6 signs you’re a high value person, according to psychology

Acknowledging that there are certain “high-value” people doesn’t mean that some people are inherently better than others. 

And it certainly doesn’t imply that people from particular groups are better than people from other groups. 

It simply acknowledges that when people work on themselves — there’s going to be a payoff. 

But we know that instinctively, right? 

If you’re a person who constantly self-analyses (not too much, hopefully) and tries to identify ways to improve your character, chances are you’ve made progress. 

I guess what I’m getting at is that you’re not necessarily born as a “high-value” person, although you can be. 

Rather, becoming a high-value person is something you can work at. 

We’re all capable of changing for the better and making positive changes starts with knowing what you want to aim for. 

While we’re all different and might value different things, here are a few common denominators when it comes to what makes you a high-value person. 

1) Emotional maturity

First on the list is emotional maturity

Emotional maturity is made up of a few different factors including: 

  • The ability to regulate your own emotions
  • Being sensitive to the emotions of other people
  • Communicating openly, honestly, and appropriately

A high-value person understands their emotions and can read the room like a pro.

They respond to situations with a level of sensitivity and awareness that makes others feel valued and understood. 

We all know there’s a massive difference between speaking with an obnoxious person and someone who is sensitive. 

You can sum it up as having emotional intelligence.

Psychology defines emotional intelligence as “the ability to perceive, express, understand, and manage emotions.”

Psychologist Daniel Goleman argues that emotional intelligence is a key predictor of success in relationships and careers.

People with higher levels of emotional intelligence know how to look within themselves to discover the truth about how things make them feel. 

They also evaluate other people involved in the situation and communicate themselves in a way that balances self-expression and compassion.

Do you often find yourself navigating complex emotional landscapes with ease?

2) Walking the talk with integrity

When we say a person “has integrity,” what precisely do we mean? 

The American Psychological Association (APA) defines integrity as “the quality of moral consistency, honesty, and truthfulness with oneself and others.”  

This means that people with integrity don’t just spout their values loudly as a way of virtue signaling to the world. 

Rather, they mean what they say, and they always say what they mean. 

Integrity is their watchword; they do the right thing, even when no one’s watching. 

This consistency builds trust and respect among peers and friends alike. 

According to a study, people with integrity are more likely to be successful leaders. 

Think about it — how often do you follow through on your promises?

Having strong integrity unquestionably makes you a high-value person.

And while it may not always be easy or comfortable to stick to your principles, it’s worth it in the long run. 

3) Can you bounce back with a vengeance?

signs youre a highly resilient person even if it doesnt always feel like it 6 signs you’re a high value person, according to psychology


It’s the psychological quality of being able to bounce back after you’ve taken a hit. 

The Buddha was really on to something…

Life is suffering — indisputable. 

And without resilience to suffering, you’re at risk of breaking, or even crumbling. 

While it might be easier to become bitter, resentful, and pessimistic, it takes real strength to transform hardships into opportunities for personal growth

When life throws curveballs, high-value people catch them and throw them back. 

Resilience is about more than enduring tough times; it’s also about learning and growing from them. 

Have you ever turned a personal challenge into a victory?

Next time you’re faced with a personal challenge, ask yourself these questions: 

  • “How can I turn this into an opportunity?” 
  • “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?”
  • “How much stronger will I be when I overcome this?

4) Authenticity: Being unapologetically you 

In a world full of copies, lookalikes, and herds of sheep trying to imitate each other, being authentic is almost a revolutionary act. 

High-value people embrace their organic selves, quirks and all. 

They don’t conform to fit in — they stand out because they’re genuine and not afraid of the challenges that might come with being different.

And guess what? 

People gravitate towards authenticity. 


Because it’s refreshing and rare. 

A study from Harvard University found that authentic leaders are more effective and better liked. 

They also enjoy: 

  • Better relationships with colleagues
  • Higher levels of trust
  • Greater productivity
  • A more positive working environment

Do you feel you’re living your true self?

5) The art of generous giving

Generosity is about more than just giving money or gifts. It’s an embodied mindset of sharing and kindness. 

We all value people who know how to share and give, don’t we?

So, it shouldn’t be too surprising that generosity is one of the biggest factors that make someone high-value. 

There’s a distinct difference between spending time with someone who counts every penny you owe them and someone who seems to give without keeping records. 

They freely give their time, knowledge, and energy. And they do it to help others without expecting anything in return. 

People with this personality trait attract like-minded people and form long-lasting friendships based on the fundamentals of human kindness. 

It’s why high-value people often have high-value friends and friendships, too. 

When was the last time you helped someone just because you could?

6)  Always evolving

High-value people are never static; they are always learning and evolving. 

They seek new experiences, knowledge, and skills that challenge their boundaries and promote personal growth. 

Never played a musical instrument before but want to try your hand? 

High-value people rarely let fear of failure stop them from trying new things. That’s why you’ll often find they tend to be “jacks of all trades.”

You know the friend who has their house decorated with books, instruments, art and crafts equipment, and the like. 

Their diverse range of interests combined with their willingness to learn new things makes their lives extremely rich, colorful, and unique. 

They’re often the envy of others because they seem to possess some inner drive that leads them places most people would never even think to go. 

This mindset not only leads to a rich and fulfilling life but also keeps them relevant and adaptable. 

Lifelong learners are more capable and competent in handling changes in their professional and personal lives. 

Are you continuously pushing your limits?

Are you among the highly valued few?

Do you see yourself as one of the extraordinary few?

Striving to be high-value isn’t about being flawless — it’s about pursuing the best version of yourself.

It’s a journey of self-awareness, integrity, resilience, authenticity, generosity, and relentless growth.

These qualities form the bedrock of a life that can soar to new personal and professional heights.

Think about these traits—do they feel familiar to you?

If they do, you’re probably well on your way to becoming a truly remarkable person.

Remember, this is a continuous journey, not a final destination.

What will be your next step?

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Marie Lamb

Marie is a writer with an academic background in psychology and neuroscience. She’s also a qualified yoga teacher with more than 10 experience in Eastern practices. When she’s not writing about psychology and life, she’s reading and crafting stories, poetry, or prose.

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