15 terrible signs you mean nothing to him (and what to do about it)

Are you dating a guy that you think doesn’t really care about you?

Perhaps you’ve been casually seeing him, or you’re in a relationship with him, and just get this nagging feeling that he doesn’t really care about you.

It sucks, but let’s be honest:

You need to know how this guy really feels you can decide to move forward with this guy, or you can decide to move on without him.

So let’s find out. Here are 15 signs you mean nothing to him. I hope for your sake you’re proven wrong.

15 Signs You Mean Nothing To Him

1) He never wants to be around you

In the beginning of a relationship, a guy will do everything in his power to spend time with you.

That is until he starts losing interest…

Then he gradually stops wanting to spend time with you, and it seems like he’s always busy.

It may seem like it’s only once in a while, but if you notice that he’s busy more often than not, then it may be a sign that he doesn’t want to hang out with you anymore.

2) He calls you when he’s bored

In the heights of a thriving relationship, it’s normal to want to hang out as much as possible.

Whenever he’s free, he’s hitting you up to see whether you want to go for a drink or a walk in the park.

But if he only calls you when he’s bored, it’s a sign that you’re just not on his mind.

He doesn’t like to spend time with you anymore, but if he does call you, it’s to fill his time because he has nothing better to do.

In other words, you’re a last resort option only because he’s bored.

3) He doesn’t share almost anything with you

If he’s truly into you, he’ll want to share EVERYTHING with you – the good and the bad – and he’ll be in touch as much as possible.

But if he withholds information that’s important to him?

Then it’s a sign that he doesn’t care about you.

When we love someone, we want to share everything about ourselves with them. After all, all we want is to be accepted by someone we love so we are honest with them.

But if he doesn’t share personal information with you, or even personal photos of himself (or anything else), it may mean that you mean nothing to him.

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4) He doesn’t make an effort to keep his promises

When a man cares about someone, he cares about keeping his word.

So if your boyfriend isn’t keeping his promises, then it’s a sign that he doesn’t care about you anymore.

As an example, maybe he told you he will take you out for a special dinner on Wednesday. But when it comes to Wednesday, he’s told you that he’s too busy and he has other plans.

He obviously doesn’t care about you the way he should.

5) He forgets your birthday and other special occasions

Birthdays and special occasions are a big deal in any relationship, and a loving guy certainly knows that.

So the truth is:

If a guy never celebrates your birthday or other important days with you, then it’s because they mean nothing to him.

It shows you where his priorities are.

6) He’s always eager to get away from you and your friends

If he doesn’t want to hang out with you, want to spend time with your friends, or he feels like you’re over-fussy about just about everything… then it may be a sign that he doesn’t care about you.

Here’s the thing:

If a guy is around and wants to spend time with you, but avoids spending time with your friends and family, then it shows he doesn’t care enough to get to know those who YOU love.

Usually when we care about someone, we want to spend time with their friends and family. It doesn’t have to be all the time but we at least want to make a good impression on them.

But if he’s always eager to get away and avoid spending time with you and your family, then it may be a sign that he’s not as into you as he makes out he is.

7) He is never home when you are, or talks about how much he misses his friends and family

Does it feel like he’s accidentally-on-purpose avoiding you? Does he keep reminiscing about his single life before he met you?

If he’s withdrawing from the relationship, it’s not a good sign.

If he goes out with his friends a lot, and talks about how much he misses them and how much he loves spending time with them… then it may be a sign that you mean nothing to him.

It’s his way of subtly saying that he enjoys spending time with his friends more than you.

8) He gets angry at everything you do that he doesn’t like

When we genuinely like someone, we like to impress them and do things for them because we want them to like and accept us.

So if this guy, or your boyfriend, gets angry and upset with you for doing things that he doesn’t like, then it’s a sign that he doesn’t really respect or love you.

Here’s the thing:

When we love someone, we need to accept everything about them, even their bad points. Otherwise, we’re not really loving them.

9) He takes you way out of your comfort zone

There’s pushing someone out of their comfort zone for their own good, and then there’s being inconsiderate and deliberately making them feel uncomfortable.

If you’re experiencing the latter, it’s a good sign that he doesn’t really care about you as much as he should.

10) He ignores your texts and calls regularly

In the beginning, he couldn’t resist texting and calling regularly. You’d spend hours on the phone, skipping sleep just to enjoy a few more minutes talking to each other.

But if that’s not the case anymore?

Then it’s a sign that you don’t mean much to him anymore. He doesn’t like spending time with you even though he pretends that all is well.

It means that he’s still in the relationship just because of your physical presence and not because of who you are. It shows how little he values you.

11) He only texts or calls when he needs something from you

Does he only reach out when he’s in need of a hand?

If he only texts or calls when he needs something from you, then it’s a sign that he’s using you. He likes to contact you just so that he can get what he wants from you. He’s not interested in your well-being at all.

And the worst part?

He’s not even trying to disguise it.

12) He looks at other women in front of you

This is a hot topic – some people don’t mind their partner checking someone else out. It’s human nature, after all. Even when we’re in love, we can still find other people attractive.

Others disagree – they say it’s disrespectful. They believe a man should only have eyes for his woman.

Wherever you fall on the spectrum, if he’s checking other women out constantly, it’s not a good sign.

Most of us can forgive the odd glance when a pretty woman walks past, but openly staring is a big no-no.

The worst part is:

It could signal that he no longer feels attracted to you and he’s looking for a new partner who can re-energize his interest in women.

13) He takes advantage of your good behavior

Have you noticed that he’s quick to benefit from your kindness, but does little in return?

Sometimes he may even throw your niceness back in your face, during an argument for example.

If he knows that you’re a good person who cares about others and is ready to help whenever needed, then he’ll use it against you if he doesn’t care about you.

This shows a blatant lack of respect.

But if he’s a good person who cares about your feelings or well-being, then he won’t take advantage of you no matter how much you do for him.

He’ll want to do things for you. He’ll want to show you how much he cares.

14) He talks about exes in front of you all the time

If your boyfriend, or the guy you like, still talks about his ex-girlfriend all the time, then it’s a sign that he values her more than you.

He cares about her more because she once loved him and gave him what he wanted from a relationship.

Whereas you, since he doesn’t care about you anymore, are no longer a priority.

It’s his way of saying that he doesn’t care about you and the relationship anymore.

15) He’s always happy when you mess up in some little way

If he genuinely loves and cares about you, your successes will feel like his successes, and your losses will hurt him as much as they hurt you.

But if he’s always happy when you mess up in some little way, then it’s a sign that he doesn’t care about you anymore.

And more than that?

He’s just not a nice person. Why would anyone celebrate the failures of others, especially those of his girlfriend?

If you genuinely like someone, you don’t want them to mess up. You’re cheering them on because you want them to succeed.

He doesn’t care about you…what next?

If the feeling you’ve had recently has been confirmed by this article, I know what you’re going through. It’s hard to accept that someone you care about doesn’t care about you.

But, what if I told you there’s something you can do about this?

When I was in a similar situation, I watched this free video by relationship expert James Bauer. In it, he talks about the Hero Instinct, which is something that you can trigger in any man to make him yours.

At first, I thought it was useless, but then I got to a part of the video where he reveals numerous texts and phrases that any woman can use right away. 

As you might expect, I tried James Bauer’s advice to trigger the innate drives that would determine a guy to totally change his mind about me. And it worked!

So if you’re ready to make him care about you and commit to you, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice. 

Click here to watch his excellent free video

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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