10 signs you’re exceptionally good at relating to others, according to psychology

Being really good at connecting with others in everyday life has its perks. Among them, the ability to build strong bonds with friends, family, and even coworkers.

They’re also team players, can smooth things over when things get rocky, and are super understanding and accepting of different people and perspectives.

If that sounds just like you, let’s discover just what signs reveal you’re exceptionally good at relating to others. But this time, according to psychology.

1) You easily understand and share the feelings of others

To be able to relate to others, you need to be able to put yourself in their shoes, right?

That’s why those who are great at relating to other people act like a sponge for emotions, soaking up what others are feeling. 

So, for example, when your friend is sad, you feel a cramp in your heart, too, and when they’re happy, you can’t help but share in their joy.

From a psychological standpoint, empathy involves understanding and sharing the feelings of others. 

It’s a complex interplay of cognitive and emotional processes where we can recognize and resonate with someone else’s emotional state. 

Still, you can have all the empathy in the world, but if you don’t really listen to people, you won’t be able to connect with them. 

2) You listen carefully to others without interrupting

Picture yourself as a sponge again, but this time for words. When someone talks to you, you’re not just hearing them:

You’re absorbing every word, nodding, and making eye contact to show you’re fully engaged.

Psychology emphasizes the importance of active listening in effective communication. It means you’re not only hearing the words but also paying attention to nonverbal cues, encouraging a deeper connection and understanding.

So, suppose your partner comes to you with worries about their job. Instead of looking at your phone, offering immediate solutions, or dismissing their concerns, you listen empathetically. 

You hold eye contact and nod in understanding as they express their feelings and thoughts without interruption.

3) You can interpret and use nonverbal cues to understand others better

Apart from words and sentences, there are many other means of communication. Body language is the most important one, of course.

In fact, psychologists study nonverbal communication as a crucial aspect of interpersonal relationships.

Body language, facial expressions, and gestures share a wealth of information, influencing how we receive and interpret messages.

If you’re exceptionally good at relating to others, you can pick up on these subtle clues people give off without even saying a word. 

From a crumpled brow to a smile, you can read between the lines to understand what someone’s really feeling.

4) You adjust your communication style to fit the needs of different people

As someone who deals with people from all walks of life on a daily basis, I know how important it is to adjust your communication style to different folks

You see, people who make great bonds with others can change the way they approach and talk to other people on the fly. 

People who can adapt their communication style demonstrate social intelligence and flexibility, improving their effectiveness in diverse situations.

So, if you can crack jokes with your pals or have a serious heart-to-heart with a coworker, you, too, can adjust your approach to fit the situation.

5) You can put yourself in other people’s shoes, even if you don’t agree with it

It seems to me that seeing the world through someone else’s eyes is something more and more people can’t or won’t do. 

That’s why everyone needs to take a side and pick a team when it comes to everything. No wonder we’re so divided then. 

The world would be a much better place if, even if you don’t agree with others, you can understand where they’re coming from and why they see things the way they do.

To be able to relate to others, this is critical. But so is the following:

6) You’re open-minded to different ideas, opinions, and beliefs, even if they differ from your own

genuinely kind person 10 signs you're exceptionally good at relating to others, according to psychology

Psychologically, open-mindedness is associated with cognitive flexibility and a willingness to consider diverse perspectives. 

It lets you explore new ideas, challenge assumptions, and engage in constructive dialogue.

If you’re open to other people’s views, you’re like a door that swings both ways, always open to new ideas and different perspectives. 

Instead of shutting down opinions that don’t align with yours, you welcome them with open arms and an open mind.

Again, you don’t have to agree with everything others are saying. That would be stupid. But you can still listen to them and, if you hear something interesting, embrace it. 

7) You treat others with respect, kindness, and consideration, regardless of their background or opinions

Do you treat others like VIPs with kindness, courtesy, and consideration? Look, if you’re reading this article, I’m sure you respect everyone, right. 

Whether they’re a CEO or a janitor, you treat everyone with the same level of respect because you believe everyone deserves it.

And that’s awesome. We should have much more people like that. Still, the whole world doesn’t have to turn into Japan or South Korea, where you can’t tell anyone older or who is higher on the social scale than you that they’re wrong. 

I still remember when a SK plane crashed because the copilot was too afraid to tell his captain that they were going too slow. The result was that many people died. 

That said, a little more respect for each other would be great, especially in politics. Today’s political landscape, or should I say hellscape, is making everyone’s stomach turn. 

8) You understand and respect personal boundaries

Picture yourself as a fence, marking the line between what’s yours and what’s someone else’s. 

You know when to step back and give people their space, but you’re also there to lend a hand or a listening ear when they need it.

And that’s what makes it easy for you to relate to others and vice versa. You’re simply one of them. But not just in one social circle. For you, that’s true wherever you go. 

Understanding and respecting these limits brings about healthy and balanced social interactions, preventing issues like burnout or interpersonal conflicts.

9) You’re skilled at resolving conflicts in a constructive and peaceful manner

Now, imagine you’re in the middle of a disagreement with a friend. Instead of letting things escalate into a shouting match or resorting to hurtful remarks, you take a step back and approach the situation calmly and rationally.

Because you’re great at relating to others, you’re a master at listening to the other person’s side of the story without jumping to conclusions or getting defensive. 

At the end of the day, you’re all about finding common ground and keeping the peace. You know that conflicts happen, but you’re confident that with a little patience and understanding, you can work through them together.

10) People feel comfortable confiding in you because they trust you to keep their information secret

You’re like a vault, keeping people’s secrets safe and sound. Friends, family, and even strangers feel comfortable confiding in you because they know you’ll guard their trust with your life.

Whether it’s a friend’s struggles with mental health, a family member’s relationship woes, or a colleague’s professional concerns, you handle each confidence with the utmost discretion and respect.

From a psychological standpoint, being someone whom others trust with their secrets is a big deal. It means you’ve built a reputation for being reliable and discreet.

Final thoughts

If you’re exceptionally good at relating to others, that means you’re a good friend, a supportive family member, and a reliable colleague. 

You genuinely care about others, listen when they need to talk, and respect their opinions and boundaries.

But above all, you’re flexible and understanding when plans change, staying open to new ideas and different perspectives, and willing to step into someone else’s shoes to see things from their point of view.

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Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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