Exes can be tough but the magic of the human microbiome is that it guarantees that everyone will get over someone eventually.
Some people move on quicker, some need a lot more time to let go of their feelings, and many take years.
Still, for whatever reason it may be, if you realize your ex is still waiting for you, there are steps you can take to better deal with these feelings.
14 signs your ex is waiting for you
1) They ask regular personal questions without apparent reason
The truth is:
People who are over their exes, typically stray away from asking personal questions.
When they get one in return, they quickly move on to another topic of conversation.
However, if your ex is still waiting for you, they’ll still be curious about the details of your life and may ask for them on a regular basis.
For example, they might ask how your date went last weekend, what you are doing in your free time and where you’re going on vacation.
If this happens regularly in a conversation with your ex, it’s likely that they still have feelings for you.
2) They keep tabs on your new relationships or friendships
You might be wondering:
Why would an ex who is over you still want to know your schedule, who you’re hanging out with, and what’s going on in your life?
The reason is this:
The more your ex is invested in your life, the more they want to know what you’re doing without them.
They’ll be jealous, defensive, and insecure if you start flirting with someone else and may want to know what’s going on with your new relationships or friendships.
So remember, if your ex is still waiting for you, they’ll still be insecure about your life without them.
3) They still have your possessions from the relationship
Nothing can take you back to the past more than physical belongings.
And if your ex is still waiting for you, they’ll have kept a few of your items after the relationship.
You might notice that your ex still has the clothes you wore during that time, keeps a piece of jewelry, or keeps those pictures from the old days.
Don’t worry, your ex isn’t trying to keep a reminder of you.
They are just trying to keep some of the feelings associated with the relationship alive so that they can be there when you need them.
4) They’re willing to admit their faults
It’s easy to be blinded by our own faults.
For example, it may be difficult to admit our jealousy, insecurities, or any other critical thoughts we have about our exes.
But if your ex is still waiting for you, admitting their mistakes and faults is a sign that they are willing to improve.
But wait, there’s more!
If your ex has admitted their mistakes and faults to you, you should put this as a plus in your column.
This means that they are making an extra effort to show you who they are and reveal their deepest thoughts, which is very brave.
5) They’re open to having a second chance with you
Sometimes things in life don’t work out, that’s how it is.
They might not be obvious about it, but a part of your ex is still hoping for a second chance.
For example, if they’ve said, “it’s not because I don’t love you anymore” that means they actually do still feel the same way.
Or some actions might tell you that they are still craving for you and waiting for you to give them a second chance:
- They seem nervous around you and act awkwardly
- They don’t have a date because they can’t stop thinking about you
- They haven’t been in any serious relationships since you two were together
So if you see that your ex is still waiting for you, you should know that this relationship is not over yet.
6) They never forget dates and anniversaries
Here’s an interesting fact:
Although a part of them may not want to admit it, they never forget important dates or anniversaries.
For example, if you two met one year ago on November 1st, your ex will still find a way to bring this up.
You’ll be surprised how many dates they’re aware of, and will still remember to mention them simply because they want to live in the past with you.
This might not be a bad thing, as they do know how much you care about dates and anniversaries.
It also proves that they are not willing to forget about you and still care.
7) You see each other at the same places frequently
Maybe you two were apart for a little while, but you still managed to bump into each other at the same places.
This could be because they’re trying to keep the spark alive by keeping their hands on a few of your belongings.
Or it’s just because they love you so much that they can’t help but keep their eyes on you.
But besides this being a sign that your ex is waiting for you, what are the other possibilities?
- Your ex is working in a place that is near you.
- Your ex is close to you by moving.
- Your ex is visiting a relative nearby.
- Both of you are living near each other by living in the same city.
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8) Their social media is constantly posting that they’re looking for love
Social media is the best place to check on your ex.
I’m not saying this to creep you out, but looking at their pictures, statuses, and tag names can give a lot of insight.
If they’re always posting things about being single or looking for love on social media, it could mean that they’re still craving love and hope you will be their next.
