15 definite signs your crush doesn’t like you (and what to do about it)

If it feels like your crush is sending you mixed signals, then that’s probably because they are.

In this article, we’ll go over 15 definite signs your crush doesn’t like you and how to turn things around if they do.

Some of the reasons may be obvious, while some others might not be so apparent.

But either way, once you know the reason why your crush isn’t into you, you’ll have a better idea of where to go from there.

So let’s dive in

1) “It’s just not a good time right now.”

This is a tell-tale sign your crush doesn’t like you, and it’s not exactly unexpected either.

After all, when someone isn’t into you and they’re texting or talking with you, they’ll often try to avoid the situation rather than face it – which is what happens when they make up excuses to avoid hanging out or doing something with you.

Sometimes this excuse can be pretty convincing too (“I have so much homework!”) but the fact that your crush doesn’t want to be around you is still pretty obvious here.

2) “I’m just not feeling it right now.”

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You’ll soon learn that a lot of signs your crush doesn’t like you are ones that are used to avoid having to be upfront about the situation.

This is one of those, since it’s pretty vague and hard to tell where things go from there.

If they’re not sure about their feelings for you, then this can also be an excuse to make up and will probably be the beginning of their attempts to push you away.

Note that this excuse will almost always come after they’ve tried showing interest in the past but were unsuccessful.

If there wasn’t any sort of rejection happening earlier on, your crush probably wouldn’t even say anything here at all.

The best thing here is just move on and try someone else – who knows? Maybe they’ll be into you more!

3) They don’t show any interest in your life

Pay attention!

One of the first things you should notice if your crush is interested in you is that they get excited to hear about your life, whether it’s a story from work or something funny that happened with a friend.

When people are into you, they’ll want to know more and learn more about you, which means they’ll ask questions and be interested in what you’re into.

But when people don’t feel the same way and they hang out with you anyway, they’ll often try to avoid any possible questions that would make them talk about themselves more – which often means not showing much interest in your life.

If they’re using lots of excuses and acting aloof around you, then this probably isn’t the case – which means it’s time to move on.

4) They don’t act like a normal person in front of you

When someone is interested in you, they tend to be more themselves in front of you.

But when they like someone else, or are just not into you and have to deal with your presence, they often put on a persona.

This persona can be a super nice guy who’s always there to help, or the “cool girl” who isn’t afraid to speak her mind.

But the fact is, if your crush has feelings for you, they will trust you and be more comfortable to show the real person they are to you.

If they’re putting on a front, then chances are they’re not into you and are trying to avoid having to be themselves around you.

5) They’re always hanging out with their other friends instead of you

If your crush keeps hanging out with their other friends and you’re always the one left behind, then that’s a definite sign they don’t like you.

After all, it’s pretty rare for people to be interested in another person so much that they actively avoid spending time with them.

This is because if they were into you, they’d want to spend as much time with you as possible so that they could see if there’s anything there or not.

6) They told you that they didn’t like something about you

This is one of the most obvious signs that your crush doesn’t like you.

After all, when someone knows that they don’t like something about you, they’ll usually try to avoid being around you as much as possible so that they don’t have to make up an excuse for disliking one of your qualities.

It’s also because whenever someone does this after a failing relationship or breakup, it’s got something to do with their self-esteem and doesn’t want to make another mistake.

And you should remember, it’s not your fault at all!

7) They keep trying to play it off like they’re “just friends.”

The thing is, if you’re crushing on someone, they probably know it by now.

So if your crush doesn’t like you and they’re trying to play it off like they’re “just friends”, then that’s just an excuse because they simply don’t want to tell you the truth.

What do they say? “We’re just friends” or “I think we should just remain close ones”?

The same can be said for when your crush starts telling people that you’re not their type.

What can you do? Move on, obviously!

What happened before doesn’t matter – the most important thing is to simply not get hung up on one person who doesn’t like you.

8) They avoid you

This is pretty similar to the 7th sign, obviously.

You probably already know what it’s like to have a crush and try to get their attention.

When someone likes you, they’ll often try to get your attention by flirting with you or asking you out – but if they’re not into you, then they’ll usually just ignore you or avoid talking to you altogether.

