10 signs you’re truly ready to love again, according to psychology

How do you really know when you’re ready to give your heart to someone? 

You’ve come out of a relationship, and you’re single for now, but when you think about your future, you see love, romance, and someone to share the rest of your life with. 

I’m not talking about a fairytale, either. 

It’s possible to experience love and happiness again, but you’ve got to do the work to give yourself and someone else the best chance of building a lasting and meaningful connection. 

Fortunately, the following 10 signs you’re truly ready to love again, according to psychology, can help you move forward with confidence. 

Let’s get started. 

1) You don’t fear rejection. 

Rejection is one of the biggest things that gets in the way of pursuing a relationship. Either we don’t try because we don’t want someone to make us feel like we aren’t good enough, or we settle for less than what we deserve. 

I know that it seems easier to wait for that special person to magically appear in your life, but if you don’t put yourself out there, you could be missing out on meaningful connections along the way. 

By not fearing rejection, you’re ready to take the risk that you’ll possibly meet a few people while dating, and it won’t work out. 

But the beauty of being ready to love again is that it doesn’t matter because you’re in it for the right reasons. You understand that not every relationship is going to blossom, and it’s not the end of the world. 

2) You no longer find fault with yourself.

I know this feeling all too well. A relationship doesn’t work out, and you start looking at yourself in the mirror in a very different light. 

“Maybe my ex was right. I never did anything spontaneous. I think I need to be more fun if I want to find love.” 

I’m going to be honest. We all get a little bit self-critical when a relationship ends, especially if the other person calls it quits. But over time, you move forward by working on your insecurities and realizing that not all relationships work out. 

That means accepting who you are and sharing the authentic you with someone else. 

Once you get to a point where you don’t blame yourself for everything that went wrong and you accept your flaws, you’re on your way to loving again. 

3) You know how to compromise. 

In a relationship, you want your needs to be met, and it’s easy to get caught up in taking control and ignoring your partner. 

But now you’ve learned how important compromise is in a relationship because it makes the other person feel like their thoughts and opinions matter. 

Let’s just say that compromise is one of the keys to unlocking a happy and healthy relationship. Sometimes, you have to make sacrifices, and so do they, to maintain balance. This way, both of you feel valued. 

It’s not always easy, and it takes quite a lot of give and take, but knowing how to compromise is a necessary step in the pursuit of a fulfilling relationship. 

4) You’ve moved on from your ex. 

Another major reason that we struggle to find love is because we haven’t let go of the past. When a relationship doesn’t end on good terms, which it usually doesn’t, we feel hurt, angry, and sad. 

For some of us, even when time passes, we still hold onto these emotions, making it impossible to open ourselves up to a new relationship. 

Only once you know that you no longer have any feelings attached to your ex will you be ready to connect with someone worthy of your heart. 

5) You no longer push people away. 

Getting back into the dating scene can be intimidating, but it’s made even worse when you find it hard to trust people. 

Being hurt in a relationship leaves you emotionally wounded, and it’s completely understandable. But if you haven’t dealt with these issues, you’re only going to push people away. 

If you’re in a place where you’re questioning someone’s motives every time they speak to you, even when they’re just being friendly, you’re not ready to start a relationship. 

Let’s say someone approaches you and starts a friendly conversation. Do you immediately shut them down? 

Once you’re at a point where you’re more open-minded and trusting, you can say with confidence that you’re ready to meet someone new. 

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6) You don’t mind alone time. 

The word “alone” can scare us, but it’s very different from being lonely. Truth be told, we all need alone time, and it’s also the answer to finding love again. 

According to psychology, loneliness is an emotional state tied to feelings of sadness and despair. You can be in a crowded room and still feel lonely. 

But solitude is about choosing to spend time on your own, which allows you to put things in perspective. 

Even when you enter into a relationship, alone time gives you the space to clear your head. You understand that you don’t need to be with your partner 24/7 because, as much as you value your time together, you also need some time apart.

Getting to a stage in your life where being alone doesn’t scare you stops you from seeking a partner only to fill a void. 

7) You love yourself. 

Do you remember the popular romantic line from the movie Jerry Maguire? He tells his love interest that he simply cannot live without her and that she “completes” him. 

Not to be a stick-in-the-mud, but you don’t actually need someone else to complete you. 

What you do need to do is love and prioritize yourself

It can be a long process and requires some work, but you’ll know that you’re ready to share your life with a new person when you can wholeheartedly accept who you are. 

Loving yourself means investing in things that balance your mind and body. If you want to go for long walks to get fit, then that’s what you do, and if you want to relax in a bubble bath with a glass of wine, then you do that too. 

When you learn to stop neglecting your own needs, you have more than enough time and love to give to someone else. 

8) You’re realistic about what you want in a partner. 

We all know about the checklist. You’re looking for someone who meets a very rigid set of criteria that’s nearly impossible for anyone to meet. 

It’s all good and well to think about what we want in a partner, but when our list isn’t realistic, we’re closing ourselves off to meeting someone compatible who will love us unconditionally. 

If you’re ready to let go of the checklist, you’re ready to get back into the game! 

And this doesn’t mean that you can’t think about what you’d like in a partner or spouse. But rather than focus on their height or the shoes they wear, think about someone emotionally available who will treat you with respect and care

Let go of assumptions and be open to the qualities that you admire in another person, and you’re definitely on the right track. 

9) You can be vulnerable. 

Vulnerability is crucial in relationships because it helps us share our innermost thoughts and emotions. 

It’s not about showing weakness, but a willingness to be emotional in the presence of the person you’re committing to so that you can build a strong and healthy connection with them. 

Don’t be afraid to put your heart on your sleeve. 

I know that it’s not easy to be vulnerable, but if you show someone that you’re willing to let your guard down, they can be vulnerable too. 

10) You aren’t afraid to assert yourself. 

Many people think that being assertive is a complete turn-off. I would certainly agree that being far too pushy in a relationship is never a good thing and tends to scare people away, but I’m not talking about being a drill sergeant. 

Assertiveness in relationships is about not being afraid to tell your partner what you need from them. 

You must be in a position where you can express your needs and desires without being scared or swayed by their response. 

If you need more intimacy and affection or help with daily chores, you should be able to speak up and let your significant other know that they should at least be meeting you halfway. 

Final words

The key to loving again is to love yourself, and that means being authentically you, letting those emotional walls down, and realizing how much you have to give. 

The worst thing you can do is to give yourself a deadline and force the issue of being in a relationship. It will just make you miserable, and you’ll end up with a partner who isn’t the one.

And remember that there’s nothing wrong with being single. 

If singledom allows you to be the best version of yourself so you can find true love, then I’m all for it. 

Once you recognize the signs that you’re ready to love again, nothing can stand in your way of finding Miss or Mr. Right but you. 

Marcel Deer

Marcel Deer

Marcel is a journalist, gamer, and entrepreneur. When not obsessing over his man cave or the latest tech, he’s failing helplessly at training his obnoxious rescue dog ‘Boogies’.

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