12 signs you’re in a relationship with a deeply caring person

There’s caring and then there’s deeply caring. Yes, there’s a difference. And while you should strive for a caring partner, there is no match for a deeply caring one. 

A deeply caring person is someone who genuinely makes you feel seen, heard, and valued in a way that others cannot. Their version of care is not just on a surface level, but deeply, authentically thoughtful. 

Their warmth can wrap you up like a cozy blanket on a cold day, providing comfort when you need it most. Who wouldn’t want that? 

They’ll inspire you to be a better version of yourself, too. 

Now that we’ve defined this incredible breed of human, how can you tell if your partner is it? 

Here are the key signs that indicate your partner is the deeply caring person you deserve.

1) They show genuine interest in you

One of the clearest signs you’re with a deeply caring partner is how they demonstrate genuine interest in your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. 

They don’t just ask you how your day was out of habit. No, they want to know the little details, the highs, the lows, and everything in between. They crave depth. 

You can see it in their eyes and hear it in their voice that your words matter. They are there, with you, present in the conversation, connecting with your experiences and making you feel valued.

2) They are always empathetic

Not to toot my own horn, but I’m a deeply caring person. A total empath, I feel everyone’s feelings—good and bad. When you cry, I cry. I am intensely affected by the energy of the room. It’s my superpower! 

Wondering if your partner is like me? Empathy is often described as the ability to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. People who have empathy can understand other people’s perspective even if they don’t directly share it.

And with a caring partner, that empathy will translate into comforting you through your journey. They aren’t just sympathetic observers. They take the time to understand your feelings, validate your struggles, and provide support. 

They feel you, which is a kind of love that’s rare and invaluable.

3) They practice extreme patience

I think we can all agree that patience is a virtue, and a deeply caring person has plenty of it. 

When it comes to understanding you, your dreams, your fears, and your quirks, they know it’s a marathon, not a sprint. 

They don’t rush you to open up or move forward. Instead, they give you the time and space you need to grow and become who you are meant to be. If you’re not ready, they will hold steady. 

Their patience tells you that they care about you enough to wait.

4) They offer help with no strings attached

Regular people might be willing to help. But the deeply caring person doesn’t want anything in return—not even a thank you.

When you’re with a truly caring person, you’ll notice that they’re always ready to extend a hand. 

It’s not just about grand gestures either. Sometimes, it’s the small things, like offering to cook dinner when you’re tired, or carrying your grocery bags when they’re too heavy. 

It’s in these seemingly small acts of kindness that a deeply caring person shows their love for you. It’s their way of saying, “I’ve got your back.”

And while the deeply caring person isn’t doing things for you for a reward, don’t forget to acknowledge your appreciation. After all, don’t you think you should be as deeply caring as them? 

5) They consistently validate your feelings 

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One thing about deeply caring people: they never downplay your emotions. You’ll never hear them say, “You shouldn’t be upset about that.” I don’t know about you, but if a partner says this to me, I will see red.

If you’re upset, they don’t tell you to “get over it.” If you’re excited, they join in your joy. 

The deeply caring individual will understand that your feelings—whether positive or negative—are important and valid. 

They don’t dismiss your emotions, but instead make you feel understood and supported, even when they don’t necessarily agree.

6) They are relentlessly trustworthy

We all know that trust is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. But a deeply caring person values this relationship “must” deeply

They don’t take your trust lightly, and they strive to maintain it. They know trust is earned, so they will work hard to gain it.

They’re consistent, reliable, and true to their word. If they say they’ll do something, they will. If they are asked to keep a secret, mums the word. 

They’re someone you can depend on, and you know that no matter what, they’ll be there for you.

7) They apologize sincerely

We’re all human, and we all make mistakes. But what sets caring individuals apart is their willingness to apologize when they’re wrong. And, they do it with sincerity

They don’t shift the blame or make excuses. Even better, they won’t apologize just to get you to move on. 

To a previous partner I had, I’m looking at YOU! When you’d say “sorry” in that tone of voice that shows insincerity with an eye roll, it was never truly an apology. I knew it. That’s why things didn’t work out. 

I digress.

The deeply caring partner will own up to their mistakes, apologize sincerely, and most importantly, learn from their pitfalls. Their actions show that they care about your feelings more than their ego.

8) They encourage you constantly

We’ve all got dreams, passions, and goals. And we all want a partner who will be our biggest cheerleader!

A caring partner supports and does so in a consistent manner. They are happy to watch you shine, encouraging you to pursue your ambitions and applauding your achievements. 

Their faith in you often helps you build faith in yourself, too. 

When you have a new goal, the deeply caring partner will even try to help you… If you’re open to it, that is.

They respect your boundaries, after all… 

9) They respect your boundaries

A caring person understands the importance of personal space and boundaries. 

They won’t pressure you into doing things you’re uncomfortable with. 

They give you space when you need it and are there when you’re ready to share.

For example, when my husband makes a mistake… If I’m not ready for his “I’m sorry,” he needs to stand back until I’m receptive to the apology. If he jumps the gun to apologize before I’m open to it, he’s really apologizing for him, not for me.

In short, the deeply caring person will value your comfort as much as, if not more, than they value their own.

10) They warmly show kindness to others

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It’s not just about how they treat you. A deeply caring person extends their compassion to everyone around them. 

They treat the waiter with respect, help an elderly neighbor with their groceries, and are kind to animals. 

Early on in my relationships, I would constantly take note of how my dates would treat servers at restaurants. Once I’m deeper into a relationship, I’d consider how my boyfriends would treat their mothers. 

If they were kind and caring towards strangers and people they love, I’d know they were genuinely awesome! 

Their kindness isn’t selective or situational; it’s a part of who they are.

11) They remember the “little things”

Remember that random conversation you had about your favorite childhood snack? They do. 

When they pick up on the minutiae and whip it out to show thought and care, you’ll know they care. (Example: When they take note of what you love and gift it to you for no reason. Swoon!) 

Caring individuals listen closely and remember the small details about you, the things that make you uniquely you. 

It’s not about a photographic memory; it’s about paying attention and valuing what you share.

12) They prioritize your well-being first and foremost 

At the end of the day, a caring person cares about your well-being above all else. 

Whether it’s ensuring you’re taking care of your physical health or looking out for your emotional stability, they prioritize you. 

They remind you to take a break when you’re overwhelmed, and they step in to share your burdens. They care for you, not because they have to, but because they truly want to.

But no, they’re not your parent. It’s a different kind of support—it’s like they’re on your team and give you strength when you’re weak. 

The magic of a deeply caring person is that they can transform ordinary moments into extraordinary ones with their love, empathy, and kindness. 

I strive to be this person always! 

So after reading the signs of a deeply caring person, how did your partner do? 

Recognize these signs in your partner, cherish them, and reflect the same care back to them. We all deserve such profound, nurturing love. After all, isn’t that what makes love worthwhile?

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Ysolt Usigan Schmidt

Ysolt Usigan is a lifestyle writer and editor with 15+ years of experience working in digital media. She has created share-worthy content for publishers WomansDay.com, Shape, WhatToExpect, CafeMom, TODAY, CBSNews, HuffingtonPost, TheBump, Health Magazine, and AskMen. A working mom of two, her editorial expertise in relationships, spirituality, mental wellness, shopping, and home are rooted in her everyday life.

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