18 signs your boyfriend is also your ride or die

You and your boyfriend get along so well that you can’t help but wonder:

Is he also my ride or die?

When someone is your ride or die, they are there for you through thick and thin.

They are someone who pushes you to do your best at all times, and always keeps the mood light even when things get challenging.

They’re not just your friend or romantic partner – they’re also your rock.

So, do you want to find out if your boyfriend meets these criteria?

Here are 18 signs that he may also be your ride or die:

1) He takes your relationship seriously

When two people enter into a relationship, they both know – ideally – that it’s going to take a lot of work.

Relationships don’t just magically fall into place, after all, regardless of how compatible you two are.

So, if your boyfriend is taking things seriously and committing to making it work, then he may also be the kind of guy you think he is.

You see, it’s not easy to put effort into a relationship.

There are times when it may feel as if you’re working harder than your partner, and other times when you may feel as if your partner isn’t doing what they should be doing.

But when two people are committed to making a relationship work, they know that they have to compromise and perform their duties – or even exceed them.

When someone’s just in it for themselves, they are not as likely to perform such tasks. It takes a lot of work to maintain a relationship.

This is how you know if he’s also your ride or die.

2) He supports your goals and dreams

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Here’s another sign your boyfriend is also your ride or die: he supports your goals and dreams.

He’s the type of person who always encourages you to go after your goals, and he’s the type of person who helps you realize them.

What’s more, he doesn’t judge your dreams or goals. He doesn’t tell you that they’re too expensive or unrealistic.

Instead, he’s supportive and encouraging in all ways and is always there to help you when you need it most.

He doesn’t need to feel the same way about your goals and dreams, just as you don’t need to feel the same way about his.

What matters is that you’re supportive and encouraging of each other’s goals and dreams, whether they seem realistic or not.

3) He’s always there for you

If your boyfriend is always there for you, then he’s also your ride or die.

How so?

When you’re sick, sad, or just having a bad day, he’s there for you. He doesn’t care what time it is or if he has work in the morning, he will do whatever it takes to make you feel better.

A ride or die is the person you can trust and depend on whenever you need them the most. They are the person who cares about you and your well-being and will do anything to make you feel better.

In your case, your boyfriend doesn’t need to think that your reason for needing him is valid; he simply understands that you need him and that’s why he’s there for you no matter what.

4) He doesn’t judge you

A ride or die will never judge you.

So, in case your boyfriend doesn’t judge you, then chances are high that he’s more than just a boyfriend – he’s a keeper.

Be honest:

Does he listen to all your stories with curiosity?

Does he have negative feelings when you tell him about your past, present, or future?

If he only has positive and encouraging words for you, it means one thing: he’s your ride or die.

You see, judging someone is easy and it comes naturally to most people. But a ride or die won’t judge you because he loves you for who you are, and not for what you were or weren’t able to do in the past.

When two people love each other, they want nothing but the best for the other person. They support each other and help each other become better people – not judge them based on their tastes, experiences, and so on.

Now, answer this: do you judge him?

5) He accepts your past

A ride or die accepts your past, even if it’s not pretty.

So, if your boyfriend accepts your past and all of the bad decisions you made, then he’s also your ride or die.

He won’t try and change you or tell you that your past makes you who you are today.

He will only accept your past because he knows that you’ve learned from your mistakes and have become a better person because of them.

Again, this is done without judgment and without the intention of making you feel as if you’re wrong or not worthy of his approval just because of your past.

6) No matter what happens, he won’t bail on you

When things get tough, a ride or die boyfriend won’t bail on you.

In other words, if your boyfriend is also your ride or die, he will be the person who will be right beside you through thick and thin.

He won’t run away when you’re feeling low or defeated because he knows that’s when you need him the most. He knows that you can’t make it through life’s challenges alone, and he wants to support you in any way he can.

He won’t judge you; he won’t tell you that you’re wrong or stupid, and he won’t place blame on you. He will only help make things better when they’re worse.

7) He is honest with you

Honesty is a double-edged sword. No one likes being lied to, but no one likes hearing the truth whole either.

If your boyfriend is also your ride or die, then he will be honest with you. He won’t lie to you, nor will he sugarcoat things when they get tough.

Instead, he will tell you the truth regardless of what the outcome may be.

Honesty is essential in any relationship because a healthy relationship can’t survive without it. Without honesty, you and your partner can’t have a mutual understanding of each other.

That’s why he will most probably do his best to tell you the whole truth and give you his word, as well. He won’t lie when he wants something from you or use his words to manipulate you.

As you know, honesty is the foundation of any great relationship. If the two partners can be honest with each other, then they are able to build on that foundation and create an even stronger relationship.

8) You have a lot of fun together

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A ride or die boyfriend and girlfriend have a lot of fun together.

They enjoy their time together, whether it be hanging out, going on dates, or simply spending time with each other. They can never get sick of each other’s company, and they always want to continue making memories with each other.

In addition, they are always planning and working on new things to do together – whether it be a weekend getaway or a long road trip.

They know that togetherness isn’t about spending every minute of the day with each other.

Instead, it’s about enjoying each other’s company and having fun together whenever they can.

9) He treats you as his equal

Your boyfriend is also your ride or die if he treats you as his equal.

What does this really mean?

Being equal simply means that your boyfriend respects and values you for who you are and sees value in your opinions and ideas.

He doesn’t try to change you or convince you to act a certain way because of your gender or because he wants the “perfect girlfriend.”

He knows that you’re already perfect, just the way you are.

He recognizes your strengths and your weaknesses, and he doesn’t take advantage of your weaknesses.

In other words, he respects you and treats you as equal and not subordinate. He will never belittle or degrade you for the simple fact that you are a woman.

