6 signs your partner loves you, even if they don’t always show it

People show love in different ways. Just because someone doesn’t perform grand gestures or lavish their partner with the most expensive gifts, doesn’t mean they don’t love them.

Some people prefer or are more comfortable showing love in smaller gestures. But this doesn’t mean they love you less.

Do you feel underappreciated in your relationship, and aren’t sure if your partner truly loves you?

Today, we’ll look at some signs your partner loves you – even if it doesn’t feel like it. 

However, if you do feel that you prefer to be loved in a certain way, it’s always good to have a discussion with your partner.

1) Actively listens to you

This may not seem like much, but it shows that they strive to be present when you need them. They want to be there for you in whatever you’re going through.

Have you ever confided in someone who just didn’t seem to care? They may be physically present, but mentally, they’re far away. You can see it in their body language – they may check their phone frequently, give one-word replies, or just seem to be spacing out.

But people who actively listen to you are fully present. They remove all distractions, empathize, and are ready with a response when you ask for their opinion. 

Active listening takes effort. If you’re with someone willing to do this, it shows that this person is keen on getting to know you at a much deeper level and wants to be a part of your life.

2) Remembers the big and little things

Another sign is that they remember everything you say. Okay, maybe not everything, but at least, the things that matter.

This can be the smallest of things – like how you like your coffee made each morning, to the bigger things, like the way you’d prefer to approach conflict.

This shows how much they respect you.

Remembering someone’s coffee order may not seem like much, but you’d be surprised.

I’ve had friends who had boyfriends who just didn’t bother to remember the little things because they thought that they didn’t matter.  

For example, I had a friend who really liked flowers.

But her boyfriend hardly ever got her flowers, and despite telling him on more than one occasion that a bouquet of flowers would be a really great gift, he’d end up giving her something else – like a stuffed animal, or a box of chocolates.

These little things add up, and when they do, can either strengthen or break the relationship.

3) Encourages growth

While your partner and you should contribute to strengthening the relationship, it’s also important that both of you do not neglect your individual growth. 

When you share your ambitions or plans for personal development, is your partner supportive? When you’re in the midst of a challenging period, do they encourage you to press on?

Again, it’s the little things that count. And sometimes, these little things speak way louder than grand, lavish gestures.

It’s important to find someone that pushes you to become a much better version of yourself. They help you navigate setbacks and motivate you to achieve what you have set out for yourself.

If you think that this should be a given in any relationship, you’d be surprised again.

The same friend I mentioned above had such an unsupportive boyfriend. He wasn’t only unsupportive, he got jealous whenever she achieved a milestone. 

He wasn’t mature enough to celebrate her wins with her, as he only saw it as his girlfriend ‘becoming better than him.’ 

Who’d want to be together with someone like that?

4) Respect your boundaries

This is also a very important sign. Sometimes it’s easy to ignore our boundaries for the sake of a relationship.

We end up sacrificing and compromising on what we want, to the point where we may feel frustrated and angry. 

But a loving partner knows when to pull back or let go.

If someone was highly independent when they were single, they may need time to be alone in the relationship.

And their partners should hopefully be able to understand this, even though they may be on the other extreme – someone who needs to be around their partners all the time.

Sometimes, ‘no’ is also a full sentence. A loving partner would respect this without prodding or questioning too much (in a healthy relationship with open communication). 

This leads me to the next sign…

5) Willing to compromise

Everyone would definitely prefer it if they got their way all the time. It’s so much easier, isn’t it? 

But a loving partner would prioritize your happiness and would want to make you happy.

Even if this means sacrificing or compromising on certain things, they’d do it. This is because when you’re happy, they are as well.

This could look like waking up early to accompany you for a morning workout, even though they love sleeping in, or overcoming their fear of heights by going bungee jumping with you.

Of course, this should be done in a healthy manner, because we don’t want to end up in a situation where the one person harbors resentment for their other. 

6) Prioritizes your wellbeing

They may go out of their way to ensure that you’re well taken care of, even if you didn’t say anything to them.

It could be as simple as taking over your chores after you had a long day at work. It could also be suggesting eating out and enjoying some fresh air after a tough day.

Sometimes it could also be in the smallest gestures – like a reassuring pat on the back, a kiss on the forehead, or a comforting hug.

This is a way of empathizing with you. They can sense your feelings and would want to do their best to cheer you up, or to celebrate alongside you if you’re happy.


People have their unique ways of expressing love. But I always feel that in times of trouble, that’s when the relationship is put to the test, and where you can see how deeply your partner loves you.

Do they remain by your side throughout, halfway, and are they sincere in their actions?

Anyone can say kind, comforting words, but actively staying alongside someone while they’re going through a tough time shows that this person truly wants to be involved in your life.

And if your partner is someone like this, don’t let them go. 

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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