8 signs you’re a rare alpha female, according to psychology

It’s one of the most fascinating discoveries you can make about yourself:

You’re not your typical lady, or at least, you’re starting to suspect you might not be.

You’ve spent years trying to fit into the mold society has set out for women, but somehow it never quite felt right.

But here’s the thing: maybe you were never meant to fit that mold.

What if I told you that your unique traits and behaviors align with something called an ‘alpha female’?

In this article, we’re going to look at 8 signs that prove that you are. Let’s dive in!

1) You’re a natural leader

Leadership is one of those traits that can’t be faked, and you’ve got it in spades.

Ever since you were a child, you’ve always found yourself taking charge in group situations, whether it was organizing a school project or leading your friends on an adventure.

And as you’ve grown older, this trait hasn’t diminished. In fact, it’s only gotten stronger.

You’re the one people look to when things get tough, the one who steps up when there’s a problem that needs solving. You don’t shy away from responsibility – you embrace it.

Haters will say you’re bossy, but in reality, you’re inspiring others, making them feel confident and capable.

2) You’re not afraid to stand alone

I know it’s not always easy being a leader.

There are times when you have to make tough decisions and choices that others might not agree with. Sometimes, it even feels like you’re standing alone against the world.

But here’s the thing – you’re not afraid of that.

You don’t mind going against the grain, doing what you believe is right even if it means standing alone. You trust your instincts and your judgment.

You understand that being an alpha female isn’t about being popular or liked – it’s about standing up for what you believe in, even when it’s hard.

So if you resonate with this, there’s a pretty good chance you’re an alpha female. 

3) You never shy away from a challenge

When I was at university, there was this particular project that no one wanted to take on. It was complex, riddled with issues, and honestly, a bit of a mess.

But instead of shying away from it like everyone else, I volunteered to take the lead.

Why? Because I knew it was an opportunity to show what I was made of.

It wasn’t easy, not by a long shot. There were late nights, tough decisions, and moments of doubt. But I stuck with it, I persevered.

And guess what?

It turned out to be one of the best decisions I ever made. Not only did I manage to turn the project around, but I also proved to myself and others that I could handle anything that came my way.

If you’re like me and see challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles, then you might just be an alpha female too.

4) You value authenticity over approval

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Here’s something you might not know.

According to some studies, women who display characteristics typically associated with ‘alpha’ behavior, such as assertiveness and dominance, are often perceived as less likable.

But you’ve never let that stop you.

You’re not in this game for popularity.

You value being true to yourself over winning the approval of others, and you’re not afraid to voice your opinions, even if they go against the grain.

I have a cousin like this. She’s never been popular, and I often wondered if she ever felt lonely.

As I grew up, I realized that her strong qualities made people back off – she wasn’t easy to manipulate or use. She was highly independent and valued genuine people over superficial relationships. 

Looking back now, I can see she was a real alpha female, we just didn’t realize it at the time. 

5) You’re fiercely independent

If you’re an alpha female, independence is more than a state of mind, it’s a way of life.

In other words, you’re not one to sit back and let others make decisions for you. You prefer to be in charge of your own life and your own destiny.

But that’s not to say you don’t appreciate help or support when it’s needed.

When times are tough, you put your pride to one side and seek help from those you trust. 

6) You embrace failure as a stepping stone to success

You’ve seen your fair share of failures, I’m sure.

But instead of letting them get you down, you’ve always taken them in stride.

You know that failure isn’t a dead end – it’s a detour, a stepping stone on the path to success.

As mentioned in the Corporate Wellness Magazine:

“Embracing failure is not just a matter of resilience; it’s a pathway to enhanced well-being and personal growth.”

That’s why instead of fearing failure, you see it as an opportunity to learn, grow, and improve.

That’s a typical sign of an alpha – turning failure into motivation to do better.

7) You’re highly ambitious

Another sign you’re an alpha female is if you have high ambitions

You’re not afraid to work for what you want, and you don’t limit yourself or your capabilities. 

The cousin I mentioned earlier?

She was the first in her family to go to university. She traveled, teaching to support herself and later training as a specialist nurse. 

So while most people would imagine an alpha female to only be in high corporate positions, that’s not always true.

Ambition is ambition, regardless of the line of work. 

8) You empower others

And finally, you’re not just about lifting yourself up – you’re about lifting others up with you.

You believe in the power of empowerment.

You know that a true leader doesn’t just create followers, they create more leaders. People tend to look up to you and your advice is often sought after. 

So, recognizing these traits within yourself might feel empowering, maybe even a little daunting.

It’s a lot to take in, but remember – these signs don’t define you, they simply paint a part of your picture.

Being an alpha female isn’t about becoming someone else or changing who you are – it’s about embracing the strength, the leadership, and the courage that’s already within you.

And while being an alpha female is a powerful thing, it doesn’t mean you have to do it all alone. Ultimately, there’s beauty in vulnerability, in asking for help when you need it. 

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Ava Sinclair

Ava Sinclair is a former competitive athlete who transitioned into the world of wellness and mindfulness. Her journey through the highs and lows of competitive sports has given her a unique perspective on resilience and mental toughness. Ava’s writing reflects her belief in the power of small, daily habits to create lasting change.

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