6 signs your next life chapter is about finding your soulmate

Before my first relationship, I’d heard about being ‘ready for love’ but I had no idea what it meant. My attitude was ‘Why would I need to be ready for love? Surely it’ll just happen when it happens.’ 

I couldn’t have been more wrong. 

Finding your soulmate and being in love is a big deal. It’s super important to be ready for that chapter of your life before you jump into a relationship or you might end up regretting it. 

The question is: are you ready? 

Having learned a lot about relationships over the last few years, today, I’m sharing 6 signs that you’re ready for love and your next life chapter is all about finding your soulmate. 

Let’s get into it. 

1) You’re content on your own 

One of the most important signs that your next life chapter is going to be about finding your soulmate is that you’re content being on your own. Yes, you heard that correctly, being happy alone is essential to finding your soulmate. 

It might sound a little counterintuitive but let me explain: if you’re a miserable singleton and you’re desperate to find your soulmate, you run the risk of settling for less than you deserve.

You want a relationship so badly, you’ll be tempted by the first person who shows an interest in you. And they might not be what you want. You might think it’s better to have someone rather than no one. 

But it’s absolutely not. 

Being content on your own means you’re happy being single and you’re not trying to escape it. If anything, you love your life and it’ll need to be someone pretty special for you to give up the freedom, joy, and independence you enjoy as a single guy or girl. 

If you’re feeling content with your life right now, and you’re open to exploring the possibility of love, it’s a great sign that your next life chapter will be all about finding your soulmate. 

2) You know who you are and what you want

Socrates famously said, “To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom”. But achieving it is not as easy as it sounds. 

The problem is: it’s almost impossible to truly know yourself because you’re constantly changing and evolving. 

However, it’s true, that with age and experience, you start to develop a better understanding of who you are and what you want. It’s key to have this awareness before starting a relationship. 

If you don’t understand yourself as an individual it’s very hard to know what you need as part of a couple. That’s a recipe for hurt, heartache, and a relationship doomed for failure. 

On the other hand: If you’ve healed from past hurts and know what you want in love, there’s a good chance you’re ready to meet your special someone. 

3) Self-love is part of your daily life

My friend Leanne spent years jumping in and out of relationships with different guys. She always thought they were the problem. They weren’t kind enough or understanding enough or funny enough. 

As she got older she started to realize that maybe she was the problem. She’d always relied on her boyfriends to take care of her mentally and emotionally, to soothe her and validate her in tough times. She made them responsible for her happiness. 

But here’s the kicker: “Happiness is an inside job” as noted by inspirational American writer William Arthur Ward. Leanne realized she needed to be able to take care of herself. She developed some daily practices for self-love and 3 months later, she found her husband. 

Self-love means that “you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing.” It looks different for everyone but might include things like: 

  • Being kind to yourself and showing self-compassion when you need it
  • Learning to say no to things that don’t serve you
  • Practicing techniques to self-soothe in times of emotional distress
  • Setting and maintaining boundaries to protect yourself
  • Exercising, journaling, and meditating 

The list goes on but you get the idea, right? 

If self-love is already part of your routine and you’ve learned to be kind to yourself then you’ve got the skills and tools you need to handle the highs and lows of a relationship and you’re ready to find your soulmate. 

4) You see love everywhere you go

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I’m not ashamed to admit that ‘Love Actually’ is one of my guilty pleasures. My favorite quote is from Hugh Grant’s character during his opening monologue when he says;

“It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there […] If you look for it, I’ve got a sneaky feeling you’ll find that love actually is all around.”

And this is never truer than when you’re looking for love and ready to find your soulmate. It feels like love is everywhere you look, you see old cute couples in the park, newlyweds taking photos of their special day, and young couples sharing coffee and a kiss on the street. 

Known as the frequency illusion, when you become more tuned into something, you start to notice it more than before. 

If you’re noticing love everywhere, it’s a subtle sign that you’re subconsciously more locked on love and your next chapter is all about your soulmate. 

5) Your priorities have shifted 

Think back to your younger self and the priorities you had then. How have they changed over time?

I think back to my early 20s, and back then life was all about two things for me: friends and fun. I’d choose nights out with the girls over dates with guys because I was afraid to miss out on the fun. There’s nothing wrong with that but it didn’t leave much room for finding ‘the one’

As you get older, your priorities shift and one of the telltale signs that your next chapter is going to be about finding your soulmate is when you start to notice them shift toward prioritizing a relationship.

Maybe in your younger years, you were more focused on travel, adventure, and seeing the world. Or you were the hardest worker on your team, who’d stop at nothing to make it to the top of the corporate ladder. Maybe, like me, you simply prioritized your friends. 

They’re all worthy priorities but if you notice that some of those things don’t seem so important anymore and now you’re focused on other things like human connection, love, and family, it’s a sign that your priorities are shifting and your next chapter might be all about finding the one.  

6) You feel ready and open to love

Probably the most important sign of all that your next chapter is all about finding love is that you feel ready for it and you’re open to it. 

Feeling ready for love means that you’re willing to show up for someone else and treat them with respect, kindness, and love, even when it’s tough. 

Successful relationships need things like compromise, sacrifice, and consideration to survive. And they’re hard work. Unless you’re ready for and open to love, these things will simply feel like too much effort. 

In his bookThe Seven Principles For Making A Marriage Work” John Gottman, renowned psychologist and relationship expert shares findings from his research that suggest couples who are good at resolving conflict and compromising tend to be more satisfied in their relationships. 

And that’s the goal, right? To find your soulmate and live a happy life together. 

You can’t rush this part and you can’t fake it. It’s one of those things when you know you just know. 

Final thoughts 

How many of these signs do you recognize in yourself? 

Sometimes the movies and fairytales make it seem like love is just something that happens to you when you least expect it, right? And sure, that’s how it goes for a small minority of people but most of the time being open to love and being ready to embrace it is a choice.

If it’s taking you a little longer than you’d like to find your soulmate, don’t worry. The extra time you’ve had to work on yourself and develop into the person you are today will stand to you when meet that special someone. 

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Cat Harper

Cat is an experienced Sales and Enablement professional turned writer whose passions span from psychology and relationships to continuous self-improvement, lifelong learning and pushing back on societal expectations to forge a life she loves. An avid traveler and adventure sports enthusiast, in her downtime you'll find Cat snowboarding, motorcycling or working on her latest self-development project.

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