10 signs your ex is trying to get over you (but isn’t making progress)

Are you still pining over your ex? Are they? The aftermath of a failed relationship can be painful, especially if you still love one another.

If you recently broke up with your partner, you might be wondering how they are coping.

Well, here are some signs that your ex is trying to get over you (but isn’t making progress).

1) They constantly talk about you

One of the signs that your ex is trying to get over you is when they talk about you a lot.

If you start noticing that they are constantly talking about your relationship, past experiences, and future hopes and dreams, it could be a sign that they are trying to work out their feelings.

It could also be a sign that they are trying to get over you and don’t really know how.

If the breakup was mutual, or you broke up because you weren’t a good fit, your ex will likely have fond memories that they want to share with you.

However, If the breakup was messy, or they still have strong feelings for you, they may be trying to process through those feelings.

Talking about “what ifs” can be a way to explore the path that wasn’t taken, and to try to make sense of the breakup.

Now: this sign might be hard to spot because you don’t always know when they will be talking about you with other people.

The only way to really find out is if you have mutual friends that they are hanging out with, or if they are showing a sign that they still have feelings for you.

But, if you start to notice that your ex is talking about you at all, it could be a sign that they are not over you, but trying.

2) They go out and party all the time

If your ex is out partying all the time, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

It can be difficult to process feelings, especially when those feelings are deep and painful.

When someone is in love (or trying to get over someone they love), they may feel confused, angry, sad, or any number of emotions.

Partying till all hours of the night is a great way to distract yourself from your feelings.

It can be used as a distraction from your emotions, and can also give you a false sense of confidence that everything is going to be okay.

If your ex is going out a lot, it might be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

You see, when you are trying to get over someone, you may feel very lonely.

And when you are lonely, it can be easy to start going out at night and meeting new people.

This is a great way to distract yourself from the pain that was caused by the breakup, but it can also lead to feelings of loneliness and depression.

So if your ex is out partying all the time, it could be a sign that they are trying to make themselves feel better.

However, given the fact that this type of distraction rarely works with getting over feelings, they are probably not succeeding.

3) They are sending you mixed signals

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If your ex is sending you mixed signals, it may be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

When someone is trying to get over someone they love, they may not know what they want.

They may not be sure how they feel, or if they even want to get back together with you.

If your ex is sending you mixed signals, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

If you broke up because you weren’t a good fit for each other, or because your ex wasn’t ready for a relationship, they may still have strong feelings for you, but not know what to do with them.

They may be trying to get clarity, and that can take time.

If your breakup was messy, and you broke up because you weren’t a good fit, your ex may be trying to get clarity and make sense of their feelings.

Now: the result of all that is that they will not know how to act, one day they might flirt with you, and the next day, they might ignore you.

These mixed signals are a sign that your ex is trying to get over you, but they can’t, at least not yet.

Now you might be wondering how you can interpret these mixed signals.

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4) They still have unresolved feelings about the breakup

If your ex still has unresolved feelings about the breakup, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

When someone has unresolved feelings about a past relationship, they may want to try to “get over” their ex, but they may just be prolonging the process.

When someone has strong feelings for someone they love, it is often because they “see” something that they want but can’t have.

A breakup can be a painful reminder that you don’t have what you want.

Sometimes, it is easier to just get over someone and move on, rather than resolving those feelings and fighting for what you want.

You see, having unresolved feelings such as anger about a breakup is a clear sign you aren’t over it yet.

Think about it: when you are over a breakup, you don’t care as much anymore, you aren’t angry and hurt anymore because you have healed.

So, if your ex is still worked up over it, that is a clear sign that their feelings haven’t healed yet.

That’s why you might notice they are still sending mixed messages, or they might be constantly complaining about the relationship, or they might try to get you back.

In that case, it is often up to fate to see whether or not you will get back together.

5) They want to keep in touch

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If your ex wants to keep in touch with you, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you but can’t.

When someone is trying to get over someone they love, they may want to keep tabs on that person.

They may want to know what you are up to, and how you are feeling.

They may want to know if you have moved on and if you are happy.

They may also want to know if you still love them.

Keeping tabs on someone can be a good way to distract yourself from your feelings. It can be a way to avoid dealing with your emotions.

You see, it might even happen that one day, your ex wants to keep in touch, and the next day they tell you they need space.

This is a clear indicator that they are trying to get over you but can’t, at least not yet.

They don’t know what it is they want or need right now, so they keep changing their minds.

If your ex wants to keep in touch, it could be a sign that they are still hurt over the breakup and trying to get over you.

