8 signs your partner is making a genuine effort to improve the relationship (even if it doesn’t seem like it)

When it comes to relationships, it’s not always the grand gestures that show your partner’s commitment to deepening the bond between you two. Many at times, it’s those small, quiet efforts that truly reflect their desire to mend the fences and take the relationship to the next level. 

In this article, let’s uncover eight signs that reveal whether your partner is making a genuine effort to improve the relationship.

1) They’re making an effort to communicate better

Communication is the bedrock of any successful relationship, and it’s often one of the first things to falter when things are going awry.

You’ve probably found yourself wishing they’d just understand what you’re saying or feeling without you having to spell it out every time.

Well, if your partner starts making a conscious effort to really listen, understand and engage with you in conversation, it’s a good sign that they’re trying to improve the relationship.

This could be as simple as them asking more about your day, showing interest in your thoughts and feelings, or expressing their own thoughts more openly.

It might seem like a small step, but improved communication can often be the first sign of a genuine effort to make things better.

2) They’re starting to acknowledge their mistakes

We all mess up sometimes, right? It’s part of being human. But admitting when we’re wrong, now that’s where things get tricky.

In the past, my partner would often deflect blame, make excuses or worse, completely ignore their mistakes. It was frustrating and left me feeling unheard and invalidated.

But lately, I’ve noticed a shift. They’re beginning to own up to their errors without prompting. They apologize sincerely and make a visible effort not to repeat the same mistakes.

This doesn’t mean they’ve suddenly become perfect. Far from it! But this new willingness to admit their part in our issues shows me they’re really trying to improve our relationship. And that means more than they will ever know.

3) They’re putting in the effort to spend quality time together

You know, there was a time when it felt like my partner and I were just existing in the same space. We were in each other’s proximity, but we weren’t really present.

I remember this one weekend when I suggested we go for a hike, something we both used to love. But they just shrugged and said they’d rather stay in and watch TV. It was then that I realized we were losing our connection.

But now things are changing. Last Sunday, out of the blue, they suggested we spend the day at the beach, just like old times. We ended up having an amazing day, laughing, talking, and reconnecting.

It wasn’t about the beach or even the activities we did. It was about them making an effort to spend quality time with me, to reconnect and revive our bond. And that’s a sign I can’t ignore. They are genuinely trying to improve our relationship.

4) They’re trying to understand your love language

Did you know that we all have different ways of expressing and receiving love? According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five main love languages: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.

If someone is trying to speak your love language even though it’s not theirs, they’re definitely going the extra mile to improve your relationship.

For instance, imagine your partner willingly tackling tasks they typically dislike, such as doing the dishes or washing your car, solely because these acts of service resonate with your feelings of love.

In those moments, make sure to genuinely acknowledge and appreciate their efforts.

5) They’re showing more empathy towards you

Empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of another, is a cornerstone in any relationship.

A while back, I was going through a stressful period at work. I remember coming home one day, feeling utterly drained and just needing some comfort. But my partner seemed oblivious to my distress and carried on as if it was just any other day.

But recently, they’ve been more attuned to my emotional state. Even when I don’t verbalize it, they seem to sense when I’m not feeling my best. They’ll make me a cup of my favorite tea or sit with me in silence.

Even small acts like these show that they’re trying to empathize with what I’m going through.

This newfound sensitivity towards my feelings is a strong indication that they’re genuinely putting in effort to improve our relationship.

6) They’re actively seeking your input

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Partnerships, at their core, are about mutual respect and collaboration.

I remember a time when my partner used to make all the decisions on their own, without even asking for my opinion. Whether it was choosing a restaurant for dinner or planning a vacation, they pretty much had the final say.

But things have changed. Now, they make it a point to involve me in the decision-making process. They ask for my opinion and seem genuinely interested in my thoughts.

This newfound habit of actively seeking my input is a clear sign of respect and an indication that they’re making serious efforts to improve our relationship. It shows they value my perspective and want me to be an equal partner in our journey together.

7) They’re showing patience and understanding

Patience is a virtue, especially in relationships.

I used to feel rushed in our arguments, like there was an invisible timer ticking away, pressuring us to resolve things quickly rather than effectively. It was as if my partner was more interested in ending the argument than understanding the root cause of the issue.

But something has shifted. Now, they’re showing patience during our disagreements. They’re giving me space to express my feelings without interruption, and they’re taking the time to reflect and respond thoughtfully.

This kind of patience and understanding doesn’t come easy. It’s a clear sign that they’re making a genuine effort to improve our relationship. They’re not just trying to win an argument; they’re striving for mutual understanding and resolution.

8) They’re taking steps towards personal growth

Personal growth is integral to the growth of a relationship.

There were times when I felt like my partner was stuck in a rut, not making any effort to grow or improve themselves. This stagnation was affecting our relationship, causing a rift between us.

But now, they’re taking steps towards self-improvement. They’re reading self-help books, attending workshops, or even seeking therapy. It’s not just about becoming a better partner but also about becoming a better person.

This willingness to evolve and grow is a powerful sign of their commitment to improving our relationship. It shows that they’re not just making cosmetic changes but are willing to dig deep and transform themselves for the betterment of our bond.

This commitment to personal growth can be the most telling sign of all.

It indicates that they’re not only making an effort to improve our relationship but also investing in their own self-improvement, which can have a profound impact on the health and longevity of our partnership.

Acknowledgement invites dedication

In summary, recognizing the small but meaningful signs of your partner’s genuine effort to improve the relationship is vital for a deeper connection.

Whether it’s through open communication, intentional behavior changes, or increased emotional support and shared responsibilities, these efforts often go unnoticed in the hustle and bustle of daily life. 

So, when you realize these signs, make sure to acknowledge them. When someone notices and appreciates what you do, it’s like a little cheer for your efforts, right?

Feeling acknowledged makes your partner feel important and want to do even better.  A simple “thanks for that” or “what did I do to deserve you” can really make your partner’s day and keep the good vibes flowing!

Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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