7 signs your partner genuinely appreciates having you in their life, according to psychology

Love and appreciation are two very different things. You wouldn’t think so, but they are.

You can love something and not totally appreciate it. Just like you can appreciate something and not love it.

When it comes to relationships, the best kind exists when love and appreciation go hand in hand. You love them and appreciate having them in your life, and they feel the same way about you.

When your partner genuinely appreciates your existence in their life, psychology says they’ll do these kinds of things.

Up first:

1) They thank you all the time

A partner who really appreciates you will say please and thank you all the time.

It’s easy to get into the habit of taking your partner and the things they do for you for granted. Well, I say it’s easy, but it’s only easy when you DO take your partner for granted.

A partner who loves every inch of you in their life wouldn’t even consider forgetting their manners when it comes to you!

If you offer them a ride, they’ll thank you for it. If you cook them dinner, they’ll say thank you. No matter how many rides you give them or dinners you cook them over the years, they’ll still say thank you every single time.

It’ll just be second nature when you’re with someone who truly appreciates you.

2) They notice the little things you do

You might not notice this behavior of theirs until you really look for it! But a partner who truly appreciates having you in their life will notice all the little things you do – especially when you do things for them.

They’ll notice that you tidied their dresser as well as yours. They’ll see that you cleaned out the fridge on your day off. They’ll pick up on the effort you’ve made for date night.

They’ll recognize how supportive you were when they were stressed. Every little thing you do, they’ll pay attention to it.

I’ve dated people who never did this, and I didn’t realize how bad it was until I met someone who truly noticed me every single day, like it was as easy as breathing.

It’s very clear to me now who really appreciated having me in their life and who didn’t…

3) They compliment all things about you

When your partner truly loves you, they love every part of you – and they make sure you know it! Compliments are a regular thing for them.

Their words of affection aren’t always about the same thing, either. Like your body or your humor. They’re about every aspect of you.

Sometimes it’s the way you’ve handled yourself at a party. Sometimes it’s the way you look in your new dress. Sometimes it’s just the way you spoke to their mom at the last family meal you went to.

Whatever it is, it makes you feel like they truly see you and appreciate you for who you are.

4) They think you’re different

“You’re just like everyone else”, is never something we’ll hear from a partner who truly appreciates us. Why? Because they simply won’t believe it!

We’re all different, all of us. But not everyone thinks we are. Some people don’t think we’re special. To them, we really are just like everyone else.

But if your partner appreciates you, they know you’re different. They see all your little quirks and intricacies that make you who you are.

They DO think you’re special and it’s what makes them appreciate you so much! They value having you in their life and they don’t see you as replaceable – because they know you aren’t.

5) They make an effort when you argue

youre the problematic one in your relationship 7 signs your partner genuinely appreciates having you in their life, according to psychology

Everyone gets triggered in relationships sometimes. It’s the vulnerability of it all that brings out our deepest insecurities and darkest fears.

But even so, when you’re truly committed in a relationship, you make an effort to work through your traumas and insecurities.

If your partner appreciates having you in their life, they’ll make an effort to work through things whenever you argue.

They’ll apologize if they’ve upset you and try to find a way to move forward. They’ll want to make you feel better if a misunderstanding has brought you down.

You’ll still argue, but things should get better each time you do. If you ask them to change or try to do something differently, they will. They’ll try and you’ll notice that they’re trying.

6) They accept you as you are

When your partner appreciates you, they appreciate YOU – with no conditions attached. They don’t only appreciate you when you’re in a certain mood or look a certain way.

They love you when you’re wearing your pajamas and when you’re all dressed up. They appreciate you when you’re in a good mood and when you’re feeling low or sick.

They’ll never try to change you by suggesting you do this and that (that you definitely DON’T want to do). They don’t tell you they wish you were like someone else or did things other people do.

They accept you just the way you are, with no caveats, no conditions, and no “serious” requests for change.

7) They give as much as they take

Relationships require give and take. What you give and what you take will be different in each relationship, but you both should still be giving and taking somewhat equally.

It’s painful to admit it, but in the past, I dated people who would just take, take, and take. They expected everything from me, but never did anything for me in return.

Sure, if I asked, they might oblige. But it was never something they’d willingly offer. Even getting the bare minimum from them was like getting blood out of a stone!

When your partner truly appreciates you, things will never feel this way. Your partner will simply do things for you all the time – without you EVER having to ask or beg for it.

To show their appreciation for you, they’ll just do nice things for you – willingly and wantingly.

Final thoughts

When you’ve been dating for a long time, it’s easy to start taking your partner for granted somewhat. But that doesn’t mean you should accept this behavior blindly from the person you’re dating.

Relationships require effort – no matter how long you’ve been together. If your partner has stopped appreciating you, a conversation is definitely in order.

When you’ve already talked about appreciating each other more often and things haven’t changed, this really isn’t good.

No one except you knows the ins and outs of it all, but if your partner isn’t making any effort to appreciate you more, even after you’ve talked things through, maybe you shouldn’t have to tell them twice…

Maybe there’s someone else out there who will do what they won’t…

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Amy Reed

Amy Reed is a content writer from London working with international brands. As an empath, she loves sharing her life insights to help others. When she’s not writing, she enjoys a simple life of reading, gardening, and making a fuss over her two cats.

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