9 signs your relationship is actually worth saving (even if all seems lost)

Hold on to your heart-shaped hats, because in the tumultuous rollercoaster of love, there’s always room for a plot twist – or in this case, a “plot save.” 

It’s like that for most relationships. If romance were a blockbuster movie, we’d always find ourselves on the edge of our seats, wondering if it’s time to roll the credits or if there’s a sequel in the making. 

Fear not, lovers, because I’m here to unveil the 9 signs that suggest your love story might just be worth a rewrite, even if it currently feels like it’s stuck in a plot hole deeper than a dad joke. It’s time to decode the rom-com of your life and discover that hidden subplot – because, trust me, love is always worth a re-run. 

1) Mutual respect is alive

Relationships can have their fair share of disagreements and misunderstandings. But amidst all that, if there’s mutual respect, it could be a strong sign that your relationship is worth saving.

Respect is the bedrock of any healthy relationship. It signifies that despite the differences and challenges, you both value each other as individuals. You appreciate each other’s boundaries, opinions, and emotions.

If you find that this respect is still present, even in the midst of conflict, it could mean that your bond has a resilience that’s worth fighting for.

2) You’re still each other’s safe space

In my own experience, one thing that has always indicated a relationship is worth saving is when you both still serve as each other’s safe space.

I remember going through an incredibly challenging period in my life some years back. Things had been rough between my partner and me; we were arguing more often than not, and it felt like our relationship was falling apart.

But then, a family crisis struck. I was devastated, lost, and didn’t know where to turn. Despite the tension between us, my partner was the first person I wanted to talk to. They were my comfort, my solace amidst all the chaos.

That’s when it hit me – despite our disagreements, we were still each other’s sanctuary. We could lean on each other during the worst of times. That realization changed everything for me and made me see that our bond was worth fighting for.

If you find that your partner is still the person you seek out when you’re at your lowest – even if things are not perfect between the two of you – it could be a telling sign that your relationship has more strength than you think.

3) Communication lines are open

Despite the friction that may exist in a relationship, one crucial component that can indicate its salvageability is open communication.

According to multiple studies, including one published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology, couples who effectively communicate with each other are more likely to stay together and feel more satisfied in their relationship.

Communication is not just about talking, but also about listening and understanding. It’s about being able to discuss feelings, problems, and plans for the future.

If you find that both of you are still able to communicate effectively – voicing your concerns without fear, listening to each other without judgement, and working towards solutions together – your relationship may indeed have a fighting chance.

4) Shared goals and values

Do you both still want the same things out of life? Do you have similar ideas about what makes a good life? Are you both willing to support each other in achieving these goals?

These are important questions to ponder upon. If the answer is yes, then despite the current challenges, your relationship might still have a solid foundation to build upon.

In any strong relationship, shared goals and values play a pivotal role. It’s about looking in the same direction, having a common vision for the future. Your relationship may be going through a tough time, but if you and your partner still have shared dreams and aspirations, it might be worth salvaging.

5) Laughter hasn’t left the building

Laughter is often said to be the best medicine, and it’s certainly a powerful bonding mechanism in relationships. If you and your partner still share moments of genuine laughter and joy, it could be a sign that your relationship is worth saving.

It’s natural for the frequency of these moments to reduce during hard times. But their presence – no matter how sparse – signifies that there’s still warmth, camaraderie, and love between you two.

These shared moments of levity can act as a bridge, connecting you both even when the waters are rough. They remind you of the good times and give you a glimpse of what could be if you weather the storm together.

This means: if laughter hasn’t completely left your relationship, take heart. It could very well be the silver lining signaling that all is not lost.

6) You still feel loved

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This point hits deep in the heart.

It’s about feeling loved, cherished, and cared for. Despite all the turbulence, if you still feel loved by your partner, it’s a powerful sign that your relationship might be worth saving.

Love is more than just a word. It’s a feeling that’s manifested in actions, words, and even silence. Sometimes, it’s as simple as a warm hug on a bad day, a comforting word when you’re low, or just the silent presence of your partner by your side.

If you still feel this love in your relationship, despite all the challenges, it might be worth giving it another shot. Because at the end of the day, love is what makes all the struggles worthwhile.

7) You’re willing to change

Change is tough. It’s uncomfortable, challenging, and often scary. But it’s also necessary for growth.

I’ve had my fair share of struggles in relationships – from misunderstandings to hurt feelings. There was a point where it felt like things were beyond repair. But then, I realized that I was willing to change – to work on myself and my flaws.

This willingness wasn’t about changing who I was, but rather about improving and growing as a person. It involved acknowledging my mistakes and learning from them, changing my ways that were causing harm, and striving to be a better person and a better partner.

When you find this willingness in yourself – or notice it in your partner – it means that your relationship has the potential to heal and grow. 

8) There’s more good than bad

When you’re going through a rough patch in your relationship, it’s easy to get caught up in the negatives. The fights, the disagreements, the hurt – they all seem to take center stage.

But take a moment to step back and look at the whole picture. Are there more good times than bad? Do the happy memories outshine the unpleasant ones?

If your answer is yes, then it might be a sign that your relationship is worth fighting for. Sure, there might be issues that need to be addressed, but if the love, laughter, and good times outweigh the tough moments, then there’s still something beautiful worth saving.

9) You both want to make it work

At the heart of it all, the most telling sign that your relationship is worth saving is if you both genuinely want to make it work. It’s about mutual commitment, effort, and the desire to salvage the bond you share.

It’s not about merely staying together for the sake of it, but about actively wanting to mend what’s broken and build a stronger, healthier relationship.

If both of you are ready to put in the work, to fight for your love, and to help each other grow, then your relationship has a fighting chance. This mutual willingness is the most crucial ingredient in rebuilding a relationship.

Final thoughts: It’s about the journey

One profound quote by psychotherapist Esther Perel resonates deeply in this context. She said, “The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships . . . which are basically a reflection of your sense of decency, your ability to think of others, your generosity.”

This statement holds a mirror to the importance of relationships in our lives. If you’re considering whether your relationship is worth saving, keep in mind that it’s not just about the destination. It’s also about the journey.

It’s about learning from our mistakes, growing as individuals and as a couple, and navigating life’s ups and downs together. 

Even if things seem lost now, these signs can give you hope. They remind us that love is resilient, that relationships can heal, and that sometimes, all we need is a little faith, courage, and a whole lot of effort.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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