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17 terrible signs you mean nothing to him (and what to do about it)

Are you dating a guy that you think doesn’t really care about you?

Perhaps you’ve been casually seeing him, or you’re in a relationship with him, and just get this nagging feeling that he doesn’t really care about you.

It sucks, but let’s be honest:

You need to know how this guy really feels you can decide to move forward with this guy, or you can decide to move on without him.

So let’s find out. Here are 17 signs you mean nothing to him. I hope for your sake you’re proven wrong.

17 Signs You Mean Nothing To Him

1) He never wants to be around you

In the beginning of a relationship, a guy will do everything in his power to spend time with you.

That is until he starts losing interest…

Then he gradually stops wanting to spend time with you, and it seems like he’s always busy.

It may seem like it’s only once in a while, but if you notice that he’s busy more often than not, then it may be a sign that he doesn’t want to hang out with you anymore.

2) He calls you when he’s bored

In the heights of a thriving relationship, it’s normal to want to hang out as much as possible.

Whenever he’s free, he’s hitting you up to see whether you want to go for a drink or a walk in the park.

But if he only calls you when he’s bored, it’s a sign that you’re just not on his mind.

He doesn’t like to spend time with you anymore, but if he does call you, it’s to fill his time because he has nothing better to do.

In other words, you’re a last resort option only because he’s bored.

3) He doesn’t share almost anything with you

If he’s truly into you, he’ll want to share EVERYTHING with you – the good and the bad – and he’ll be in touch as much as possible.

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But if he withholds information that’s important to him?

Then it’s a sign that he doesn’t care about you.

When we love someone, we want to share everything about ourselves with them. After all, all we want is to be accepted by someone we love so we are honest with them.

But if he doesn’t share personal information with you, or even personal photos of himself (or anything else), it may mean that you mean nothing to him.

4) He doesn’t feel protective over you

If he’s stopped looking out for you or having your back in tough times, it could be that he’s losing the connection and love he once had for you.

In short, he’s lost his inner hero. This is the part of every man that makes him want to protect and provide for their woman.

There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’. 

This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.

I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.

The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.

When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.

But how do you trigger this instinct in him?

The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.

If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.

He tells you everything you need to know about the hero instinct, including exactly how to trigger it in your man.

I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.

Here’s a link to his unique video again.

5) He doesn’t make an effort to keep his promises

When a man cares about someone, he cares about keeping his word.

So if your boyfriend isn’t keeping his promises, then it’s a sign that he doesn’t care about you anymore.

As an example, maybe he told you he will take you out for a special dinner on Wednesday. But when it comes to Wednesday, he’s told you that he’s too busy and he has other plans.

He obviously doesn’t care about you the way he should.

6) He forgets your birthday and other special occasions

Birthdays and special occasions are a big deal in any relationship, and a loving guy certainly knows that.

So the truth is:

If a guy never celebrates your birthday or other important days with you, then it’s because they mean nothing to him.

It shows you where his priorities are.

7) He’s always eager to get away from you and your friends

If he doesn’t want to hang out with you, want to spend time with your friends, or he feels like you’re over-fussy about just about everything… then it may be a sign that he doesn’t care about you.

Here’s the thing:

If a guy is around and wants to spend time with you, but avoids spending time with your friends and family, then it shows he doesn’t care enough to get to know those who YOU love.

Usually when we care about someone, we want to spend time with their friends and family. It doesn’t have to be all the time but we at least want to make a good impression on them.

But if he’s always eager to get away and avoid spending time with you and your family, then it may be a sign that he’s not as into you as he makes out he is.

8) He is never home when you are, or talks about how much he misses his friends and family

Does it feel like he’s accidentally-on-purpose avoiding you? Does he keep reminiscing about his single life before he met you?

If he’s withdrawing from the relationship, it’s not a good sign.

If he goes out with his friends a lot, and talks about how much he misses them and how much he loves spending time with them… then it may be a sign that you mean nothing to him.

It’s his way of subtly saying that he enjoys spending time with his friends more than you.

9) He gets angry at everything you do that he doesn’t like

When we genuinely like someone, we like to impress them and do things for them because we want them to like and accept us.

So if this guy, or your boyfriend, gets angry and upset with you for doing things that he doesn’t like, then it’s a sign that he doesn’t really respect or love you.

Here’s the thing:

When we love someone, we need to accept everything about them, even their bad points. Otherwise, we’re not really loving them.

10) He takes you way out of your comfort zone

There’s pushing someone out of their comfort zone for their own good, and then there’s being inconsiderate and deliberately making them feel uncomfortable.