6) They are suddenly posting a lot on social media

If your ex has been severely depressed since the breakup but suddenly starts posting a lot on social media, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

When someone is trying to get over a breakup, they may want to distract themselves from their emotions.

Distracting yourself can be a good way to avoid dealing with the feelings you have about the breakup and the feelings you have for your ex.

When someone is trying to get over a breakup, they may want to put themselves out there and be more social.

They may want to go out more often and meet new people, have more date nights, and do fun things like travel.

Now, if they suddenly start posting about how amazing their life is on social media, even though they never cared much about social media before, that can be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

They want to show you that they are doing great without you, which basically just proves that they aren’t over you, yet.

7) They act super happy

If your ex has been acting super happy lately, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

When someone is trying to get over someone they love, they may want to distract themselves from their feelings.

Distracting yourself can be a good way to avoid dealing with the feelings you have about the breakup and the feelings you have for your ex.

When someone is trying to get over a breakup, they may want to put themselves out there and be more social.

Now: when your ex pretends as though they are super happy, at first sight, you might even believe them.

But if you look deeper, you may find that they are just trying to get over you.

In reality, they are desperate and are trying their best to convince themselves and others that they are okay, but they aren’t.

In fact, they are everything but okay, they are just acting like they are, which just proves that they aren’t.

Think about it: anyone who is over a breakup in a healthy way will maybe be happy, but they will still be realistic and a bit sad about everything.

Pretending that this is not the case is just showing how desperate they are, and how much they want to get over you.

8) They still have some of your things

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If your ex still has some of your things, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

When someone is trying to get over someone they love, they may want to hold onto that person.

Some people may want to keep a piece of their ex around so that they can be close to them.

They may want to have a reminder of their ex with them so that they can be close to that person, even though the relationship is over.

They may want to hold onto something that reminds them of their ex so that they can have that person always with them.

But not just that, having your things can be a way for your ex to have an excuse to see you again.

Think about it: when you leave something behind, it can be because you are moving to a new place, or because you no longer want to have it.

But as long as your ex still has some of your things, they might be trying to get over you.

They may even still have some of your things because they want to keep having a reminder of the old days when their relationship was good.

They might want to keep that reminder around for themselves so that they can remember the good times with you.

And maybe, they will suddenly text you, asking if you want to pick up whatever it is you left there.

This is a sign that even though they’re trying to get over you, they can’t.

9) They ask your friends or family about you

If your ex asks your friends or family about you, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

When someone is trying to get over someone they love, they may want to know how you are doing.

They may want to know if you’ve moved on and if you are happy.

They may want to know if you still love them.

Simply put, they may want closure.

When someone is trying to get over a breakup, they may want to know if you are happy.

They may want to know if you have moved on and if you are dating someone new.

The thing is, nobody asks your friends and family about you unless they are trying to get over you but are still hung up on you.

Think about it: Nobody cares enough to reach out to their ex’s friends and family, unless they still deeply care about them, right?

It’s truly a huge sign if they put that much effort into finding out how you feel.

Trust me, your ex is not over you. They might be trying, but they aren’t making much progress with that.

10) They drunk dial you

If your ex consistently drunk dials you, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

Drunk dialing is a classic sign that someone is trying to get over someone they love.

When someone is trying to get over someone they love, they likely have strong feelings of longing, sadness, and/or anxiety.

Drunk dialing can be a way to close that gap and momentarily give in to those feelings.

If your ex-partner drunk dials you, it could be a sign that they are trying to get over you by numbing their feelings.

It can also be a way to keep themselves caught up in the drama of the relationship, even though it is over.

If someone consistently drunk dials you, it can be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

You see, when you are drunk, your innermost feelings come to the surface. That is when you are at your most vulnerable.

If your ex-partner is drunkenly calling you, it can be a sign that they are trying to get over you.

It can be an intense way to feel the pain of a breakup and to feel close to someone they used to love.

However, it can also be very confusing and painful.

Do they still care?

Now you’ve learned all the signs that your ex is not over you, it’s time to decide what you’re going to do about it.

If you’re ready to cut things off for good, use these signs to help you understand why your ex is still hanging on to you.

I hope this post helped you and gave you some good advice about how to handle your ex after a breakup.

But if you really want to get your ex back, you’re going to need a bit of help.

And the best person to turn to is Brad Browning.

No matter how ugly the breakup was, how hurtful the arguments were, he’s developed a couple of unique techniques to not only get your ex back but to keep them for good.

So, if you’re tired of missing your ex and want to start afresh with them, I’d highly recommend checking out his incredible advice.

Here’s the link to his free video once again.

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Anna Scheucher

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