If your crush seems hesitant about hanging out with you or tries avoiding talking about things that will make them more interested in getting closer with you – then that’s a sign that they don’t like you and it’s time to move on.

9) They’re always canceling on you

Another big sign your crush doesn’t like you is if they’re always canceling on you.

When your crush cancels on you, it’s probably because they’re just not trying to see you – but they don’t want to hurt your feelings by saying that.

It’s understandable why your crush doesn’t want to meet up with you – when you’re not “that into” someone, it can be a bother and not very fun to have to hang out with them anyway.

When your crush doesn’t want to hang out with you, this is usually because they don’t like you.

10) They give you one word answers when you talk to them

If you’re trying to make conversation with your crush, but they’re only giving you one word answers, it could be because they don’t have anything in common with you.

But it could also be because they don’t have feelings for you.

If your crush is being really short with you, it might be because they don’t care about you enough to engage in a real conversation with you.

That would make more sense, right?

11) They only talk to you when they need something from you

When someone is into you, they’ll take an interest in what’s going on in your life – and then maybe ask how they can help make things better for yourself or show that they care.

But when someone doesn’t feel the same way, they’ll often try to avoid talking about you on their own and will only ask for things from you.

I’ve experienced this before.

My crush would never contact me first unless he had something to ask me to help.

He would ask about my days, about my classes,  then would swoop in with “by the way, can you do me a favor…”

At first, I was really happy because he would ask me to help. I feel like a very special girl that my crush thinks of when he needs help.

But then, after a few times, I realized that he just wanted something from me. And if I couldn’t support him, he would just ghost me out.

Don’t get me wrong! I’m not saying that you should never help your crush.

It’s fine to do something for them sometimes, but if it’s often, and they don’t look at you with the same light when they talk to you – it could mean that they just want something from you because they’re not into you.

12) They never compliment your ideas, thoughts, or style

When someone likes you, they’re usually pretty supportive of the things that you say and do.

And when someone isn’t into you, then they won’t be as eager to support what you have to say.

Think about it – when your crush isn’t into you, would they be as excited about going on a trip or adventure that you want to go on with them?

Probably not. And even if they did attempt to go with you, there wouldn’t be any real enthusiasm behind it.

So while they may not actually say it out loud, their lack of enthusiasm should be an obvious sign that your crush doesn’t like you.

13) They never reply to your texts, in person conversation, or on your social media

The same applies here – you’re going to want to move on if they’re not into you because their lack of attentiveness is a clear sign that they don’t like you.

When someone doesn’t want to spend any time or energy with you and there’s no real explanation for why, it’s pretty obvious that this is something that has gone on for a while now.

Again, this shows a lack of interest from the other person from the moment it started – so there’s no reason for them to be trying to “fix” things here and there.

14) They avoid talking about you with other people

When your crush isn’t enthusiastic enough to talk about you with other people that they’re close to, then again it’s pretty obvious that they don’t like you.

And if they really did like you, then they’d definitely be talking with other people about you.

But if not, then there’s no reason for them to be hiding or ignoring their true feelings when it comes to spending time with friends and family members who know them well.

15) They ignore you when you try to talk with them

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This is another pretty clear sign that your crush doesn’t like you – and a lot of people don’t realize that this is a “big deal”.

It’s different than avoiding talking to someone or making up an excuse to get out of hanging out with them.

But when they just straight up avoid looking at you or replying back, it’s like they’re trying to pretend you’re not even there most of the time.

And if it’s the other way around – where they’re looking directly at you and ignoring the fact that this isn’t a healthy relationship anymore – then again, it shows disinterest on their part.

What can you do about it?

First of all, you need to accept that your crush doesn’t like you.

It’s easy to try and deny the obvious or think that there’s no way it could’ve been this way all along.

But if none of these signs were obvious to you before, then it’s no surprise that you’ve been ignoring what’s happening to your relationship with your crush.

The best thing to do is just give up on them – move on from them completely, and find someone else who will actually appreciate you as a person.

I recommend some tips to help you move on from your crush if they don’t like you, but they’re more relevant to you than they are to them.

1) Get over the fact that your crush doesn’t like you

You don’t really know what’s going through their mind when it comes to liking you or not.

A lot of times, people can be completely oblivious to the fact that they’re not being seen as a romantic interest by someone else.

