Are you going through no contact with your ex? Are you curious about what they’re feeling? If they miss you or not?
While it’s not easy to find out if they miss you – especially since you two aren’t talking – there are ways you can tell.
Here are 16 signs your ex misses you during no contact:
1) They ask your friends about you
Your ex can’t simply ask you, “How are you?”
Or, maybe they asked you, but you didn’t reply – since you’re going through a period of no contact.
So, the next best thing for them to do is to ask your friends about you.
If your friends tell you that your ex has been asking them about you, then that’s a big sign your ex misses you.
Unless they’re genuinely concerned that you’re okay, asking someone else about you is usually just an effort to check how you’re doing.
Who knows, maybe your ex is having a really tough time accepting the breakup, and they’re trying to figure out what to do next.
2) They didn’t stop following you on social media
Typically, when two people break up, they unfollow each other on social media.
That way, they’ll be spared from updates about each other’s lives from that point onwards.
If your ex still follows your social media accounts, it’s really weird – they’re either missing you like crazy or like to torture themselves.
In fact, this is one of the most common signs your ex misses you during no contact.
Let me explain:
The fact that your ex is still following you on social media is also a sign that they’re not ready to let you go. They’re not ready to move on to a life without you in it.
So, even if it hurts, they still want to know about everything that happens with you and in your life.
3) They spend a lot of time on social media
If your ex spends most of their time online, that’s another sign they miss you.
How so?
People spend large amounts of time online while they’re going through no contact because they’re lonely.
And it’s this loneliness that perpetuates the longing for the person who is no longer part of their lives.
Instead of going out and having fun, your ex is spending time on social media, reading about your life from the outside in.
Or, who knows? Maybe they’re checking out other people and are ready to date again.
Want to know for sure?
Well, if you recognize more than one sign your ex misses you during no contact, then it’s worth investigating further.
4) A relationship coach can give you real clarity
While the signs in this article will help you figure out whether your ex misses you during no contact, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice tailored to the specific issues you’re facing in your love life.
Relationship Hero is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people navigate complex and difficult love situations, like finding out exactly where things stand with their ex partners. They’re popular because they genuinely help people solve problems.
Why do I recommend them?
Well, after going through difficulties in my own love life, I reached out to them a few months ago. After feeling helpless for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship, including practical advice on how to overcome the issues I was facing.
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In just a few minutes, you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice specific to your situation.
They can tell you more about your ex’s feelings for you and suggest a few tips that will get you where you want to be – with or without your ex.
5) They didn’t start seeing anyone else
As far as you know, is your ex seeing anyone else? Are they back in the dating game?
If they were, you’d be bound to hear about it – right?
So, if your ex is not dating anyone else and still hasn’t moved on, that’s one of the strongest signs he or she misses you.
Sure, this could also mean that they’re not ready for a new relationship – not even for a rebound – or that they simply don’t have time.
The possibilities are endless, but we can safely say that if your ex misses you, there’s a good chance that they’re not ready for a new relationship.
Don’t get me wrong though: even if your ex misses you, this doesn’t mean that they want to get back together with you.
6) Your ex posts depressing things on social media
If your ex suddenly starts posting negative and/or depressing things on social media – or they’ve been posting depressing things for a while now – this could be a sign they miss you.
They are likely doing this because they miss you and they are trying to cope with the breakup.
They may be posting depressing things like, “All I want is to be happy,” “Why can’t I be happy?” “What if I never find happiness?” and “Why does love hurt so much?” If your ex suddenly starts posting depressing things on social media, they miss you.
They may be doing this because they want you back or they miss you and want to start a conversation. In their minds, they could be thinking that it’s impossible for you not to reply to something that serious.
7) Your ex breaks the no contact rule
Let me ask you this: did they try to contact you?
If they did, it’s because they miss you.
They miss you so much that they just couldn’t help themselves – they had to reach out!
Maybe they tried calling you a few times, or maybe they texted. Maybe your ex broke the no contact rule.
Or maybe your ex is going through a tough time and needs someone to talk to – and that someone is you!
Either way, if your ex was the first one to break, chances are that they miss you like crazy or had a moment of weakness.
8) Your ex still keeps in touch with your family
I have another question for you: who does your ex keep in touch with?
Are they talking to your family members? If so, this is another strong sign that your ex misses you.
You see, when an ex resorts to contacting your family members about you, that’s usually when they’re trying to get you back – or simply feeling a desperate need to talk to you.
The explanation? Family members are considered to be the most trustworthy, and they have a history of loving you.
That means that if your ex starts contacting your family members about you, it’s likely that they miss you a lot and hope that you break the rule and contact them.
9) They talk to others about you and your relationship
If your ex starts talking to others about you and your relationship – either with common friends or acquaintances, – it’s a sign they miss you.
They may talk about you with others because they miss you and want to get you back. They may also do this because they want to find out what others think about your relationship.
Why?
It could be because they’re having second doubts about the breakup. If this is true, then they may be in a way trying to get you back.
Or, it could be that they want to find out whether they or you made the right call or not.
10) They are trying to improve what you said they should
If your ex starts trying to improve the things that you said they should – it’s a sign they miss you.
They may want to improve these things because they miss you and want to get you back. They may be trying to improve these things so that you two can be together again.
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So, ask yourself whether you noticed any change in your ex’s behavior or even looks. If you did, then chances are that your ex misses you and hopes that you contact them.
How can you tell?
It’s easy! If they want you to notice, you will.
