14 signs you’re in a relationship with a genuinely kind-hearted person

You think our partner is the best in the world. And you should! After all, you’re in love with them.

But just because you’re crazy about someone doesn’t mean that they are as talented, attractive, or kind-hearted that your smitten state sees them as being. In fact, you’re more likely to see them as all those things precisely because you’re in love with them. After all, love is blind, as Shakespeare rightly said!

Kind-hearted, big-hearted, soft-hearted – whatever you want to call it, these special humans are sensitive, empathetic, kind, and tolerant.

So, how can you know if your significant other is someone who really leaves people and the world better than they found it?

Here are 14 signs that you’re in a relationship with a genuinely kind-hearted person.

(Even in your love-struck state, they’re undeniable!)

1) They look for the good you… and everyone else

We’re all riddled with flaws. But a kind-hearted partner won’t give you grief for yours. And this attitude extends to other people too.

Does your partner speak highly of your friends, always saying something good about each of them? What about your nightmare relative – does your partner find something positive in their behavior?

Genuinely kind-hearted people see the best in others. They’re non-judgmental and accept people as they are, always giving credit for their best traits (and not mentioning the not-so-nice ones).

This also means…

2) They don’t hold grudges

It’s natural (and healthy) for couples to argue from time to time. But how your partner argues (and makes up) with you says a lot about their temperament.

Does he or she really try to see things from your point of view even when they’re mad at you? And when you make up, do they forgive and move on quickly?

Soft-hearted people let things go. Even when they are angry at you, they will still be kind because it is their nature. Therefore, grudges are not part of their MO.

3) They are considerate (even at their own peril)

Your partner’s kindness also extends to others too. For example, do they often agonize over decisions that impact other people?

Then, chances are, they’re genuinely kind-hearted.

Why? Because these people always consider the feelings of others when making plans. They don’t want you or anyone else to feel uncomfortable or stressed and would rather take on those feelings themselves.

(Doesn’t it make you melt! So will our next sign…)

4) They defend the weak

Has your partner ever come to a stranger’s defense?

Kindhearted people are sympathetic to others and are led by integrity. They can’t abide exploitation or cruelty and cannot witness injustice and do nothing.

So, the next time you’re in a restaurant and someone is being rude to one of the waiting staff, don’t be surprised if your partner leaves a larger tip than usual, compliments the server to management, or even reprimands the rude person!

5) They encourage and uplift everyone around them

If your partner is modest when it comes to themselves yet highly complimentary of you and other people, they are probably extremely big-hearted.

Do they take every opportunity to give sincere praise not only to you but to other people too?

Genuinely kindhearted people focus on others. They don’t tend to bang on about their accomplishments and talents but are more than happy to do this for those around them. Why? Because they are not envious and want nothing more than to encourage and uplift other people.

This impulse also means that…

6) They try to bring your people together

Does your partner get really upset when people fall out? Do they often try to make peace when misunderstandings occur between your friends or family?

Being inclusive and hating when people are at odds is a characteristic of kindhearted people.

They see both points of view in arguments and don’t take sides. Instead, they look for ways of bringing people together.

And this consciousness also explains why…

7) They encourage you to be gentler with the earth

Is your partner mindful of the environment and respectful of nature?
The sympathy kindhearted people feel for others extends to all things, including the earth. They understand the importance of safeguarding the world for its own sake, as well as for future generations.

So, if your partner is constantly encouraging you to be more considerate of the natural world, they are likely of the genuinely kindhearted variety.

8) They treat everyone equally

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As well as being considerate of nature, kind-hearted people are also humanitarians.

Does your partner treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who can do nothing for them?

Kind people believe that everyone deserves the same love and respect. So, whether they’re interacting with your boss, your subordinate, or your doorman, they will make the same effort to be courteous and understanding.

And this impulse extends to times when it may not suit them, as we see can see when…

9) They go out of their way for people

Is your partner the type to put themselves out for others? Even when you already have plans or are happily snuggled on the couch together?

The instinct to help others is a trait of the kindhearted. When they see someone in need (whether it’s a family member, friend, or even a total stranger) they tend to spring into action.

True, this can potentially ruin some lovely days you are together, but it’s a sure sign of their wonderful empathy!

10) They work on themselves for both your sakes

The wish to help others also means that your partner is always trying to better themselves and become more self-aware.

Kindhearted people want to make the world a better place. They know that by working on themselves and managing their negative emotions they can make life better for their partners and everyone around them.

So, if he or she is constantly reading self-development articles and books, this is another sign that they are genuinely kind-hearted.

11) They actively protect animals

No surprises here!

Bighearted people are animal lovers and feel a responsibility to actively protect the vulnerable.
So, the next time your partner pleads with you to adopt (another) dog or put themselves in danger to rescue a kitten from the side of the street in heavy traffic, you can be assured they are extremely good-hearted.

12) They hate when they hurt you

Look, no one is perfect. And even the softest hearted among us can still hurt those they love from time to time.

But if your partner is always ready to admit when they are wrong and really tries to make amends when they know they’ve upset you, chances are they are truly kind-hearted.

And that you are a very lucky gal or guy!

13) Your friends love them (maybe even more than they love you!)

What do your family and friends think of your partner? Do they put up with them for your sake or do they really like them for who they are?

Kind-hearted people are sympathetic and genuinely care about everyone (not just their partners). This quality makes them extremely likeable to others.

So, if your family and friends are mad about your partner, this is a good indication that you’re with a genuinely kind-hearted person. And it feels amazing too!

Onto the final sign…

14) They find joy in little things

People who have truly kind hearts tend to find joy in the littlest and simplest of things.

They are generous, giving without expecting anything in return. And they are not in the least bit entitled but instead appreciate everything others do for them.

So, if you’re with someone who values your time together more than gifts, or who is grateful for even the smallest things, this is a sign of a kind-hearted nature.

Final thoughts

So, now you know the signs that you’re in a relationship with a genuinely kind-hearted person. If you’re lucky enough to have found a partner who displays these qualities, be sure to cherish them!

Niamh McNamara

Niamh McNamara

A freelance writer fascinated with human nature and social dynamics, Niamh read literature, history, and philosophy at university before spending time in journalism and PR. Armed with a passion for words and ideas, and a healthy appreciation of the ridiculous, she tries to make sense of it all. Connect with Niamh on X @NBMcnamara123

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