9 signs you’re becoming a more resilient person, according to psychology

I think we can all agree that resilience is very important in today’s world. With soaring costs of living and an uncertain future, you better develop some thick skin.

But how can you tell if you have the strength, determination, and commitment in the face of adversity?

Luckily, psychology and common sense are here to help us. So, let’s discover together the signs you’re becoming a more resilient person.

1) Challenges motivate you instead of overwhelming you

When you’re faced with challenges, do you meet them head-on, or do you crawl back into your shell and procrastinate?

You see, finding motivation in challenges means turning problems into opportunities to learn and get better. You need to be like an athlete, seeing a tough game as a chance to become a stronger player.

For example, when faced with a challenging project at work, use it as an opportunity to show everyone your abilities, learn new skills, and prove your capability to tackle complex tasks.

It isn’t always easy, but nothing worthwhile is. That’s why you need to have an optimistic outlook.

2) You’ve developed a positive mindset, even in tough situations

The way you talk to yourself during tough times matters a lot. If you go into a project or a problem with the thought that you suck and you’ll fail at it, well, guess what, you just might.

You’re setting yourself up for failure before you even step into a room.

So, keeping a positive mindset when things get rough is like choosing to focus on the good stuff, even when everything seems formidable.

Resilient people train their minds to naturally lean towards hopeful and constructive thoughts, even when the going gets tough.

This is a practice advocated by psychologists, and if you’ve adapted it, you’re becoming a more resilient person.

3) You bounce back quickly from setbacks

When things go south, you don’t let it drag you down for too long. Psychologically, this adaptive coping is associated with the ability to manage stress effectively.

You’re dealing with stress in a way that doesn’t let it take over your life.

You’re not the type to mope around when things go wrong, right? Instead, you focus on the idea that setbacks are just temporary bumps, not roadblocks.

Psychological studies highlight how important it is to have emotional resilience when going through challenges.

So, instead of beating yourself up after a setback, you’re the kind of person who gives yourself a pep talk. You’re avoiding negative thoughts and being your own biggest supporter.

4) Adapting to change has become a natural part of your life

Change is inevitable, right?

The world is changing before our very own eyes, and it’s doing so too quickly for some.

Just think about how technology has changed in the last 25 years. From dial-up modems to high-speed internet.

From cell phones that were good only for calls and texts to powerful pocket-sized computers.

The technological landscape is changing rapidly even as we speak with the dawn of actually useful A.I., impacting how we communicate, work, and access information.

If you’re able to keep up with this, that means you’re adaptable, and you’ll be resistant to anything that comes your way.

You’re not the one to sulk and complain, but the one who looks for answers.

5) Rather than dwelling on problems, you focus on finding solution

Woman solving a problem 9 signs you’re becoming a more resilient person, according to psychology

When something unexpected happens, you have a mental switch that flips from problem identification to solution-oriented thinking.

And because finding solutions often involves collaboration, you’re not afraid to engage others, asking for their perspective and expertise to come up with effective answers.

You also understand that the first solution often isn’t the magic fix. That’s why you’re tweaking and adjusting your approach until you find what works.

For example, like many others, I’ve gained weight during holidays. And while they were moaning and looking at themselves in the mirror all the time, I went back to eating healthier food, ramped up my exercises, and decided not to overindulge the next time we visited my family for holidays.

It’s just not worth it.

6) Taking care of yourself is a consistent habit

It is, isn’t it? As soon as you neglect yourself and your body and mind, it comes back to bite you with a vengeance

Now, younger people who are reading this might not relate, but I’m sure those above 40 (35?) know what I’m talking about.

Sometimes, I joke it’s better not to go to the doctor because when you’re this old, they’re bound to find an issue each time you visit.

Taking care of yourself regularly is like having a self-care routine. You need to be doing things that make you feel good, happy, and healthy on a regular basis.

With this mindset, you’ll be prepared and able to stay calm no matter what.

7) You stay calm under pressure

Psychologists highlight the role of preparation and training in staying calm under pressure.

Familiarity with a situation, combined with prior experience or simulated training, can improve your confidence and ability to manage stress effectively.

That’s why some people crumble under stress. But not you. You stay calm when things get intense because you’re not letting stress get the best of you.

You have a mental flashlight cutting through the fog, enabling you to think through problems with precision.

This mental clarity becomes crucial, especially when quick thinking and adaptability are required.

This skill is particularly crucial when faced with tight deadlines, unexpected obstacles, or any situation that intensifies stress.

8) Your self-confidence has grown over time

As I grow older, my confidence keeps growing. I know who I am and know where I’m going (most of the time).

Becoming more confident means believing in yourself and your abilities more.

As you accumulate experiences and knowledge, you become more proficient in different areas of life.

Learning from both successes and failures brings about a growing sense of confidence in your abilities.

Accepting and being proud of who you are without trying to conform to external expectations improves your self-confidence as well.

9) You’re regularly setting realistic goals and working towards them

Setting achievable goals is like creating a to-do list that you can actually finish. Without this, you’re just aimlessly going around and not achieving much.

Without clear goals, you only have a wish list. Can you make things happen? Absolutely. But when you jot down exactly what steps you need to take to achieve something, you’ll get there faster and easier.

Besides, goal-setting gives you a sense of purpose and direction in life. It gives you a reason to strive for something meaningful, promoting a sense of clarity and motivation.

Having specific goals creates motivation and drive, too. The pursuit of these objectives encourages you to take action, stay focused, and persevere through challenges.

And finally, setting and achieving goals is linked to improved mental health. It provides a positive focus, reduces stress, and makes you fulfilled.

Final thoughts

If you’re still not all the way there when it gets to resilience, fret not. By doing the things that I mentioned above, you’ll be there in no time.

Take it one day at a time and build on your previous experience. With a mindset like that, you’ll be in front of 90% of people out there.

If you haven’t noticed, everyone is a snowflake now, even the ones calling them out.

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Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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