Or even worse, they might have met someone else and soon you’ll see them sharing a picture of the two of them kissing.
But the bottom line is this:
Whatever the possibilities are, it’s very unlikely.
Social media can be full of lies and false hope, so use your common sense or other signs in this article to double-check if your ex is really waiting for you.
9) You find them flirting with you in front of their friends or family members
This is a very important sign.
In case you see that your ex is flirting with you, you should know that they are doing it on purpose because they want you to join them.
These flirty interactions can be subtle, like a hug after a long time apart, or it could just be a nod, smile, and wink to let you know they still have feelings for you.
After all, this could be one of the main ways their friends and family members can keep track of the status of their relationship.
And if they still want to be in a relationship with you, they’re definitely not going to hide it.
Don’t let their flirty actions deceive you, though, and don’t be quick to run out the door just yet.
Take it slow, and take the right actions before you make this decision.
10) They accept all your flaws and weaknesses
OK, I know what you’re thinking:
“I’m normal. I know that I have flaws, so this is not a sign that my ex is still waiting for me.”
But hear me out.
Your ex has recognized your flaws and weaknesses, and instead of ignoring them, they have accepted them.
For example, they might know that you’re a forgetful person who’s easily distracted.
Or they might know that even though you are extremely kind and generous, you are not the best when it comes to English grammar.
Or maybe they’ve noticed that your eyesight isn’t the best since you’re always squinting when you’re reading or writing a text message.
A part of them is still looking for you, so they’re willing to accept your flaws.
That means that they’ve recognized their own flaws and weaknesses and are letting you know that they’re willing to take the risk with you.
11) They’re showing you their vulnerable side
I guess there’s no better way for them to communicate with you than sharing their vulnerable side.
Even though this may not seem like it, letting you see their true feelings is a huge step in their relationship with you.
You may be wondering why they would do this if they still have feelings for you and are trying to move on from the relationship.
But remember, the heart does funny things when it’s broken and is still hurt over your side of the story.
This is why they can’t help but share their vulnerable side with you.
Even if they’re not sure of what they want and don’t know how to go about things, they must still be trying to tell you that they want to be with you, too.
12) They make a major change in their life that affects how they approach you
For example, maybe they finally joined a gym near your place, got a new haircut and haircut, or even changed their diet.
Or quitting smoking or drinking too much alcohol.
These are all good changes that can be considered a major change in their life.
And this effect could also affect the way they approach you and deal with you.
It could mean that they want to be more a responsible adult and not just a young teenager.
It could also be a sign that they’re trying to prove to you that they’re ready to take care of their relationships and make them last.
Also, keep in mind that these changes could also be for their new partner, which means that they’re now on the move to find a new relationship.
13) They don’t mind talking about old memories
Have you ever found yourself remembering the good times in your relationship and wishing you could go back to that time?
You might have found yourself in the same situation as your ex.
When they talk about good old memories, they can’t ignore the fact that you were there with them.
So this could be a sign that they’re still thinking about you and waiting for you – even if it’s just a little bit.
Note:
If you feel that your partner has stopped talking about you or even gone back to the way they used to be before they knew you, this could be a way to show that they don’t care about you as much as you’d like them to.
Usually, once people have gotten over someone, they go back to being normal and doing everyday things they did before they knew the other person.
14) They’re not pressuring you to commit
Another sign that your ex is waiting for you can be seen in their behavior.
Instead of pressuring you to commit to a relationship, they’re giving you space and time to find out what you want.
This could mean that they’re respecting your space and giving you the needed time to think about your decisions.
Even though they don’t have all the answers, they’re trying to figure things out as well so that both of you can have a chance at getting something real.
You’ll notice that they’re not desperate and trying to deceive you, however.
They’re just giving you the time you need to determine if you want to stay with them or if this is a relationship that’s worth your time.
7 things you should do if your ex is waiting for you
If you have recognized your ex’s behavior through these signs and are pretty sure that they’re still missing you and don’t want to move on from the relationship, there’s nothing to worry about.
