8 signs you used to enjoy being alone (but now crave company)

We all need a little me-time — and as an introvert, trust me, I get it.

And I know you do, too.

Think back to the time when you loved nothing more than spending quality time with…well, yourself.

Those times when you used to relish those quiet moments spent alone, wrapped in your own thoughts and ideas. A good book, a cozy chair and you were all set for the evening.

But things have changed.

Your once cherished solitude now feels like loneliness. The silence isn’t comforting anymore, it’s haunting.

If you’re feeling this way, you’re not alone.

Many of us have been there, questioning if our love for solitude is turning into something less healthy.

But hey, don’t beat yourself up about it. Recognizing this shift is the first step towards understanding yourself better. 

In fact, I myself who used to enjoy being alone all the time have also grown to hate it sometimes, especially when the silence gets a little too loud.

So if you have once enjoyed being alone — but now, not so much anymore — this article is for you.

Let’s begin, shall we?

1) You crave conversations

I remember when I could spend the entire weekend tucked away in my room, lost in my books or hobbies. The tranquility of being alone was all I needed.

But then, something shifted (aka the months-long quarantine during the pandemic).

Suddenly, the same silence that used to be my best friend started to feel deafening.

My room felt like a prison.

I found myself longing for conversations, for the exchange of ideas and thoughts.

I’d be in the middle of my favorite book and out of nowhere, I’d yearn to discuss it with someone, to hear their perspectives.

I used to enjoy it all, but because of quarantine, I realized I hated it when it was forced upon me. Being alone is not a choice anymore — it’s a necessity.

And when it became such, I found myself longing for company.

If you can relate, don’t worry — it’s perfectly normal, especially after the onset of the pandemic and quarantine. 

Now that we have the luxury of going outside safely, you can now cherish the company of other people outside without feeling afraid. 

2) You start to feel isolated

Being alone and feeling lonely are two very different things.

I used to visit cafes alone, relishing the quiet time with just my coffee and thoughts for company.

But one day, I sat there feeling strangely isolated. The same setting that once brought me peace now made me feel disconnected from the world around me.

If you’re starting to feel isolated during your alone time, it might be an indication that you no longer enjoy solitude as much as you used to.

3) You’re bored…a lot

Did you know the human brain is actually hardwired for social interaction?

It’s true. Our brains are designed to respond to social stimulation, and when that’s missing, we can often feel bored or restless.

So, if you’re finding that your alone time is often filled with feelings of restlessness or boredom, it could be a sign that you’re missing the stimulation that comes from being around others.

This isn’t to say that solitude can’t be stimulating, but our brains do crave variety and social interaction provides just that.

4) You miss the feeling of connection

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There’s something incredibly special about feeling connected to another person. It’s like being part of a bigger picture, a shared human experience that transcends our individual lives.

When we’re alone, sometimes we can forget that feeling. We lose sight of the common threads that weave us together, the shared laughter and tears, the mutual struggles and victories.

If you find yourself yearning for that sense of connection, longing to feel part of something larger than yourself, it could be a sign that your preference for solitude is waning. It’s a gentle reminder from your heart that we humans are, after all, social creatures.

5) Your alone time no longer feels refreshing

I recall a time when a few hours alone would recharge my batteries, leaving me energized and ready to face the world. My alone time was sacred, a sanctuary where I could reset and rejuvenate.

But then, it stopped working. I’d spend hours alone, yet I’d feel drained rather than refreshed. Instead of feeling like I was recharging, it felt like I was just passing time.

If your alone time isn’t providing the reset you once loved, it might be a sign that you no longer relish solitude as you used to. It’s okay to admit that your needs have changed; it’s simply part of being human.

6) You feel anxious or unsettled when alone

Remember the time when being alone meant peace and tranquility?

It was your haven from the chaos of the world, a safe space where you could unwind.

But if these periods of solitude stir up feelings of unease or anxiety now, it’s a clear sign that something has changed.

Anxiety often stems from our fears and insecurities, and being alone can sometimes amplify these feelings. It’s important to acknowledge these emotions and explore their roots.

What I’m trying to say is that it’s okay if you don’t enjoy being alone as much as you used to. Our needs constantly change and evolve.

You’re not any more or less of a person when you start craving the things you used to dislike — it makes you human, more than anything else.

7) You’re always looking for distractions

Do you remember when being alone used to mean diving deep into your thoughts and indulging in introspection?

Now, if you find yourself reaching for your phone or turning on the TV just to avoid the silence, it’s a sign that you’re not enjoying your alone time.

Being comfortable with our thoughts is a key aspect of enjoying solitude. If distractions have become your go-to during alone time, it might be worth exploring why.

8) Your mood is affected

If you notice a dip in your mood after spending time alone, it’s a strong indicator that you no longer find solitude enjoyable.

We are social beings, and lack of social interaction can sometimes lead to feelings of sadness or depression.

It’s important to listen to these emotional cues. They are signals from your mind and body telling you what they need.

Final thoughts

It’s perfectly okay to realize that you no longer enjoy being alone as much as you once did. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or that you’ve lost an integral part of yourself.

It simply means that you’re evolving, and that’s a good thing.

So, whether you continue to enjoy your solitude or find comfort in company, remember to do what feels right for you. After all, self-awareness and understanding are the first steps to leading a happier, more fulfilling life.

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Joyce Ann Isidro

Joyce is a writer who believes in the power of storytelling and changing lives by writing stories about love, relationships, and spirituality. A bookworm and art enthusiast, she considers herself a creative-at-heart who likes to satisfy her childish wonder through new hobbies and experiences.

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