17 signs your partner genuinely appreciates having you in their life

We all strive to find someone who genuinely loves and appreciates us for all we are, but it’s not always easy to find.

But since you’re reading this article, perhaps you’ve found that person – someone who is grateful to have you in their life.

Being with a partner who appreciates you is beneficial, as studies show that partners who regularly show appreciation for each other are more satisfied in their relationships.

So, let’s get into the signs that your partner genuinely appreciates having you in their life.

1) They listen to your needs and concerns

Does talking to your partner feel like talking to a therapist? And are you super comfortable opening up to them about anything and everything?

A partner who genuinely appreciates you cares about your needs and concerns, so they will listen intently to catch what they are.

That means they’ll listen without judgement or butting in and ask questions to understand your feelings fully.

Another good sign of their appreciation for you is when they’re attentive and engaged in your presence, which I’ll get into with this next point.

2) They are fully engaged and present when in your company

Your partner isn’t too busy checking their phone or fiddling with their fingers when they’re with you.

They’ve got their listening hats on, giving you plenty of eye contact, nods and smiles to show that you have their undivided attention.

Bonus points if this is still the case in a crowd where all sorts are happening around you.

3) They make an effort to resolve conflicts

Having their listening hats on is especially useful when there is conflict in the relationship.

But when those hiccups arise, your partner makes an effort to resolve them.

They’ll reach out to you, opening that line of communication.

And if they did something wrong, they want to hear you out so they can fix things.

Even if that conflict is tough to face, they won’t run away from it

That’s because you mean too much to them for you to stay angry at them.

4) They apologize for their mistakes

If the conflict was their doing, a partner who appreciates you won’t blame you or deflect the blame. They’ll take full responsibility for it.

They’ll apologize, too, because the last thing they want to do is hurt your feelings.

Another sign your partner values you is when they go beyond just taking responsibility.

They’re honest. They’ll tell you why they messed up so you better understand them and their intentions.

Not only that, but your partner will take a deep look at what they did wrong and do what they can to right their wrongs.

5) They are honest

Whether it’s a mistake they made, opening up about their struggles or something else, a partner that genuinely appreciates you will strive to be honest.

And that’s good because strong relationships are built on honesty and trust.

Since you mean the world to them, they understand that lying or deceiving you can hurt you and break your trust.

That’s why they aim to be honest, no matter what.

6) They spend quality time with you

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Your partner will also want to spend quality time with you.

Even if they’ve got a lot on their plate, they’ll make time for you in their schedule.

It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant, either. It could be something as simple as a picnic in the park or a natter in a café. If you’re there, that’s all that matters.

And if they can’t see you, they’ll settle for a lengthy phone call or Facetime so they can still spend some time in your company.

7) They make sacrifices for you

Your partner also makes sacrifices to be with and spend time with you.

It could be a small thing like cancelling plans with friends to spend time with you or watching a movie they’d never usually be caught dead watching.

Or it could be as big as moving from another city, or even country to be with you.

Making sacrifices is a biggie. So if your partner does that for you with ease, that’s a good sign they appreciate having you in their life.

8) They ask for your opinion

Another sign your partner genuinely appreciates you is when they ask for your opinion before making decisions.

They may ask you for advice on something minor, like what to wear for an event. Or it might be a more impactful life choice, like how you’d feel about them taking a job further afield.

If your partner asks for your input often, they care about what you think. That means they’ll respect your opinion and take your thoughts and feelings into consideration when settling on a choice.

9) They respect you and your boundaries

As well as respecting your opinion, a partner who appreciates you will respect your boundaries.

They won’t try to control you, tell you who you can and can’t see, or make you do things you’re uncomfortable with.

Instead, they’ll allow you to be unashamedly you and give you the time, space and freedom to enjoy some ‘me’ time.

Whether that means catching up on education or pursuing your hobbies or goals, they’ll respect your wishes.

10) They celebrate your successes

They’ll support you, too, especially when it comes to the things you want to do.

You might want to change careers, run the marathon or write a novel. Whatever your goal is, your partner is behind you 100%.

And when you smash your goals, they celebrate your successes as if it were theirs.

Your partner may also talk to their friends and family about your achievements, like a proud parent talks about their child.

Speaking of friends and family…

11) You’re close with their friends and family

Introducing the other half to friends and family is a big deal. It’s not something to take lightly.

So, if your partner does this, they consider you an important part of their life. They’re also proud to show you off to those they care about most.

What if you’re already a tight unit with your partner’s loved ones?

If that’s the case, that’s a good sign your partner values you and sees you as someone who will stick around for the foreseeable future.

12) You make them smile

Do you catch your partner randomly smiling at you for no reason?

Perhaps you say or do goofy things that make them crack a smile.

That’s another good sign because your partner can’t help but smile when they’re around you.

And that’s all down to how you make them feel. Happy and grateful to be in your presence.

13) They surprise you with gifts and treats

If you make your partner smile, it’s only natural they want to return the favour by putting a smile on your face.

One way they may do that is by surprising you with gifts and treats.

One day, they’ll buy you flowers out of the blue. Another, they’ll treat you to your favourite meal.

They may even whisk you for a weekend away just ‘cos.

For them, treating you goes beyond days like your Birthday, Christmas or Valentine’s Day.

They’ll make an effort to make you feel special all year round (and show how much they appreciate you!).

14) They show appreciation for everything you do

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Your partner might show their appreciation in more ways than surprising and treating you.

They see the things you do for them – how you’re there when they need you. The way you take care of the housework and manage the finances.

They don’t just let these things slide.

Your partner tells you how much these things mean to them, and they return the favour by making life easier for you.

And they do it all without expecting anything in return.

15) They are affectionate

Your partner may also be the type of person to display public displays of affection.

They hold hands with you and give you plenty of hugs and kisses when you’re out and about.

But if your partner is not one to show their affection openly, they still do so in their own way, showering you with affection behind closed doors.

They’re not just affectionate physically, though.

Your partner may also be affectionate with their choice of words.

Because they never forget to tell you how much you mean to them, how stunning you are, and their love for you.

16) They check in on you

If your partner genuinely appreciates you, you can be sure you’ll run through their mind throughout the day.

That’s why your partner regularly checks in with you.

They send you good morning and good night texts. Ask how you’re doing. Text you a picture of the coffee they’re having. Relatable memes that made them think of you.

That way, they can stay connected with you, even when you’re apart.

17) They love you for who you are

The last sign of your partner’s genuine appreciation is when they love and accept you for who you are, flaws and all.

Your partner doesn’t try to turn you into a clone of themselves. Or the person they want you to be (because you’re good enough as you are!)

Even if you’re both from opposite ends of the pole, they embrace that. And they embrace the things that make you, you.

They love you for it, too. Because a partner who genuinely appreciates you wouldn’t have it any other way.

Final thoughts

When you have a partner that genuinely appreciates you, they’ll show this in many ways.

From showering you with affection, making sacrifices for you, and including you in important decisions – a partner that values you will do what they can to show you how much you mean to them.

Appreciation is a two-way street. So, if your partner shows many of these signs, make sure to give it right back to them.

Natalya Edwards

Natalya Edwards

Natalya Edwards is a content writer with experience writing content on diverse topics, from entertainment and music to personal development and short stories. When she’s not typing away at the keyboard, she enjoys gaming, reading and watching Korean dramas.

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