11) Your ex calls/texts you when they get drunk
Here’s another thing that I want you to be aware of: if your ex calls or texts you when they get drunk – this is a sign that they miss you.
Why is this true?
When people get drunk, they do crazy stuff.
They feel empowered, so they do things that they would never do otherwise.
These people are usually not in control of themselves. They can’t think straight or keep their thoughts inside.
So when your ex does something crazy and calls you when they’re drunk, it’s a sign that they miss you – or at least that they want to talk to you.
12) They are working on improving their looks
If your ex is trying to improve their looks, that may mean that they miss you.
This is because when people try to improve their looks, they do so in order to attract others – or get others to notice them. In the end, they want attention from others.
If your ex starts doing make-up or skincare or other things like this, chances are that they miss you and hope that you notice it and contact them.
Even if you think this is a shallow sign, it isn’t.
Why?
Because your ex wants to look their best for you, or for a potential new person in their life.
However, if you recognize more signs, then you’ll know that your ex misses you – they’re not getting ready to seduce someone else.
13) They send you a long email/letter to apologize
Was your ex the one who did something wrong, and now wants to make it up to you?
If this is the case, then chances are that your ex misses you and wants to talk to you.
However, since you’re going through a period of no contact, your ex may resort to sending you a long email/letter to apologize.
The explanation? When people send long emails, letters, or messages, it means that they need closure.
That’s because when someone does something wrong to someone else, there is no closure. To get closure, your ex may want to talk with you – via email or some other way – so that they can apologize.
14) Their friends are trying to contact you
Want to know another sign your ex misses you during no contact? It’s the fact that their friends are trying to contact you.
Maybe your ex asked their friends to talk to you for them. Or maybe your ex’s friends think that you two should work things out.
They may be trying to get you two back together.
Your ex may have asked their friends to convince you to contact them, or they may have asked them to talk to you for them.
Either way, if your ex’s friends are trying to make you contact your ex, chances are that your ex misses you.
15) They praise you to others
It’s a sign that your ex misses you if they praise you to others.
If your ex is doing this, then they may be wanting you to hear it, so that they can get you back. If your ex praises you, then that means they miss the good times and want those times back.
What’s more, if your ex praises you to others, it may mean that they want to boost their own ego, or show others that they had a great person in their life.
Either way, if your ex praises you to others, it’s a sign they miss you and could want you back.
16) They show up where you go
Now, this may sound a bit extreme, but some exes do this. They show up where you go.
If your ex shows up where you go, then that’s a sign that they miss you. Why? Because the breakup has left them empty, and they want to fill the void by seeing you.
So if your ex is doing this, it’s a good sign they miss you and want to see you again.
Again, this may sound extreme or even scary (especially if it’s an ex who has no sense of boundaries or self-control).
However, it’s a viable sign.
What is my ex feeling during no contact?
Now that you know some of the signs that your ex misses you during no contact, you might be wondering: “What are they feeling?”
Let’s talk about this now.
There are many things that your ex might be feeling at this time. In fact, there’s a big chance that their feelings have gradually changed since the breakup.
To be more precise, a person typically goes through these phases during no contact:
1) They feel great for about a week
Are you curious to know what your ex is feeling a week after the breakup?
Most people feel quite happy, hopeful, and optimistic after the breakup.
They look on the bright side of things and feel that they’re better off without you. They may even think that the breakup was for the best.
However, one week after the breakup, these feelings usually come to an end. Then comes a long period of sadness – where things are much different from before.
2) They start wondering why they didn’t hear from you up to week 2
After one week, your ex will probably start wondering why you haven’t contacted them.
This, in turn, will make them feel sad and disappointed, thinking that you’re not interested.
In fact, the longer your ex doesn’t hear from you, the more disappointed and sad they’ll feel.
3) They start getting angry at you for your silence – week 2 to week 3
At this phase, your ex will also feel quite angry. This is because it’s been a while since the breakup and they still haven’t heard from you. This makes them feel undesirable and worthless.
In addition, they also feel angry because they think you’re not interested in them anymore. This makes them angry with you and even want to get revenge on you.
At this point, your ex may start telling people that it was your fault that the relationship ended.
Either way, they’ll probably say a lot of bad things about you to others – which doesn’t reflect their real opinion about you or what you two had.
4) They start realizing what they’ve lost – week 3 to week 4
This is when your ex finally realizes that they’ve lost you and that life may not be so easy anymore.
In fact, at this point, your ex will experience some guilt for their actions and may even regret what they did to you. Your ex might also develop some depression, too.
Also, your ex will realize that they’ve lost a lot and that nothing is going to go back to the way it was anymore.
5) They hope you’ll finally stop ignoring them – week 4
After this week, your ex will start hoping that you’ll contact them. Also, they’ll start feeling lonely and empty.
For instance, your ex will feel that there’s no one to talk to and that they’ll have time to themselves all of a sudden. In addition, your ex may wonder if you’re thinking about them, too.
They could even wonder if you’re happy without them and whether you’ve found someone else.
Final thoughts
Although you and your ex aren’t talking to each other, there are ways to help you figure out whether they miss you or not.
By now you should know some of the signs that your ex misses you during no contact. And, depending on your intentions with them, you may want to take the next step.
What will you do? Will you try to get back with your ex, or will you just leave them alone?
It may seem like a tough decision to make, but when you know that your ex misses you, it’s easier (and potentially more effective) to contact them.
Ultimately, you need to decide what you want, how you want it, and how you’ll get it.