8 signs you’re dating a high effort man (not another bare minimum man)

Sick of wasting your time and energy on relationships with bare minimum men?

I hear you.

Sounds to me like you need to find yourself a high effort man – someone who actually puts in the time and effort. Someone who is thoughtful, caring, reliable, supportive, and takes you and your relationship seriously.

But how can you tell you’ve met such a guy? After all, bare minimum men can appear like high effort men when you first meet them.

Read on to find out the 8 signs you’ve hit the jackpot and are dating a high effort man.

1) He makes a real effort

Anyone who’s ever been in a relationship with a bare minimum guy has at one point or another found themselves wondering, “Am I the only one who cares about this relationship? Why am I the only one making an effort?

The great thing about finally finding a high effort man is that you won’t feel alone – you’ll notice that he’s also working hard to build a strong and happy relationship.

You’ll feel a sense of mutual investment and partnership, as both of you contribute to the growth and well-being of the relationship.

It’s clear that this isn’t just another fling for him and that he wants it to work out with you!

2) He’s reliable and dependable

It’s such a relief to go from a bare minimum man to a high effort one!

Apart from being invested in the relationship, he’s a guy who knows how important it is to be able to count on someone.

That’s why he’s reliable and always follows through on his commitments.

I mean, how great is that?

  • You don’t have to worry about him flaking out at the last minute or being late.
  • When he says he’ll be somewhere, you can be sure that he’ll be there.
  • And when he makes a promise to do something? You can count on him to do it, no matter what.

The bottom line is that he respects you and he understands the importance of trust in a relationship. And he really really wants to be that one person you can depend on at all times!

3) He’s open, honest, and unafraid of a real conversation

Never underestimate the importance of communication in a relationship.

If you want your relationship to work out in the long term and to be a happy and healthy one, then you need to be ready to engage in open and honest communication.

Now, it’s not always easy, but it’s super important to address any issues and resolve conflicts – in a calm and respectful manner.

Trust me, you don’t want to ignore or bury your problems, they’ll just come back to bite you in the butt later on.

If your guy is willing to have difficult conversations, is happy to compromise, and actively works to maintain a healthy and harmonious relationship it’s a surefire sign that you’re finally dating a high effort man!

4) He’s thoughtful

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On the one hand, bare minimum guys aren’t really about grand gestures. As their name suggests, they’re all about doing the bare minimum to keep the relationship going.

They think that their mere presence is enough and they’re the type of guy to take their partner and relationship for granted.

On the other hand, high effort men like to go out of their way to make you happy.

Whether it’s surprising you with small gifts, planning special dates, or remembering important details about your life, it’s clear from his actions that he pays attention and wants to make you happy.

5) He’s supportive

The wonderful thing about a high effort man is that he’s super supportive! He’s there to cheer you on when you’re chasing your dreams and he’s your shoulder to cry on when times get tough.

And unlike the bare minimum man, he doesn’t run when things get difficult, and he certainly doesn’t leave you to deal with your problems by yourself to go have drinks with the guys!

So, if you’ve got a guy who is by your side for the good times and the bad, then it’s another sign you’re dating a high effort man.

Good for you!

6) He respects you

The truth is that without respect, a relationship isn’t worth having.

That’s another way to tell if you’re dating a high effort man – because he respects your opinions, boundaries, and autonomy. And even if he doesn’t always share your point of view, he’ll respect it and try to understand where you’re coming from.

What’s more, he encourages your journey of personal growth and supports your dreams and goals.

7) Takes an interest

When you’re dating a bare minimum guy, don’t expect much more than dinner and a movie. He’s not really going to bother to find out what you’re interested in and what activities you enjoy.

But that’s just another way high effort men are better.

If you’re with a guy who is curious about your likes and dislikes, who takes an active interest in your hobbies, and actually wants to take part in activities you enjoy, it’s a surefire sign that you’re dating a high effort man.

The bottom line is that he genuinely enjoys spending time with you and is always looking for something you can enjoy together.

8) He knows how to listen

Don’t you just hate it when a guy just nods his head when you’re talking and then steers the conversation his way without really registering what you’ve said?

Well, that’s a bare minimum man. He doesn’t really listen – he pretends to do until he thinks it’s his turn to speak.

But don’t worry, not all guys are like that, high effort men certainly aren’t.

Now, if your guy is an active listener – if he really tries to understand what you’re talking about, doesn’t interrupt, asks the relevant questions when you’re done, and validates your feelings, then you’re lucky because you’re dating a high effort man.

Final thoughts

And there you have it, I hope these 8 signs clear up any doubts you may have about whether you’re dating a bare minimum or high effort man.

And if it turns out he’s bare minimum, you need to send him on his way because you deserve no less than a high effort man!

Jelena Dincic

Jelena Dincic

Jelena has a background in photography and film-making and has spent the last few years as a content editor and copywriter. Jelena is a citizen of the world who is passionate about travel and learning about new cultures. She’s a foodie who loves to cook. And, as an art lover, she is always experimenting with new art mediums. When she’s not at her computer, she’s usually out and about in some forest with her dogs.

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