10) He makes time for you

A ride or die boyfriend always makes time for his girlfriend, even if it means putting his own needs and wants on hold for a moment in time.

Making sure your significant other is happy and satisfied is essential in any successful relationship. If you want to make sure that your relationship has a bright future, then it’s important to be there for each other.

Not only does this mean that you should make time for each other, but you should also be mindful of each other’s needs and wants.

If he’s also your ride or die, then he will make time for you, no matter how busy he is with work, school, hobbies, and so on.

He will make sure that your relationship is a priority for him.

11) He doesn’t make excuses

Another sign your boyfriend is also your ride or die? He doesn’t make excuses.

When he doesn’t answer your calls or texts, it’s because he has a good reason – not because he doesn’t love you.

He might be busy with school or work, but he will always make sure to let you know that you are still his number one priority.

And, he will always be upfront, honest, and straightforward about his intentions.

Can you relate?

If you can, then you know that your boyfriend is your ride or die.

He will never let you down when you need him, and he will only make decisions that are best for the two of you.

He will be honest with you, treat you as his equal, and respect you as a person.

12) He gets out of his comfort zone for you

Is your boyfriend also your ride or die?

If you want to find out, check out this sign: he gets out of his comfort zone for you.

Such a person will always try to be better for you because he loves and respects you. He wants your future together to be as amazing as possible, and he knows that being his better self is the only way he can achieve that goal.

Knowing this will reassure you that your boyfriend is someone worth holding onto – someone who is willing to go above and beyond for you.

He puts in the effort, even when it’s not always easy or convenient.

13) He makes you feel special

When your boyfriend is also your ride or die, he will make you feel special.

He will go to great lengths to make sure that you know exactly how much he cares about and loves you. He won’t even use words or text in order to show you how much he cares (even though it’s so hard not to).

Instead, he will show it through his actions and by doing things that show that he loves and respects you.

Some examples include…

  • He cooks your favorite foods.
  • He pays attention to everything you have to say and responds in ways that show that he cares about you.
  • He never speaks down to you, even if he has a good reason to do so.
  • He always has a smile on his face, even when it’s hard for him.

14) He doesn’t shy away from PDAs

PDA stands for public display of affection, and it’s when a couple shows their affection for each other in front of other people.

When your boyfriend is also your ride or die, he will be very open about PDAs.

He will show his feelings for you in many different ways, and he won’t be afraid to show off how much he cares about you – not even in public.

Some of these ways include…

  • He kisses and hugs you all the time.
  • He holds your hand in public.
  • He lets you know that he loves and appreciates you, even if other people are around.

15) Your love is strong and healthy, not toxic or codependent

There’s a difference between being in a loving relationship, and being in a toxic relationship. If your boyfriend is also your ride or die, then he will not be toxic to you – but he will love you unconditionally.

A toxic boyfriend is one who tries to control you, belittles you, and makes you feel like you’re helpless and incapable of making your own decisions. He will use love as an excuse for all of his negative behaviors – even if he doesn’t really love you.

On the other hand, a healthy boyfriend is someone who helps to build your confidence and does everything in their power to make sure that you’re happy.

This type of boyfriend has love and respect for you, and he tries to do everything in his power to make you feel loved.

16) He agrees to wear matching clothes with you

If your boyfriend is also your ride or die, he will wear matching clothes with you.

He will definitely wear matching clothes for special occasions, like at proms or on Valentine’s Day.

While this may sound silly to you, your boyfriend knows how important it is to you.

He understands that you want your relationship to be just as tangible and real as it is in your mind. And, he wants to show you that he is willing to go the extra mile (even if that means wearing matching clothes).

He likes to get silly with you.

17) He doesn’t ask you to change for him

Your boyfriend is also your ride or die if he allows you to grow and change on your own terms.

He won’t come to you and ask that you change for him because he knows that would be selfish on his part.

Instead, he will support you in all of your endeavors.

He will love you unconditionally, even if he isn’t 100% on board with everything you do.

18) He is happy to make future plans with you

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Is he also your ride or die?

If he’s making future plans with you, then it’s a good sign that the answer is yes.

He is open to future plans because he sees you as someone who he can build a life with. He wants to go on exciting adventures and experience new things with you.

If he’s always asking what the two of you can do in the future, then it’s a good sign that your relationship is moving in the right direction.

Are you also your boyfriend’s ride or die?

Now that you know if your boyfriend is also your ride or die, you should ask yourself if you are his.

Answer these questions:

  • Are you willing to do anything for him?
  • Do you have your boyfriend’s back no matter what?
  • Will you stick by him even when the going gets tough?
  • Would you protect him from anyone? Including yourself?
  • Would you stand up for him when he’s wronged?

If your answer to all of these questions is yes, then you are definitely also your boyfriend’s ride or die.

Bottom line

Your boyfriend is amazing, and he will always be there for you no matter what.

You, too, are amazing – and your boyfriend knows this. He knows that he found a person who is willing to fight for him, no matter what.

So, if he is also your ride or die, then you’ll know it. He will always show his love and appreciation for you in a way that is healthy; he won’t ever use love as an excuse to treat you poorly.

By the same token, if your boyfriend isn’t your ride or die – or a good boyfriend –  then you need to reevaluate your relationship.

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Daniela Duca Damian

I’m Daniela, a passionate writer with an academic background in journalism. My work is based on research and facts. In recent years I have focused on the study of interpersonal relationships, analyzing, and writing about aspects related to social connections, romantic relationships, but also personal development. My goal is to decipher the most confusing concepts so that anyone who is interested in living a better and fulfilled life can apply them. When I’m not writing, I challenge my friends with meaningful questions about life.

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