6 signs your partner genuinely adores you, according to psychology

Have you ever wondered if your partner looks at you and thinks, “Wow, I’m so lucky to have you”? Or maybe you’re on the lookout for love and dream of finding someone who will truly adore you.

Everyone craves that heart-skipping-a-beat kind of love, where you feel like you’re the most precious person in someone’s world. It’s about feeling cherished and celebrated, not settling for just okay. We’re all aiming for that top-tier relationship where you’re adored in every way.

But how can you tell if your partner’s feelings for you reach those heights? Believe it or not, psychology experts recognize certain unmistakable signs that reveal just how deeply someone loves you. 

Today, we’re exploring these signs to help you figure out how your partner truly feels. Whether you’ve already found your special someone or are still looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right, by the end of this article, you’ll understand what genuine adoration looks like in a relationship.

Ready? Let’s dive in.

1) They listen to what you have to say

This one sounds so simple, it’s probably hard to believe it’s a sign of adoration, right?

Here’s the thing: although 96% of people think they’re good listeners, very few of them actually are. It takes a genuine effort to truly listen to what someone is saying. And if your partner does this for you, it’s a telling sign about how much they adore you. 

Active listening is about making a conscious decision to hear what people are saying. It’s about being completely focused on others—their words and their messages—without being distracted.” It’s rare to get anyone’s full undivided attention these days so this is pretty special. 

And it has a big impact. According to renowned American psychologist, Carl R. Rogers, active or deep listening is at the heart of every healthy relationship. He says that listening deeply sends a very important message to the person you’re talking to, letting them know; 

“I’m interested in you as a person, and I think that what you feel is important. I respect your thoughts, and even if I don’t agree with them, I know that they are valid for you. I’m not trying to change you or evaluate you. I just want to understand you. I think you’re worth listening to.”

If you find a partner who listens to you, I mean truly listens, then it’s a sure sign that they not only adore you but also respect and appreciate you as a person too. 

2) They show you their vulnerable side

When your partner really opens up and gets real with you about their fears or shares those personal stories that are close to their heart, it means you’re pretty special to them. They’re not going to be this open with just anybody. 

This kind of honesty is their way of showing they trust you a lot and really adore you. Being vulnerable is way more than just sharing secrets; it’s about letting you see who they really are, without any masks. 

Dr. Brené Brown, an expert on vulnerability, sums it up: “Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection”, highlighting that vulnerability is part of getting close to someone. And I know first-hand that this is true.

In the early days of my relationship, being vulnerable was tough because I was scared of getting hurt. However, I adored this guy (my now boyfriend), and wanted him to know so I let him in, to show him how much he meant to me. It’s not something I’d do for just anyone.

So, when your partner is being all open and vulnerable, remember, it’s a big deal. It shows that they think the world of you and trust you more than most. It’s a sure sign they adore you and are all in for building something deep and lasting with you.

3) They genuinely care about your personal growth and happiness

A sure sign that your partner truly adores you is how they engage with your dreams and aspirations. If they’re interested in your dreams, are excited to join in on your favorite activities, or consistently cheering you on as you pursue your passions, that really says a lot.

This behavior goes beyond simply spending time together; it’s about them actively supporting your personal growth and showing genuine appreciation for the things that bring you joy. It’s not just about shared interests, it’s about them valuing your happiness because they truly care.

Psychologists refer to this as the ‘Michelangelo phenomenon.‘ It’s a concept where partners help each other evolve into their best selves. It’s all about nurturing your potential and encouraging you to become the best version of yourself. 

When they show real interest in your passions and dreams, it’s more than just being supportive; it’s a significant indicator that they adore you. They’re not just looking for a good time, they want you to be happy and reach your potential and they’re keen to play a big role to make it happen.

4) They openly communicate with you in tough times

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When things get rocky, communicating with your partner is often the last thing you want to do, right?

You’re mad at them and you don’t want to be around them. It’s often the toughest moments that test the strength of your connection.

It’s no shocker that poor communication is one of the top reasons why relationships fall apart. Many people either push too hard to make their point or completely shut down, avoiding the conversation altogether. But not your partner.

They make every effort to communicate openly, even when times are tough, and it’s a sign that they truly adore you. They’re there for the difficult talks and do their best to be present and engaged.

Nobody’s perfect, but their willingness to work through tough times speaks volumes.

Following decades of research into couples and what signifies true love, psychologist and relationship expert Dr. John Gottman points out that the way couples communicate is a massive predictor of the relationship’s lasting power and how much they care for each other. 

So, if your partner sticks with you and communicates clearly through life’s ups and downs, it’s a clear indicator of their deep affection and commitment. Keep an eye out for this as a telltale sign that your partner adores you, helping you see just how much they think of you.

5) They want to be close to you and can’t get enough of you 

Ever feel like someone just can’t seem to stay away from you, in the best way possible? That warmth and closeness are not just about liking someone a lot, it’s a sign they truly adore you. 

When someone can’t get enough of you, they often show it by always wanting to be close. Think holding hands as you walk, sneaking in little kisses, or cuddling up on the couch during a movie. These intimate touches are their way of saying, “I love being with you.”

Research backs this up, showing that touch is a crucial part of romantic relationships. It’s deeply tied to the level of love and adoration partners feel for each other. Generally, when there’s a lot of affectionate touching, it points to a deep-seated love.

This constant desire to be close and touch affectionately is a dead giveaway about how much you mean to your partner. It’s these little moments that show just how much you’re adored in your relationship.

6) They respect your boundaries

When you think about how your partner shows they really adore you, respecting your boundaries might not be the first thing you think of, but it’s seriously a big sign of love.

Here’s the deal: relationships are easy when everything’s going great. But when things get tough? That’s when you see how much someone really cares. 

Whether it’s stepping back to give you space after a fight, or understanding when something makes you uncomfortable, their respect for your boundaries shows they truly care about you and that’s huge.

Psychologist Dr. Meghan Marcum puts it like this: “People set boundaries to feel safe. When someone respects these, it builds trust and shows they really care about how you feel.” This kind of respect is a real-life sign they adore you.

It shows they’re all about your comfort and emotional well-being, making sure you feel safe and valued in the relationship. And there’s no greater sign that someone adores you than their genuine concern for your safety and well-being, right? 

Final thoughts

There you have it, 6 signs that show just how much your partner adores you. Anyone can take you on a nice date or buy you a thoughtful gift and those things are great. But the things we’ve covered today, go deeper than that and show true adoration.

Recognizing these things can deepen your appreciation of the relationship and help you understand how much your partner genuinely cares for you. 

Or if you’re still looking for your special someone, keep these in mind as you explore the dating scene and acknowledge them as very positive signals when you see them. 

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Cat Harper

Cat is an experienced Sales and Enablement professional turned writer whose passions span from psychology and relationships to continuous self-improvement, lifelong learning and pushing back on societal expectations to forge a life she loves. An avid traveler and adventure sports enthusiast, in her downtime you'll find Cat snowboarding, motorcycling or working on her latest self-development project.

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