If you’re experiencing the latter, it’s a good sign that he doesn’t really care about you as much as he should.

11) He doesn’t try to make you feel special or appreciated

Isn’t the whole point of being with someone to make them feel special and appreciated?

If he doesn’t do that for you, then it’s because you no longer matter to him. It’s his way of saying that you’re not special or important to him. He’s forgotten all the good things you do for him and he doesn’t care about you anymore.

It may be subtle, but if you pay attention to how he behaves, then it will become obvious to you.

But why is acting this way?

Could it be that he’s detaching from his own issues and projecting them onto you?

This relates back to what I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct

When a man is made to feel needed, wanted, and respected, he’s more likely to commit to you and let his guard down.

And it’s as simple as knowing the right things to say to trigger his hero instinct and make him into the man he’s always wanted to be.

All of that and more is revealed in this excellent free video by James Bauer. It’s absolutely worth checking out if you’re ready to take things to the next level with your man.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

While he might not be making you feel appreciated, it could be that he sorely lacks it in his own life, and he’s projecting these feelings onto you.

The tips you’ll learn about in the video won’t just help him – they’ll open his eyes to the woman standing in front of him, who is deserving of love and care as well.

12) He ignores your texts and calls regularly

In the beginning, he couldn’t resist texting and calling regularly. You’d spend hours on the phone, skipping sleep just to enjoy a few more minutes talking to each other.

But if that’s not the case anymore?

Then it’s a sign that you don’t mean much to him anymore. He doesn’t like spending time with you even though he pretends that all is well.

It means that he’s still in the relationship just because of your physical presence and not because of who you are. It shows how little he values you.

13) He only texts or calls when he needs something from you

Does he only reach out when he’s in need of a hand?

If he only texts or calls when he needs something from you, then it’s a sign that he’s using you. He likes to contact you just so that he can get what he wants from you. He’s not interested in your well-being at all.

And the worst part?

He’s not even trying to disguise it.

14) He looks at other women in front of you

This is a hot topic – some people don’t mind their partner checking someone else out. It’s human nature, after all. Even when we’re in love, we can still find other people attractive.

Others disagree – they say it’s disrespectful. They believe a man should only have eyes for his woman.

Wherever you fall on the spectrum, if he’s checking other women out constantly, it’s not a good sign.

Most of us can forgive the odd glance when a pretty woman walks past, but openly staring is a big no-no.

The worst part is:

It could signal that he no longer feels attracted to you and he’s looking for a new partner who can re-energize his interest in women.

15) He takes advantage of your good behavior

Have you noticed that he’s quick to benefit from your kindness, but does little in return?

Sometimes he may even throw your niceness back in your face, during an argument for example.

If he knows that you’re a good person who cares about others and is ready to help whenever needed, then he’ll use it against you if he doesn’t care about you.

This shows a blatant lack of respect.

But if he’s a good person who cares about your feelings or well-being, then he won’t take advantage of you no matter how much you do for him.

He’ll want to do things for you. He’ll want to show you how much he cares.

16) He talks about exes in front of you all the time

If your boyfriend, or the guy you like, still talks about his ex-girlfriend all the time, then it’s a sign that he values her more than you.

He cares about her more because she once loved him and gave him what he wanted from a relationship.

Whereas you, since he doesn’t care about you anymore, are no longer a priority.

It’s his way of saying that he doesn’t care about you and the relationship anymore.

17) He’s always happy when you mess up in some little way

If he genuinely loves and cares about you, your successes will feel like his successes, and your losses will hurt him as much as they hurt you.

But if he’s always happy when you mess up in some little way, then it’s a sign that he doesn’t care about you anymore.

And more than that?

He’s just not a nice person. Why would anyone celebrate the failures of others, especially those of his girlfriend?

If you genuinely like someone, you don’t want them to mess up. You’re cheering them on because you want them to succeed.

He doesn’t care about you…what next?

If the sinking feeling you’ve had recently has been confirmed by this article, firstly, let me say how tough this situation is.

It’s never nice to know that someone you care and love about doesn’t feel the same way.

But does it mean it’s over for good?

It can go either way.

If he’s simply not a nice guy, it’s best to cut your losses and move on. Clearly, he doesn’t respect you or care about you, and you deserve better.

But…for some men, it comes down to their own inner issues and actually has nothing to do with you.

So how can you rekindle the feelings he once had for you?

Well, I mentioned the unique concept of the hero instinct earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships. 

You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you. 

And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.

So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice. 

Click here to watch his excellent free video

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