You can feel secure in knowing that they might be at least thinking about you.
This is a great way for both of you to feel that there’s still hope for a winning relationship, and this could make the breakup even easier for both of you.
However, you might not be sure of what to do at this point.
So now, I’m going to tell you what you can do if your ex is waiting for you.
1) Give it a try if you still have feelings for them too
Even if you’re in a relationship or have been separated from your ex for a while, you might still be feeling confused by your emotions and the way that you feel.
This is normal.
The best thing to do for both of you is to give it a try – no matter how much time has passed since the relationship ended.
2) Do not let your pride get in the way of being happy
Yes, you might have heard me say this before.
But there’s a good reason that I’m repeating it here:
You need to let your pride go.
Even if your ex is on the move, waiting for you, and has been giving you space to figure things out, you can’t let your pride get in the way of being happy.
You can only be happy if you’re going to move on with your life.
And this is the only way you’ll feel really good again.
Once you’ve gotten over your pride, then you can begin thinking about finding your ex and re-sparking that fire that was once between the both of you.
3) Do not push for anything – be patient, give it time and be open-minded
In case your ex is waiting for you, there’s no need to rush things and force them to commit.
You’re in the driver’s seat.
But don’t force anything because this will only backfire on you and make you lose your power.
Instead, let it happen naturally.
Don’t push for a commitment or another date right away.
You’ll only get what you want if you give it time and are patient, and that means being open-minded.
Instead of pushing your ex, give them space to make it happen naturally. This will be the best way for both of you to feel better about the situation.
4) Be prepared for the future, in case he or she does not come back to you
I know this is a tough pill to swallow because it’s not what you want to hear, but I think it’s important that you know.
It’s possible that your relationship might not work out and you could actually start to feel more interested in other people.
Your ex might not feel the same way about you as you do about them.
This is something that both of you should be ready for.
So if this happens, it’ll be easier for the two of you and it’ll be clear to both of you that the relationship is dead and gone.
You don’t want to find yourself in a situation where your emotions are all over the place because you’re feeling this way.
5) Don’t be afraid to test your ex
You might be afraid to do this, but it’s worth it.
Assuming that you feel like your ex is waiting for you, then you should test them.
Don’t go overboard with it, but it’s good if you find out what they’re thinking and what they’re willing to do.
This will help both of you understand the situation better and make it easier for the two of you.
Try to see if your ex will go on a date with you. Or ask them out again.
Do whatever you can to test the waters. And if they do go out on another date, do not push for a commitment.
Let them see that you are happy with them and willing to give things another try if they find that they still want the relationship.
6) If your gut tells you that it’s not going to work out, then it most likely won’t
Your gut has a lot of truth in it!
And don’t be afraid to listen to it.
You might be feeling really confused and unsure of what you want, but that’s normal.
Just follow your heart and keep an open mind.
If you sense that the relationship isn’t going to work out with your ex, then there’s a good chance that you’re right.
You can’t force things or wish for them to change because this is not possible.
You need to be happy in your life, and you don’t want to stay in a relationship that isn’t good for you
And remember, don’t play games with your ex – this won’t make things easier for you. Just be honest with them and let them know what’s going on.
7) Keep it real with your friends who know about your relationship
If your friends or family members know about your relationship and break-up, then be honest with them.
Let them know how you’re feeling, but try to keep the mood positive.
You don’t want to be in a situation where you and your friends are sitting around talking about how bummed out you feel – it will only make things worse for both of you.
They can also give advice if you’re confused or don’t know what to do, or feel like the relationship with your ex is breaking down.
You can give them a call any time of the day – and let them know what’s going on with you and your ex.
Final thoughts
Hopefully, this article gave you some helpful signs that your ex is waiting for you.
Don’t be afraid to test the waters and see what they have to say.
If you don’t feel like they’re open and ready to start things again with you, then it’s okay to move on.
You don’t want to be in a situation where your emotions are all over the place because of your feelings towards them.
So be happy and start your life again with the person who will make you feel truly happy.