But if your crush isn’t being subtle about this for some reason, then it might be time for you to give up.

If they’re clearly not into you, then there’s no use in trying to fight that with all of your might – because there’s just no way that they will like you back under these circumstances.

2) Move on

This is the most important tip of all – but also one of the hardest to do.

It’s hard because you might feel like you need to fix your relationship with them, or that they’re your “type” and you shouldn’t give up so easily.

But if they don’t want to be with you, then it’s not going to change no matter what you do or say.

And even if you try to make it work – chances are that there will still be some residual damage left behind because of their lack of affection for you in the first place.

But even if you can’t go on with them, then you still have the choice to move on with your life.

Don’t let yourself get picked up in their messy feelings and cycles of their emotions (if so), but realize that this relationship is definitely over.

So don’t waste anymore time wasting it away sitting in front of your phone waiting for them to call – or waiting for them to like you again.

3) Meet new people that are more compatible with you

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This might be one of the most difficult suggestions I have to offer, but it’s true that you need someone who will appreciate and love you for who you really are.

And sometimes, that’s not the people who are already in your life.

You need to be around people who will show you the respect you deserve, and who actually like spending time with you when they don’t have to.

It’s time for you to rise above this and find a compatible partner in life – someone who could truly show you their love the way you deserve.

4) Look to the future, not the past

Don’t spend time wondering why your crush doesn’t like you or what should’ve been done differently and why they can’t “see it” that you’re perfect for them.

You’re moving forward – so figuring out what happened in the past isn’t going to help your outlook on life in the future at all.

It’s better to focus on how you can make yourself a better person, who is more appealing and worthy of love than someone who doesn’t want to get married to you.

So learn from this situation, and don’t waste another minute being stressed about a relationship that’s clearly over and done with.

You’ll thank yourself later.

5) Live your life to the fullest and focus on doing things that make you happy

Learning how to be less stressed is a really important thing to learn in one’s lifetime – because stress is just not natural, and it doesn’t serve a purpose.

So the best way to conquer stress is by learning how to be less stressed, which will ultimately make you more calm, balanced, and collected.

Focusing on the things you want to do that you are passionate about, and not stressing yourself over a relationship that has already ended, your happiness will be at its peak.

So learn how to be less stressed, work on your priorities, and focus more on what makes you happy – because nobody else can truly fulfill your needs.

Remember I’ve mentioned the experience that I had to accept that my crush just used me? At that time I was really sad and I felt hopeless.

It was so bad that I didn’t feel like talking to anyone, because I just wanted to focus on myself.

I started to look for an answer of how to live my life to the fullest and stop spending time with a guy that isn’t worth my feelings.

That’s when I saw Life Journal, an incredible course created by teacher and life coach Jeanette Brown. I started to become my own life coach after attending this.

You know what, to achieve success in every area of your life, you need the tools to turn your dreams into reality. And I have collected my tools after taking the course.

She created this course to help us take control.

Everything I’ve learned stays with me for life.

And why am I introducing Life Journal to you? It’s because we, as different individuals, will receive and adjust our tools differently to fit our situations.

So say goodbye to wishful thinking and stagnant daydreaming. Now is the time to take action and create the lifestyle and relationships you know you deserve.

If this is the year you want to take back control over your life, check out Life Journal today.

Here’s the link again.


I hope this article has been able to help you better understand how to get over someone who doesn’t like you.

Keep in mind that if you find yourself in a situation like this with someone, the best thing to do is open up and talk to them about it.

Most people don’t intend on hurting someone in this way – so they would likely be more than willing to address the issue and help figure out what went wrong, if anything.

And if they don’t seem open to talking about it, then walk away knowing that there’s no future there for you anyways.

So make the best of what you have and move on with your life as best as you can.

There’s someone out there who truly loves you and appreciates all of the great things about you, so don’t waste any more time sitting around waiting for it to happen.

It’s time to go out, explore the world, and get out there and live life – not just sit around lamenting your lost love.

Good luck!

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Nguyet Yen Tran

Yen is a freelance writer and a researcher specializing in mental health, self-awareness, and psychology. Her hobby is studying human behavior throughout their reaction upon situations. Be sure to check out her other posts on our blog.

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