here, tattoos can be very sexy and are tasteful when done correctly.

Here I’m alluding to tramp stamps, back door tattoos with incorrect spelling, and that butt-hole you had tattooed around your belly button.

Not cool.

21) You’re too loud.

You have no idea what an “inside voice” is and you’re always loud and causing a ruckus.

Your voice causes others to become annoyed because it’s like a cackling witch and you don’t stop.

Yet another sign that you’re unattractive and need to tone it down.

22) You’re overly opinionated.

You don’t have to agree with someone’s opinion, but it is not okay for you to try and convince them their opinions are wrong.

You can disagree without being rude or aggressive about it.

There’s nothing wrong with having an opinion on a subject or topic, but if you think that other people should share your view then there might be something really off about how they feel when they hear what you’re saying.

23) Your vocabulary is limited to swearing.

It’s never really ok to drop an f-bomb when you’re in the company of others, especially children.

There is nothing more off-putting than listening to someone who when they talk, every second word is a cuss word.

It’s not that we don’t have moments where we use bad words but it shouldn’t be at such a high rate that no other words are coming out of your mouth.

It should also not be so common and normal for people around us to hear these things from you because if they do start hearing this all the time then eventually their minds will change on what kind of person you are and how much respect or care they give towards being around someone like yourself.

24) Your clothing is dirty.

You don’t wash your clothes, you wear the same thing every day and it’s dirty.

You don’t care about how you look or smell.

You do not take care of yourself and that’s fine, but we all need to be aware of what kind of person we are around and how much respect we give to others.

You don’t have to wear the trendiest of clothing but being attractive means being clean and presentable.

Nobody wants to see that huge oil stain from your KFC lunch. Yuck.

25) You have poor table manners.

Ok, not all of us went to finishing school but there are do’s and don’ts when sitting around a table.

If you’re the type whose elbows are always on the table, you don’t use a knife and fork but rather go for it with your hands and you chop your food with your mouth wide open, know that this is incredibly unattractive.

When you’re attending dinner, make an effort to apply some etiquette.

It will make you look way more appealing.

26) You talk over other people.

If you want to talk, go ahead. If you don’t, don’t.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman, if you are always talking then your conversation partner will soon get sick and tired of listening to every word that comes out of your mouth.

Sometimes, being quiet is better than talking for the sake of talking, which I may let you know, is super unattractive.

27) You’re habitually late.

Personal pet peeve coming in hot! If you are late to a date or an event, just don’t bother showing up.

Let it be known that you’re not interested in being on time.

Time tardiness is downright disrespectful and it’s unattractive. It shows that you do not respect other people and their time.

If you’re punctual, then people will love you for it!

28) You have a bad attitude.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or woman, if you have a bad attitude, no one will ever want to be around you.

There is nothing attractive about someone who can’t take criticism and doesn’t care about their own self-image.

No one wants to be around someone who has an attitude problem and there is nothing attractive about that at all.

29) You’re rude to the waiter/waitress.

Bad attitudes towards waiters and waitresses are not only embarrassing, but they can also ruin the experience for everyone in the restaurant.

It is important to remember that these people are just doing their job.

They should be treated with respect no matter how busy or slow your service may be on any given day as well as being compensated fairly for all of their time spent working at a restaurant.

If you have an attitude problem when it comes to waiting staff, maybe you need some more practice showing gratitude before heading back out into the world again.

30) You don’t follow through with things that you say.

If you say something and then don’t follow through with what that means, it’s incredibly unattractive.

You have to make sure that what is said is followed through with; otherwise, people will start doubting how honest and sincere you are.

31) You have bad-breath.

Bad breath is unattractive. There’s no excuse for having bad breath, especially if you know that it can be fixed.

It doesn’t matter how old you are or what your health is like, a bad breath will always make you look unkempt and unattractive.

A breath mint can be your lifesaver. Use it.

32) Your perfume is overwhelmingly strong.

If you have a strong perfume, it can be very off-putting.

It can be too strong or too much and may not even smell good. It’s important to remember that the perception of smell is different for everyone and some people just don’t like strong scents.

The best way to combat this problem is to keep your perfume as light as possible.

If you want to wear a scented lotion or perfume, make sure it isn’t too heavy and overpowering.

Keep your scent light and simple so that it smells good on everyone who wears it.

33) You use bad grammar and spelling.

If you have a hard time with grammar, it can be incredibly unattractive. Hello, it’s 2022 and there are loads of free spelling and grammar checkers out there.

Nothing says I don’t care quite like sending texts or emails that are littered with typos and bad grammar.

34) You’re not friendly or outgoing.

Being friendly can make you look more attractive than being shy or reserved.

It’s important to remember that you don’t have to be extremely outgoing and flirty to be attractive.

Being friendly is something that comes naturally for some people and others have to work at it.

It’s important to remember that when you’re not very friendly, you may come off as aloof or standoffish.

35) You talk about yourself too much.

If you’re always talking about yourself, it can be incredibly unattractive.

If someone is interested in hearing your life story they will make the effort to come over and talk to you, so why would they want to talk about themselves?

