9 signs you’re a better person than people give you credit for

I have a belief that truly good people worry over being good more than anyone else on the planet. 

Good people are worriers.

It’s always “Have I done enough?” and never “Have I cut myself enough slack?” It’s always “What else can I do?” and not “I’ve done what I can for now.” 

The thing is, you don’t really need to prove your goodness to anyone. 

And also, the thing about being good is that it doesn’t have to be loud, other people don’t have to know; and a lot of times, other people won’t know. Does that change your opinion on doing good?

If not, then you’re already a better person than you think. 

Let’s talk about that further, the 9 signs you’re a better person than people give you credit for.

After all, we all could use a little reminder. 

1) You clap for others

A random nugget of internet wisdom that stayed with me is, “How you make others feel is a reflection of who you are.” 

Do you celebrate other people’s wins? Do you cheer them on to do their best? Do you root for people’s happiness and success?

If you do, then you’re already a better person than you are given credit for.

After all, jealousy and envy are common enough that they ruin friendships and relationships. 

2) You help others without fanfare

You help others not for any external reason like recognition or fame, but instead, you do it because it’s what’s right. 

You help others without fanfare. No camera crews or dystopian narratives packaged as a feel-good story.

You don’t do it for “likes” or compliments. 

For you, helping is as normal as breathing. It is what it is, right? It’s normal for you. 

You’d be surprised at how uncommon that actually is. 

3) You don’t badmouth people

When someone annoys you, do you talk about them behind their backs? Do you spread rumors? 

Do you negatively talk about people who are not around? Do you participate in less-than-stellar conversations that other people have about others? 

If it’s not your habit to badmouth people or wish people ill then you’re already comparatively a much better person.

After all, it’s not always easy to stop yourself from saying things in anger or when you’re being cajoled to join in. 

So, kudos to you. 

4) You respect other people’s boundaries

A list of things you probably do:

  • Ask permission if you can share something vulnerable before you unload your emotions on them.
  • Ask for consent to enter someone’s personal space.
  • Respect someone’s right to practice their faith around you.
  • Respect someone’s time and never be deliberately late. 
  • Never feeling offended when someone needs space away from you. 

And many more. 

Boundaries are crucial in relationships of any kind, yet not everyone will understand this.

If you’re one of the people who do get it and constantly practice respecting and setting them, you’re already better than so many

5) You stay true to your values

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What values do you hold? What values are important to you? What are the things you treat as your life compass?

Is it honesty? Compassion? Do you believe that courage should be your guiding force in life? Do you think kindness makes the world go round?

If you live by these values, whichever ones you consider important, then you’re living authentically.

You live by the standards you’ve set for yourself, come hell or high water.  

The fact that you do not forget what’s important to you in the face of pressure or coercion is a sign that you’re already a much better person than first realized. 

6) You practice gratitude 

Imagine living life like this quote from Maya Angelou, “This is a wonderful day. I have never seen this one before.”

To be so profoundly grateful to exist.

To be so excited about what the day could bring.

Do you do this? 

If you do, then you’re a much better person than so many of us.

After all, it’s sometimes difficult to see the good amidst all the problems. 

But gratitude? Well, it will take you far. I’m sure you’ve been made aware of that by now. 

7) You’re accountable 

Accountability is a strength that we don’t talk about often enough.

Lost between blaming others, pointing fingers, and half-hearted apologies, being accountable shows strength of character. 

If you own up to your mistakes or you don’t run away from your responsibilities, you’re already much better than you’re given credit for

8) You’re empathetic

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia

Empathy is a skill, but there are also people who are naturally empathetic. Which one are you?

Regardless of whether you’ve earned your empathy or if you had it in spades from the beginning, having it in the first place makes you better than so many people.

You’d be surprised at how commonplace apathy is. 

9) You’re consistently yourself

And for the final sign, being yourself. Is that too cheesy? Perhaps.

But it’s still a great sign of being good. It is, after all, being good to yourself and your truth. Of showing up exactly as you are, every step of the way.

So if you (and this isn’t an extensive list, just FYI):

  • Don’t wear a facade around different groups of people. 
  • Stay consistent with what you like and don’t like.
  • Are not fake.
  • Treat everyone the same way, from strangers to people of authority.
  • Are not affected by outside opinion.
  • Stand your ground when you make a decision that is aligned with your truth.

…then you’re consistently yourself and that already makes you better than most. 

Final thoughts

Maybe it’ll be anticlimactic to end with this but: You can’t always worry about what people think of you.

How you look to them, how you act, how you seem to be, and how you live. 

You just can’t worry over that at every turn, you’re gonna exhaust yourself.

Instead, live by what you think is right and what makes you feel good. As long as you’re not out here hurting anybody, then that should be enough.

What you think people think of you is frankly just that, what you think. You can’t ever know for certain what your lasting impression is. 

Just do well in life, live by what makes you who you are, and be comforted by the fact that you lived authentically. 

If you lived while being a good person, then just let karma do her thing. I promise, she never misses. 

All the best!

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Michelle Marie Manese

M Manese is a part-time creative writer, illustrator, and full-time fangirl hoping to find her way within the Content space. She makes art here: @michellemmanese

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