36) You humble brag.

When you’re trying to make yourself look better by boasting demurely.

You say things like “I’m sorry I can’t stay longer but my new BMW is being delivered at 5 pm”. URGH!

37) You’re too confident or cocky.

If you’re too confident, it can be incredibly off-putting.

A person can come across as being arrogant or self-centered if they are overly confident, which is extremely unattractive.

38) You talk about things that don’t matter.

If you talk about things that don’t matter, it can be incredibly unattractive.

It’s important to remember that when a conversation is going nowhere and doesn’t really have anything to do with the other person, it’s not going to be interesting for them.

39) You use all caps or all lowercase letters in your texts or emails.

Using all caps in texts and emails is completely unnecessary.

Using caps can be quite distracting and it’s important to remember that when a person is trying to be thoughtful, using all caps might look like they’re yelling at you.

40) Your fart and belch in public.

If you’re the type of person who has to fart and belch in public, it can be incredibly unattractive.

Yes, I understand that we are all humans but there is a time and place for everything.

If you need to pass gas, go outside and move away from people. There is nothing worse than smelling a stranger’s ripe fart. Utterly disgusting.

41) You don’t wash your hands after going to the bathroom.

If you don’t wash your hands after going to the bathroom, it can be incredibly unattractive, not to mention the fact that we’re currently in a pandemic!

It’s a MAJOR turn-off. Gross.

You’re literally advertising the fact that you don’t care about the health and safety of those around you and it’s an incredibly ugly thing to do.

Shame on you.

42) You love to gossip.

Gossiping is not nice.

Yes, there might be some tea to spill now and again but keep it to yourself.

If you’re the type of person who does nothing but gossip about others, it’s not nice nor is it attractive.

Try expanding your horizons and talk about other topics besides who so and so is sleeping with.

43) You are a bully.

No one likes a bully.

There is nothing worse and nothing more classless than seeing someone be-little others and thinking that it’s ok.

It’s never ok to bully so if you’re doing this, you need to stop because it’s downright ugly.

44) You don’t make an effort with your appearance.

This is a big one because if you are not making an effort with your appearance, then you’re not going to get many opportunities to make an impression.

You might have a great personality but if you don’t take care of yourself, then people aren’t going to be interested in you.

If you want to be attractive then you must take care of yourself and look good.

If others see that you don’t care about your looks, then they will also stop caring about yours!

45) You call people derogatory names.

There is no excuse for this.

It screams that you’re a nasty, narrow-minded douche bag.

Remember the saying, if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Full Stop. Period.

46) You are entitled.

Are you the type who expects everything to fall in your lap without making any effort?

Do you ride the coattails of others because you’re not interested in lifting a finger?

If so, know that it’s really unattractive and is downright off-putting. Stop.

47) You don’t take advice.

Perhaps you’ve had a BO (body odor) problem and your friends have tried to tell you in a very nice way that you need to use a stronger deodorant, or that there’s a new mouthwash that’s really great.

You get upset with them and stop talking to them because of this.

If you can’t take the hint, then I honestly don’t know what’s wrong with you. They’re trying to help you.

48) You have no hobbies or interests.

Another tell-tale sign that you’re unattractive is that you have nothing that interests you.

You’re perfectly happy just meandering through life without a care in the world. It also says that you’re boring and have no life.

There are so many wonderful and fascinating things out there for you to experience. Make an effort to try something new every now and again.

49) You have smelly feet.

For me, this one takes the cake. There is nothing uglier in my opinion than somebody who has stink feet and who thinks it’s ok to subject others to the ungodly odor.

It’s just rude and unpleasant and if you can’t be bothered to wash your feet and clean your shoes, you don’t deserve to have good people around you.

50) You’re overly dramatic.

If you find it necessary to exaggerate everything and love causing or being entangled in drama, know that this is another sign of being unattractive.

I don’t know about you but I want to live in peace and do not enjoy it when other people offload their mindless and banal problems on me.

There are bigger problems in the world, read the news now and again!


So there you have it. This list contains every single quality and unfortunate sign that you (or someone you know) are ugly.

There’s no nice way to put it, nor can it be sugar-coated.

Whether or not you agree, if some points struck a chord, it’s a call to introspect.

And the first thing to realize is that the labels of “ugly” or “beautiful” are nothing more than social norms we’ve been conditioned to accept, sometimes without even realizing it.

Personally, I only realized this after watching Rudá Iandé’s masterclass called Out of the Box. This free video isn’t your everyday motivational chatter — this is about digging deep to rediscover your true self and personal power.

Now I know that true beauty radiates from a well-understood self, and there’s no better way to dig deep into your own self-understanding than to challenge these norms.

So if you’re ready to turn the tables and reframe your reality, I can’t think of a better guide than Rudá.

Start your journey by checking out his free video. Trust me, it’s life-changing.

Lyndol Lyons

Lyndol Lyons

The business of life is the acquisition of memories. In the end, that's all there is. Writer, spiritualist, mom. Tolerant of people, but prefer animals. Owner of 346 cats in a previous life.

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